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when ur friend gets mad at u for something and its not ur fault..would u ever apologize?...for me, when people are mad at me for something thats clearly not my fault, i get twice as mad as them for being soo stupid and i never make it up....i think alot of times, its stupid for friends to never speak to each other for such trivial thing but when u're not the one at fault, do u still try to make it up?..heres the story:
-i called my friend to eat dinner at the dining hall at 2 but she said she'll call me back later. Her classes ends at 4:30 so i was expecting a call at 5-6. After waiting for a while and still no response, i asked my other friend to go eat and we were done at 8. My friend who said was going to call me finally did at 8 but she didnt ask me to go eat. She just started yelling and getting really pissed off that i went to dinner w/o her and that we made a date for dinner. First of all, i would see how she would get mad if i was the one deciding the times, but she was and this happens w/ my friends all the time, whoever's available would go eat. But Im just pissed that she assumed we had a date but its only according to her schedule. And honestly, if she called me right after i finish eating, i would still go to the dining hall again because i've always done that w/ friends. I mean, we only go when she's hungry and what if i wasnt free, would she still get pissed. I assumed she forgot about it and it wasnt evene an appointment. Sorry for the long post, but when people are mad at me, i get even madder. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif) .....also, im thinking if she talk to me again, i dont even know if i should cuz it'll be like she's the one forgiving me...
-by the way...she only called me at 8 cuz our friends-the one i ate with told her that she just ate with me since they live in the same dorms...but if she hadnt, she prob. would never have called me...and since i dont curse, i get really really annoyed when people curse at me esp. for something so stupid...in all fairness, i think its a misunderstanding and im not stubborn, but thats just really out of hand...still kinda pissed but out of sight, out of mind....(IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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I agree on some of your points^^....the situation seems like, you are not at fault, your friend was the one that did not called you and tell you what's up...you shouldn't apologize to her, just clarify the situation you had and hopefully she will understand you^^.....sorry if I don't made myself clear^^
CHEER UP^^!
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She really shouldn't get mad over something petty like that. You did nothing wrong. You waited for her call, and she didn't give you one. She can't expect you to starve yourself when you're hungry. EESh
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thats relle weird..wut kinda friend expects u to starve for them . well i guess wut u shud consider here is how good of friends u are? and do you really WANT to make an effort to keep her a friend? if you do id just say im sorry about not keeping to our dinner date, but i hand't realized that i was committed to it after u didnt call or something, like an apology but not saying that ur sorry for sumthing u didnt do wrong and if u really dont care THAT much of her as a friend then i simply wouldnt' even bother myself with it u noe? =] but good luck! n hope everything works out~
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thanks for the replies..i feel alot more at ease...i dont think i'll talk to her unless she does but even so, i dont want it to seem like she forgave me for something that i didnt do wrong...i was just pissed cuz i didnt think it was all that serious and i swear that if she called me to eat right after i just ate, i would again because we havent hung out but i guess some people are just drama queens.
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not ur fault at all.
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she should be the one apologising
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if she or he means enough to you, sometimes you realize you have to be the bigger person because they are immature and lame...but you care enough so you say your at fault...thats ok...long as you can communicate and are willing to work with that...if they aren't willing to try...then screw it leave..
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I really hope you feel better soon.
I never apologize... I just leave the phone, place, and their face.
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nope..i dont say it most of the times.....sorry isnt part of my vocabs in my brain
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It's obviously not your fault, and yes, being tempormental myself, I would get VERYY mad and yell at her.
But it'd be VERY wise to be the 'Bigger' person and say sorry... =/ Because if she's mad over something SO stupid, then you're going to be AS stupid and be mad about the same thing? So I say it'd be wise to make up with her WITHOUT saying sorry -.-
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well, I think you probably should've waited longer or sent a message to her saying you were hungry and needed to eat. But yeah, she was overreacting big time.
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aw man i had friends like that...back in middle school (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
totally not your fault.
you should go tell her you need an apology from HER
and explain
say sorry that you didn`t wait and list what you are thinking
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I had an occurrence with a friend recently, and I ended up apologising for something that clearly wasnt my fault, because when I calmly pointed out that she was in the wrong, she started rambling sh.t and was completely unreasonable. So I just got frustrated and said sorry to shut her up. I knew I shouldnt though so the next time she started an argument, I suggested we made up but I didnt say sorry. If you value her friendship, that's what you should do. If she doesnt mean that much to you, and she continues being unreasonable then just ignore her.
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if you really value that friendship, just apologize even though you're not wrong. A fight or misunderstanding that last too long would greatly damage the friendship
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omfg! this just happened to me yesterday! my frd was mad at me and my other frds. its not even that big of a deal... i tried to talk to her, but she wouldnt listen, so i just gave her a sorry note... even tho i dont think i did anythin wrong -__-
shez still not talkin to any of us tho.... -__-
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if she or he means enough to you, sometimes you realize you have to be the bigger person because they are immature and lame...but you care enough so you say your at fault...thats ok...long as you can communicate and are willing to work with that...if they aren't willing to try...then screw it leave..
same, even though you think youre right, sometimes you gotta be the first person to apologize...
...tell her youre sorry and that you should have called her back to tell her that you gotta cancel cause youre already going to eat, or tell her that you should have waited for her.
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I'm a female myself so don't shoot me for sayin this but she might have had a bad spout of PMS. Look at it from her perspective - she really wanted to go to lunch with you but wasn't organised enough to sort it out properly, something came up and when she finally got in touch - she'd found out you'd gone. It's true shes being selfish and I don't think you should apologise because you will feel like dirt for compromising unfairly and she'll won't be satisfied.
So give her a big (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) and say aiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii next time we'll go together and I'll buy you a big fat cake.
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i don't really remember doing that. and if i ever did, it was probably just lip service.
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I'd never apologize if I didn't do anything wrong.
But sometimes I do it just to shut people up. =__=;;
