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haha..i was just wonderin..cuz i hav a mom like that and i just ignore it. lol i dun hav the guts to call the police.. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif)
does it happen to ne of u and how do u deal with it?
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If you call the police, they'll hate you for life.
Unless, if they start using weapons...
That's when you're supposed to call the police.
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i used to abuse myself because it hurt me
cut myself
burn myself, etc
now i don't think much of it anymore
i tell myself i will be out of the house in a year
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That's how I learned MY defense manuevers (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif)
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I use to be physically abuse by my dad, by sticks and get burned by fire. Teacher found out since I started going to school less and less, since I cut and when I do go to school, there were bruises on my arm. My teacher helped me by getting conseling and then some guy friend of mine help to talk to my dad since I ran away from home. If its verbally abuse, ignore it.. and try to talk to someone who can comfort you =)
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Yes, my dad was. And of course it affected me. To this day, I am not like any regular person. I'm more vulnerable, not as strong, and I'm not very optimistic.
And I have called the police on him, SEVERAL TIMES. But he doesn't hate me, anymore. Because he was almost close to dying this week, our relationship is very different. He is now speaking to me like I'm his daughter and not a stranger. But to be honest, I don't think we could ever patch up and make everything OK again. It'll take years for me to forgive and forget. Or maybe I'll never learn to forgive or forget.
How did I deal with it? My mom, siblings, aunt, uncles, cousins, friends. They were all there for me and I couldn't ask for anything more during difficult times with my dad.
But I never ignored it. Don't ignore it. Whether it be calling the police or telling someone close, don't ignore it. Because this could turn very tragic if someone doesn't know about it. My dad almost killed my family once with a knife. Even if it's just verbal abuse, it's as bad as physical abuse. It could totally affect the way you grow up. It may make you stronger, or like me, it may break you down. Talk to someone..
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My mom is like that.
But I just let it sink inside and don't say anything.
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They know I can overpower them. I stay quiet unless they really push it.
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well i tried reasoning many times, then it got abusive like hitting whatever. f*ck like i would stand up for that kinda crap from her? haha. so i called the cops and asked how i can contact a social worker, she's been nice to me ever since - what a suprise...
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Yes, my dad was. And of course it affected me. To this day, I am not like any regular person. I'm more vulnerable, not as strong, and I'm not very optimistic.
And I have called the police on him, SEVERAL TIMES. But he doesn't hate me, anymore. Because he was almost close to dying this week, our relationship is very different. He is now speaking to me like I'm his daughter and not a stranger. But to be honest, I don't think we could ever patch up and make everything OK again. It'll take years for me to forgive and forget. Or maybe I'll never learn to forgive or forget.
How did I deal with it? My mom, siblings, aunt, uncles, cousins, friends. They were all there for me and I couldn't ask for anything more during difficult times with my dad.
But I never ignored it. Don't ignore it. Whether it be calling the police or telling someone close, don't ignore it. Because this could turn very tragic if someone doesn't know about it. My dad almost killed my family once with a knife. Even if it's just verbal abuse, it's as bad as physical abuse. It could totally affect the way you grow up. It may make you stronger, or like me, it may break you down. Talk to someone..
Both; I'm an only child and even though we have a good life (financially), my dad used to throw chairs and knives at me. My mom has told me several times she shouldnt have made me. It used to really tear me up inside when I was younger but now that I'm older, I know I'm stronger because of it. It's not a very happy confidence but its more of a I know I can take on anything and beat it feeling I have.
To Fruit: I know it's hard, but don't let what your dad did to you affect how you live. You need to refuse to let it break you and take charge of your own emotions and life. I know you want to live well and happy, and the simple fact that you're living gives you that option. no matter how bad your childhood was, you can always change and improve your situation. Yesterday does not define today. You have complete control over your body and mind so don't ever let what happened in the past chain you from who you want to be or how you want to live right now.
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Both..
Now its just threats though.. I'm used to it if my mom beats me
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mainly verbally these days..
my mother tells me gosh! you have so much acne! drink more water! eat more vegetables! blah blah and she complains about my weight.
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Mom and dad yell at me. They don't hit. Like if it's THAT bad they'd just like smack my thigh or something. It doesn't hurt. But it get's REALLY annoying with the yelling at me for nothing important right, andthen that's how my tempormentalness started to root =.- And I just TOTALLY ignore it, or else I talk back. I TRY to make a good point instead of just yelling back because I'm pissed, but like it's like this:
If you make a good comeback, and a reaosnable point. Your parents'll still be MAD! They can't just go from BLEH to COOLING DOWN.
Makes me so mad =.-
i used to abuse myself because it hurt me
cut myself
burn myself, etc
now i don't think much of it anymore
i tell myself i will be out of the house in a year
I know people like that. My bff
But why do you guys do that? O.o My friend says she likes the pain, but I SERIOUSLY don't get ti =.-
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I heard that if you have an abusive parent, you are more likely to get a boyfriend that is abusive also...
??
I heard it in pyschology.
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I got buhl ba da (punished) by my mum before, but I deserved it. I admit my wrongs. My dad never hit me though.
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My mom used to physically abuse me.. It's kind of a Korean or Asian thing for the mom to hit your hands or the back of your legs with a stick.
But not anymore, of course. She stopped when I turned 12 years old. Thankfully. So painful.
Now, I just get yelled at for a couple hours.
Don't call the cops! They're abusing you out of love! Oh, the irony.
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Yes, I've been mentally,emotionally abused my whole life and I'm not just saying this to B1tch at my parents. I mean I think Asian parents in general have this problem more ( don't get me wrong I'm sure there are plenty of asian parents who DO have parenting skills) but this tends to be more common. Anyway they tell me I'm ugly, fat, useless everyday and treat me like a slave. It has greatly affected my life, I have very low self-esteem even when I try to tell myself that it isn't my fault it was just the way I was raised. I mean if anything goes wrong my parents literally take it out on me. It always is myfault. I guess thats why I am so submissive and dont' speak my mind but keep it all inside while it eats away and distroys me.
but enough of this rambling I mean yes it does greatly affect you and the person that you develope into unless you can later overcome it by taking in the views of the outside world and just being more open while trying to overcome the oppression.
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if they did, i'd have no respect for them.
haha, imagine having a child who has no respect for you?
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My parents yell a lot, and when they get REALLY angry, they sometimes hit me. But that's kind of asian culture right? =\
Ehh... I don't do anything about it cause it's probably my fault to begin with. But I'd probably shout / scream at them back.
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my dad says he'll break my arm or my leg or slap me. he says he can make my teeth fall out one day and the next day hes like all happy go lucky.
when i was younger i was hit like everyday. i was punished when i fell down. [i was very clumsy when i was little and i fell down like everyday]
now im just - who cares, i mean, my mom says he does that cause he loves me and wants the best for me. i dont know what to say to that.
i really just ignore them. i feel like im in jail on probation or something. its like, im not allowed to do anything, i cant just hang out with my friends. i can only go out with my family. i just try to go out with my sister. i cant hang out afterschool and all the things people my age are doing! i mean, dont fall into peer pressure and stuff. yes, i understand that. but im imprisoned in this stupid house. and i get so mad. but i keep it all in. just like how i keep all the stuff my dad says in. they BOTH imprison me. they say its for my safety and that its a dangerous world. i might get raped, killed, hit by a car. i dont know if thats abusive or not. but it just sucks.
^ well, that part doesnt really relate to the topic. sorry.
anywho. my parents verbally abuse me, mostly my dad. and if things get out of hand, i get hit. the end.
