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the girl is my friend
they've been going out for 1 year and 11 months, so basically next month april will be their 2 year anniversary.
last year there was a thing going on between her boyfriend and this one other girl. he told my friend that he liked her but wasn't so sure, but he knew that the other girl definately liked him. but all this choas was resolved after she had to move to a different country. so my friend and her boyfriend basically cleared that all up and things got better.
but this year he's doing something similar. he has this one friend and strangely kept on hanging out with her with a bunch of friends. but my friend thought that that was cool you know, since it's just hanging out with friends. but my friend started to be suspicious and then the day before valentine's day her boyfriend told her that he liked another girl, being his friend that he was being close with. he even told that one friend that but she said sorry but i dont like other people's boyfriends and just .. i guess you can say rejected him. of course my friend was very confused and shocked by this and didnt know what was going on, but after valentine's day i guess he was... like happy about the gift he got from her that he told her i'll give this a second chance. but still, he kept on hanging out with that one girl and than recently my friend called her and asked her bluntly do you like my boyfriend? and she said yes. now my friend knows that her boyfriend likes her and that other girl while both girls like him too.
recently he's been out at a camping trip and was suppose to be back today. but when my friend called him, he wouldn't pick up his phone, and so she's been kinda worried. so she called his house and one of his parents picked up the phone saying that he wasnt there and he left the house around 6 in the morning, which was kinda odd. than she called the other girl and she wouldnt pick up her phone either. so she called her house and she found out from that other girl's mom that she left her house around 6 in the morning too. now my friend is worrying if they are together and hoping that they didnt do anything you know... so yeah... right now she's just crying cause of this and all i told her is to try to remain calm and try to wait.
it's like a korean drama... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif) my friend is in love with him, and she believes and trusts him 100%, but from my point of view i think he's doing something wrong not just the first time but the second! she called me yesterday and today and keeps on asking me what should i do? i dont know what to do... and she's crying. it's really hard for me to listen cause she's a girl that's the tough one and she doesn't talk to people usually about her problems.
so basically i dont know what to say anymore. all the things i've tried is kinda working, but it's not in the same way.
i really need advice... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) for the first time i dont know what to say to a friend in trouble, and i feel terrible (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
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recently he's been out at a camping trip and was suppose to be back today. but when my friend called him, he wouldn't pick up his phone, and so she's been kinda worried. so she called his house and one of his parents picked up the phone saying that he wasnt there and he left the house around 6 in the morning, which was kinda odd. than she called the other girl and she wouldnt pick up her phone either. so she called her house and she found out from that other girl's mom that she left her house around 6 in the morning too. now my friend is worrying if they are together and hoping that they didnt do anything you know... so yeah... right now she's just crying cause of this and all i told her is to try to remain calm and try to wait.
it's like a korean drama... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif) my friend is in love with him, and she believes and trusts him 100%, but from my point of view i think he's doing something wrong not just the first time but the second! she called me yesterday and today and keeps on asking me what should i do? i dont know what to do... and she's crying. it's really hard for me to listen cause she's a girl that's the tough one and she doesn't talk to people usually about her problems.
so basically i dont know what to say anymore. all the things i've tried is kinda working, but it's not in the same way.
i really need advice... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) for the first time i dont know what to say to a friend in trouble, and i feel terrible (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
I don't think she trusts him completely if she's calling him and getting worried. I think her boyfriend has relationship issues. If she continues this relationship, she's going to be hurt over and over again by this guy. I think they should breakup, that seems like the best solution honestly.
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leave him . if he went out with her for a while and is constantly ...... hrm . telling her how hes having feelings for other girls. what a stupdi boy.
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he was... like happy about the gift he got from her that he told her i'll give this a second chance.
That shouldn't have been his choice at all or his place to say I'll give this another chance when obviously she's been the one that should've made that decision. Instead he's dragging her along for the ride.
He isn't commited, sure he's honest to an extent, but that doesn't change the fact that he is using her feelings to his advantage. For him its why should I leave someone that loves me, while I can do what I want w/someone else at the same time.
Leaving at 6am and not answering the mobile could be just a coincidence and sometimes you give someone the benefit of the doubt, but past actions dictate what they do and how they do it. It's a habit.
Honestly, your friend is better off cutting the relationship. It's unnessary drama in her life and nows a good a time as any since she'll probably go through the whole process again if her bf doesn't smarten up. Better off crying now than feeling a lot worse later down the road
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That shouldn't have been his choice at all or his place to say I'll give this another chance when obviously she's been the one that should've made that decision. Instead he's dragging her along for the ride.
He isn't commited, sure he's honest to an extent, but that doesn't change the fact that he is using her feelings to his advantage. For him its why should I leave someone that loves me, while I can do what I want w/someone else at the same time.
Leaving at 6am and not answering the mobile could be just a coincidence and sometimes you give someone the benefit of the doubt, but past actions dictate what they do and how they do it. It's a habit.
Honestly, your friend is better off cutting the relationship. It's unnessary drama in her life and nows a good a time as any since she'll probably go through the whole process again if her bf doesn't smarten up. Better off crying now than feeling a lot worse later down the road
^ I agree, he's acting suspicious as well.. leaving at 6am in the morning, isn't that pretty early? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
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so i've reached contact with him and he's apparently in wisconsin.
it's really bad cause i told her to start thinking life without him and she just wouldnt coorporate with that idea..
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That's how relationships go, sometimes you're naive and stubborn and tend to block out the truth only bc you don't want to accept it. Its a hard pill to swallow and she won't realize it until she actually puts some thought into it.
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That girl needs to dump his a.ss and move on
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OBVIOUSLY CHEATING! She needs to break up with him. I dont see why keep this drama continuing when her boyfriend is cheating on her and he already told her he liked another girl.
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That girl needs to dump his a.ss and move on
Exactly. He doesn't deserve her - your friend sits at home crying and he goes to Minnesota without telling her?
Pssht.
