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Situation:My guyfriend asked me to go to his prom only as friends.
Problem:I have a boyfriend, he gets a tad bit anal when other guys treat me like a 'lady'. he thinks all the guys like me, so he wouldn't be too fond of the idea, especially since my guyfriend is a sweet guy who treats all girls with respect and as if they were his gf. (not kissing, but holding doors, all that stuff, being a 'gentleman')
Stupid thing:My boyfriend didn't ask me to go to prom, becausae I don't think he wants to go to prom, and even if he did, the 2 proms would be on seperate days.
Me:I don't think it really matters, since i'm only going as friends, plus...i'm gone/going to 8 proms in my hs life, so i don't think much of it, that its just a formal dance. Finally, it's not like my bf's bringing me to his prom, and even if he were, it'd be on different days.
What should i do about this situation? Should i just go without telling? Should i tell him and still go if he says no? Guys, how would you feel, what would you do?
EDIT: i already asked him if he was going to his prom (we go to seperate schools) and he said he didn't really want to go. i asked him if he wanted to go with me, he still said, idk, i'll look into it. which leads down to him not wanting to go.
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dont go. and just ask your bf to go with you.
happy ending.
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go with ur bf...i dont like prom i'm rather stay home and sleep (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
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1. bf being anal is understandable, your his gf
2. still he should be a little more trusting
3. if you really wanna help out your friend and go, then do it, my motto has always been be selfish, do what makes you happy
4. if he isn't that understanding about your situation, that could cause problems in the future
5. why isn't he taking you to his prom???
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go with ur bf...i dont like prom i'm rather stay home and sleep (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
yee true. im going to go to prom. and im just stressing over with it. because of transportation, and after prom activitities issues.
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you should first ask your bf if he wants to go. if he says no, tell him you might go with someone else. then he might change his mind.
if you go without telling him, hed definately be pissed. but if he refused to go, dont let that stop you from having fun. your friend asked to go with you as FRIENDS, and your bf should trust you enough by now to let you go have fun too. dont let his mood ruin your night of fun. im sure he'd be a little angry at first, but pay extra attention to after the prom, or invite him to the afterprom party and spend that time with him!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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1. bf being anal is understandable, your his gf
2. still he should be a little more trusting
3. if you really wanna help out your friend and go, then do it, my motto has always been be selfish, do what makes you happy
4. if he isn't that understanding about your situation, that could cause problems in the future
5. why isn't he taking you to his prom???
1.yeah, my bf being anal is reasonable, but he shouldn't be able to tell me not to go, if hes not even taking me, atleast thats what i think
2.i understand that he is a little uneasy when it comes to me and other guys, cause for the past 6 months, people were always interfering, and trying to steal me away from him, even his own cousin and best friend, so he's hesitant
3. my friend really wants me to go with him, cause if i don't, he said he won't go, eventhough he has other girls that asked HIM, and id on't want him to not go becuase I'M not gonna go with HIM
4. Yeah
5. He's not taking me, because he's not even going himself, because he doesn't like going to prom, and also because i think it's cause he's a little short on money.
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talk it out with your boy & see what happens
hollar for dollar!
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It's your life, not his.
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Well, You should tell him, not telling him would be consider lying.. but thats just me. Imagine how he would feel if he found out later on... not pretty....
I would tell him, and if hes not cool with it, then I wouldn't go. I would ask him to go with me though.. or something. I mean, do you like your boyfriend going with another of his friends girls as a prom date?
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1.yeah, my bf being anal is reasonable, but he shouldn't be able to tell me not to go, if hes not even taking me, atleast thats what i think
2.i understand that he is a little uneasy when it comes to me and other guys, cause for the past 6 months, people were always interfering, and trying to steal me away from him, even his own cousin and best friend, so he's hesitant
3. my friend really wants me to go with him, cause if i don't, he said he won't go, eventhough he has other girls that asked HIM, and id on't want him to not go becuase I'M not gonna go with HIM
4. Yeah
5. He's not taking me, because he's not even going himself, because he doesn't like going to prom, and also because i think it's cause he's a little short on money.
1. i said understandable, not necessarily reasonable, he has the right to state his opinion, but unlitmately it's your choice to go or not
2. i think i read your post on that, but still if he can't trust you after going through all that and you still being with him, maybe he truly never will
3. personally friends are more important to me always, my friends have always stuck with me through think and thin, can't really say that about any of my exs
4. glad you agree
5. being short on cash is ok, but not going just cause he doesn't want to, that's not cool at all, prom is a precious memory you should want to have, especially with a bf, not just friends, well at least it was for me, i went to like 5 proms too, and the only one that really mattered was the one i went to with my ex...
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i say don't go with him... your dating someone and friends or not i'd still be jealous... and if your friend is such a gentalmen then he shouldn't have a problem finding someone other chick to go with him...
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Well, You should tell him, not telling him would be consider lying.. but thats just me. Imagine how he would feel if he found out later on... not pretty....
I would tell him, and if hes not cool with it, then I wouldn't go. I would ask him to go with me though.. or something. I mean, do you like your boyfriend going with another of his friends girls as a prom date?
i'm not the jealous type, so i wouldn't mind if he went with another girl, because i trust him to not do anything thats not right, he's a loyal guy, he would never cheat (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) but i guess i would be a little ticked
& thanks sc0604
and if your friend is such a gentalmen then he shouldn't have a problem finding someone other chick to go with him...
the thing is, he said he wouldn't go if i wasn't the one that went with him, because he's really comfortable around me, so if i don't go, he won't go, and i don't want him to miss something thats only once, jsut becuase of me.
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well since your bf doesn`t see going with you to prom as important or fun
he has no say if you want to go with your guy friend,
who obviously has no other motive than going with you as a friend
go have fun =)
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Maybe you should tell him, I want to go to prom with my friend. If you REALLY hate it, then I'll reconsider, but only if you abhor the idea.
Because he may dislike you going to prom with one of your guy friends, but does he despite it so much that he wouldn't be able to stand it?
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for the past 6 months, people were always interfering, and trying to steal me away from him, even his own cousin and best friend, so he's hesitant
I feel sorry for your bf... cuz that's gotta be painful.
my friend really wants me to go with him, cause if i don't, he said he won't go, eventhough he has other girls that asked HIM, and id on't want him to not go becuase I'M not gonna go with HIM
If I were you I wouldn't go. Why can't he go with someone else JEES. He has to choose the girl that has a boyfriend that doesn't want her to go to prom with another guy. What a little urgh... so childish. I mean it'd be different if no one asked him and he doesn't want to go by himself.
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I think you should tell your bf and go with your friend, but then... Would it be possible you give your friend false hope by going to the prom with him? Is it not possible he actually likes you but just hides his feelings?
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i can understand where ur bf is coming from but it's still not completely reasonable. however, i dont think u have to go with ur friend right? just go with ur bf and decline your friend's invitation unless it's a big thing for u to go with that guy friend of yours
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I think you should tell your bf and go with your friend, but then... Would it be possible you give your friend false hope by going to the prom with him? Is it not possible he actually likes you but just hides his feelings?
He use to like me, but he doesn't like me anymore. Or thats what he says, lol. But when he asked me last night, i told him that i'd think about it, but if i do agree to going with him, that it's nothing more than jsut friends, cause he knows i have a boyfriend, and his response was of course, only as friend, and nothing more, i know i know ____, don't worry
i can understand where ur bf is coming from but it's still not completely reasonable. however, i dont think u have to go with ur friend right? just go with ur bf and decline your friend's invitation unless it's a big thing for u to go with that guy friend of yours
see, most likely, my bf will not even want to go to prom. he says that if he does, he will definately ask me, but he probably won't go.
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you should first ask your bf if he wants to go. if he says no, tell him you might go with someone else. then he might change his mind.
if you go without telling him, hed definately be pissed. but if he refused to go, dont let that stop you from having fun. your friend asked to go with you as FRIENDS, and your bf should trust you enough by now to let you go have fun too. dont let his mood ruin your night of fun. im sure he'd be a little angry at first, but pay extra attention to after the prom, or invite him to the afterprom party and spend that time with him!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
I so agree with you. =) Your bf should be understanding and shouldn't be doubting you and stuff =/ And like what she said, don't let him not wanting to go and stuff ruin your happy day. ^^
