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Okay, fine. I misused the term 'played.' SORRY, SORRY. But you guys know what I mean, anyways, so just take it at face value, will ya. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
If you are going to say something stupid or nonchalant to this matter, then I kindly suggest that you leave. I take this matter very seriously, and I sincerely hope that you treat me with the same respect I will do unto you. Thank you.
The people who know me well know what I'm talking about. I'm a very friendly, humorous, crazy person who loves to have fun when it comes to hanging out with guys or girls, but I have a strict boundary when it comes to the opposite sex. I never initiate physical tendencies first, not even a cheek kiss and rarely do I give hugs unless I truly feel comfortable and know that they won't take it the wrong way. I also have this theory that I made to myself that I would never fall for a younger guy, because I would only consider them as a sibling. Well, guess what.
I fell.
For a guy a year younger than I am. Hard.
And I got PLAYED.
We're on the same volleyball team together, but I always knew that he was a player-sort. He was always constantly surrounded by girls, and I knew enough to stay away from him because I've been hurt way too many times by guys like him to know better. He told me that my serves were powerful and beautiful, and he rushed over to me to give me a high-five whenever he scored a goal, but I never took those seriously, just something that guys do, especially guys like him.
I thought it was a little wierd when I was busy walking down the hall, hurrying down to my next class, when I felt someone staring at me from across, so I turn, and I see him staring straight at me as he walked past. I never thought anything of it.
And then one day, when I was outside the hall waiting for a friend to come out of her class, he comes up to me, lightly touches my arm, and goes Hey! We just started talking, about what classes he had, how old he was, how he had my former teacher from two years ago, and he asked me what grade I was in. I wouldn't tell him, and after class he waited outside to tell me that he found out what grade I was in by asking his teacher.
The next day was my birthday. I was curious about his reaction, so I told him it was my birthday, and I asked for a hug. He gave me one, and afterwards he asked me where I lived, what church I attend, etc. AFter class, he was waiting outside with two Jolly Rancher candies for my birthday. And once, I ignored him while I was walkin down the same hallway that he was walking in twice. My friends told me he stared at me all the way. For the next two days, he called me outside of my classroom before lecture began in order to talk to me.
Volleyball practice had never been so fun after that, I admit.
I can't believe I'm saying this, but I fell for him. I thought he was sincere. Honestly. I was DEAD WRONG.
I decided to give him attention. I called him over, and I told him that he looked nice that day. (He really did) He said, thanks, you do , too. And that's where it got worse. I told him that a friend of mine thought he was hot, (which she really did), and when a group of five girls passed by and called out his name, I jokingly called him a ladies' man, with a girl hanging off of each arm.
Three compliments in one conversation. I am such an idiot.
He started avoiding me after that. He said hello to me as if it was a HUGE chore, and it was so unenthusiastic. He didn't call me outside of class to talk anymore, and I used to see him five times a day. I saw him once, if I was lucky. I knew immediately he was avoiding me.
You know what my problem was? I gave him too much attention. I boosted up his ego to a point where he didn't need me anymore. I thought if he truly liked me, he would appreciate it.
I dont know what to do. My friends tell me to play it cool, just make pretend nothing happened. That he's slowly taking me for granted.
And I was even contemplating about taking him to prom.
What an idiot I am.
Two cents, advice is appreciated. Just don't make it harsher than I already feel as of now, because clearly, I have definitely learned my lesson.
Yesterday, at volleyball practice, when his team and my team were versing each other, I failed to bump the ball back to the offense team and my teammates were yelling and groaning. He suddenly came up to the net, and gave me a smile, as if to say Aw, man.
WHATEVER. I'm not going to assume. Maybe he's having a bad day.
Or maybe I just need some serious ass. HAHAHA.
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So how did he play you if you guys weren't even going out
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sorry got to say this u didnt go out with him or sleep with him yet then how come u got played? just a crush nothing else...i think u need to know what played mean
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I would say you could use the word 'played' in this situation as well, even though she didn't go out with him, she at least had some feelings for him that were totally rejected as soon as she showed more interest in him when that's what it seemed like he was asking for.
You shouldn't take it too hard; I know it hurts your pride but just take it that you can and will be attracted to ALL KINDS of guys. Isn't it obvious that you would if they're nice and show enough interest in you that you would at least have some kind of ego boost yourself to reach out more to that guy thinking you're finally giving him what he's been asking for and he would feel good about it?
It's just a blow to your pride after all you've upheld for yourself as your personal standards, but maybe you should back off those a little more and just accept what comes and goes and not try to be so controlling. I realized that never works out well at all---it always ends up going out of my control.
You'll be fine. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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wow. yeah i think you shouldn't have gotten so attached to him (if you really did) but you don't really need guys like that. thank god it wasn't something like, you really really liked him and then he ignored you after like weeks of talking, and flrting, etc.
well, i hope you're fine (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
you'll get over it quick.
i'm surprised the male species lasted for so long haha. but i do admit that there are more good guys than they are bad, or at lest the ones around me are.
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i don't think the reason why he lost interest was because you gave him attention. It must've been something else.
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Or maybe I just need some serious ass. HAHAHA.^ There you go, that's it.
I mean I don't think he's mean to you or anything.
You just gave him a lot of attention and maybe he felt uncomfortable about it.
It's all good. You should find someone OLDER than you though.
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i think there must have been another reason.
or maybe he is just a player.
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I would say you could use the word 'played' in this situation as well, even though she didn't go out with him, she at least had some feelings for him that were totally rejected as soon as she showed more interest in him when that's what it seemed like he was asking for.
You shouldn't take it too hard; I know it hurts your pride but just take it that you can and will be attracted to ALL KINDS of guys. Isn't it obvious that you would if they're nice and show enough interest in you that you would at least have some kind of ego boost yourself to reach out more to that guy thinking you're finally giving him what he's been asking for and he would feel good about it?
It's just a blow to your pride after all you've upheld for yourself as your personal standards, but maybe you should back off those a little more and just accept what comes and goes and not try to be so controlling. I realized that never works out well at all---it always ends up going out of my control.
You'll be fine. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
This is what I had in mind also. Be careful next time.
That guy think he's so good like shut the hek up. I would make face at him like you are a loser. He's younger than you, make it sound that you're just treating him like your little sister, and turn it around, so he won't think you ever have interest in him. He's younger than you so screw him, he can't do anything much.
When a guy younger than me, and have all the girls. I would never ever have a single interest in him, I would think he could be my friend and little bro and I'll be like Ahahha little kids these days what a pimp.
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You didn't go out with him or any sort so you didn't get played. You just had feelings for him cus of the things he said and done, he didn't tell you he liked you in a way, so he really didn't played you like you think he did.
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I would say you could use the word 'played' in this situation as well, even though she didn't go out with him, she at least had some feelings for him that were totally rejected as soon as she showed more interest in him when that's what it seemed like he was asking for.
You shouldn't take it too hard; I know it hurts your pride but just take it that you can and will be attracted to ALL KINDS of guys. Isn't it obvious that you would if they're nice and show enough interest in you that you would at least have some kind of ego boost yourself to reach out more to that guy thinking you're finally giving him what he's been asking for and he would feel good about it?
It's just a blow to your pride after all you've upheld for yourself as your personal standards, but maybe you should back off those a little more and just accept what comes and goes and not try to be so controlling. I realized that never works out well at all---it always ends up going out of my control.
You'll be fine. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Thank you, for taking the time to read a post as long as this and then replying with a sincere response. It helps a lot.
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You didn't go out with him or any sort so you didn't get played. You just had feelings for him cus of the things he said and done, he didn't tell you he liked you in a way, so he really didn't played you like you think he did.
Have you read the letters in red I posted?
I posted them first for a reason, sweetie. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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first of all, how old is this guy?
or how young is he?
young guys are like that, they move on from girl to girl easily.
they tend to take relationships less seriously, then girls tend to do.
(altho some ppl do take relationships more seriously than they should!)
maybe he was just being friendly with you for a while.
guys love older girls.
honestly you shouldn't take it so hard.
it was just chatting outside of class and what not
you could ask him why you don't see him anymore and see what he says.
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=___= Just forget about him, and think of him as a friend. Really, that's all you can do at this point. I don't mean to sound inconsiderate, but really, there's going to be all kinds of experiences in life, and you have to expect the unexpected and take whatever life throws at you. =] . I'm sorry you had to be hurt like that, but I just hope that doesn't happen to you again.
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i don't think the reason why he lost interest was because you gave him attention. It must've been something else.
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If he liked you then you can use played in this sense. But I don't think he liked you. Maybe a small interest, but that's all.
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Yes that's right. Younger guys are going to take over starting now. No more of this girls only go for older guys crap.
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he`s younger
get over it.
you`re supposed to be more mature than him =)
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Yea...what's so wrong w/a girl dating a younger guy?
I mean, guys date girls 10 years younger than them...that's even worse!
Anyways....though i don't know the pain you might be feeling right now, I hope you will remain strong and not make yourself suffer for falling for him.
You have every reason to fall for him...after all, he was a nice guy to you.
Who knows why he started avoiding you. Maybe when you said those compliments, he thought you were hinting to him that you didn't like him....cause, you were pretty much telling him he could get another girl.
I don't know his thoughts but, be strong.
PLUS, yea....it's not so good to have strict boundaries...but it's always good to have some. good luck!
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he`s younger
get over it.
you`re supposed to be more mature than him =)
Well, obviously girls aren't as mature as people believe them to be.
They're expected to be mature, which doesn't seem right.
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i think u weren't played, but juz take things slow. don't rush, or u might end up getting hurt.
