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i don't know where to start, but i want to place this somewhere, where nobody in my group would read this...
there is this one girl in my group, she's the attention grabber. usually guys fall for her easily because she's pretty and she's fun to be with. i've always believed that if i were to like someone in the group (which i don't) i would be extremely jealous of her.
...who knew she would be the one jealous of me?
my friend, she has a boyfriend who she've been with for a year and a half. the past month she had problems with him, and then, she took advantage of their break to mess with this other guy in the group (who likes her). everything went well and happy until my friend and her boyfriend made up. so the guy in the group who she used as a replacement was kicked to the kerb, and he was quite heartbroken.
things from here began to get messy. my friend started to act hostile towards the guy and started to say things like, he's crazy. he's annoying. he won't leave me alone. blah blah blah...when he really isn't doing anything to her. i didn't want to say anything because i didn't want to make it seem as if i were picking sides. well, since saturday, the whole group hung out, and the guy and i got closer (as friends) and he started to take more pictures of me on his digi, and started to talk to me more. on saturday i noticed my friend started to have this weird look of jealousy written over her face. but i knew she didn't want to do anything with him anymore so i brushed it off. yesterday, at a party, another friend of mine and i went to the swings to swing. the guy walked away from my friend and came down to swing with us and play on the monkey bars (hah how childish. i know). my friend then turned to my best friend and was like, oh. he likes her. i bet he likes her.
-- which he doesn't because he's still all hung up on her! and she's been just acting really cold towards me. i feel bad for doing nothing. am i not supposed to talk to him? i mean, he's is a friend and all, but i would never, ever like someone within my group. i don't want anything to happen between my friend and i because of some guy because i value our friendship too much. but then again, i feel annoyed because if feels as if i can't talk to him without her giving me evil looks. i really can't talk about it to her because she's going to deny it. my best friend told me to ignore it. but she makes me feel so guilty. arghh!
okay...i'm done ranting. thanks for reading (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
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she's jealous. just leave her be, and if she really starts acting up, she's not a good friend to begin with to let a guy come between a friendship.
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youre just paranoid because she is pretty and hot and alot of guys fall for her
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so your friend is not the same person as the attention grabber right?
the way you talk about the attention grabber sounds like you may be slightly jealous or envious of her. well that's what i'm getting from your description. oh yes, it's normal to be a little jealous or envious but not normal if it's extreme.
about your friend and the guy in the group, i'd just keep talking to him and if she has a problem than talk to her and work it out. hopefully she doesn't think that that guys still belongs to her (even tho she doesn't want him anymore) or that you have to pick sides because you are friends with both of them.
at first when you were talking about groups i thought you meant something like a project group and not group of friends. so yea...
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so your friend is not the same person as the attention grabber right?
the way you talk about the attention grabber sounds like you may be slightly jealous or envious of her. well that's what i'm getting from your description. oh yes, it's normal to be a little jealous or envious but not normal if it's extreme.
about your friend and the guy in the group, i'd just keep talking to him and if she has a problem than talk to her and work it out. hopefully she doesn't think that that guys still belongs to her (even tho she doesn't want him anymore) or that you have to pick sides because you are friends with both of them.
at first when you were talking about groups i thought you meant something like a project group and not group of friends. so yea...
no, she is the same person.
and, no, i'm not jealous of her...i don't have a reason to be yet. lol. i love her though 3
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if i were you i wouldn`t consider her as a friend
she has a bf for crying out loud she has no right to be jealous
i think you are the type of girl who likes to keep the peace
but if i were you i`d go and tell her what i think of her
crap ppl like that piss me off haha
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Wow.. the best thing I can say is.. that you should just tell your friend the truth. I think your friend is really jealous. I feel sorry for the guy she used.
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she's not a good person at all.
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(IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif) WOW what a girl! Don't feel guilty because of her =O=!! she has a GOD DAM boyfriend n she used your GUY FRIEND !! EVIL ==...
Oh so now she's jealous because your talking 2 the guy she used?
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so...i'm gonna summarize it, Friend1 had a boyfriend (Guy1), broke up, fooled around with Guy2, now, friend1 is back with guy1 but is jealous because guy2 is starting to get interested in you?
is that right? well, the thing is, you never showed us good evidence that friend1 is jealous of you (looks arent evidence, you cant usually know exactly whats going on in friend1's mind just by her facial expression), you said that she's over guy2 right? she's even said it straight up to guy2...
...something like i think your own jealousy of her (you can still be best friends with someone AND be jealous at the same time), is misguiding you SCREAMS out at me right now, but i think i'll be a bit nicer...
...you also didnt say how friend1 is being cold to you...besides that jealous look and evil looks...
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youre just paranoid because she is pretty and hot and alot of guys fall for her
Thats so wasn't needed. And judging from her picture, she is a very pretty girl.
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I know how you feel about having a pretty friend who all the guys fall for. My friend and I like the same guy but I'm afraid of her getting more closer to him because she is wayy prettier than me and guys cling to her like flies. -___-
That's beside the point but judging your position, be wary because jealousy can make people do crazy things so your friend could do something nasty if her jealousy gets out of hand. I think your friend is selfish and I wonder why guys always go for the pretty girls who just like to play the guys? Well good luck and all with your friend.
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She's evil. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif)
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Jealousy is a natural thing, bur I kind of
think she's taking it too far.
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Right: I think she's jealous too. Maybe she's not entirely over that other guy yet, and she had been a little attracted to him when her relationship got rocky with her bf, so that's why she took him on rebound. But she can't do anything about it because she's back with her bf. So seeing the both of you together makes her feel slightly jealous because she's still somewhat posessive?
Who knows--these are speculations. :X
Still, since she's your friend, you should talk to her about it, and make it clear how he feels and how you feel. Just to make sure she doesn't continue making assumptions like she has been.
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:T What sucks is that people can't control the fact that they have jealousy. She'll just have to get over it, afterall she does have a bf. Talk to her about what you think though because if you don't, she'll never realize, nor will she stop.
