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After you broke up with your S/O, why would you wanna keep tons and tons of your love notes at your xanga for everyone to see?
Wouldn't it interfere with the relationship with your new S/O? If you were the NEW S/O... would you like to see that?
I don't understand this action...what message you wanna say to your ex and to everyone by keeping your love notes to your EX?
My ex who doesnot want to talk/nor want to be friend with me or with my friends after breaking up till this very day, yet still keep all the love notes to me at the place where everyone can read it, it's very external...not internal part of the xanga ....if you know what i mean.
I swear, if you see the xanga, you'd think we're still a couple.
(my ex goes there everyday, by the way...i just know by seeing some of the new updated things)
I am lost and confused by this action.
I still care & want to be friends but my ex acts as if i am the enemy.
Yet the xanga says we're deeply in love to the world.
So frustrated!
By the way, I am the one who broke up with him (only because he hurted me so bad though).
Any logical explaination about his Xanga, why he wanna the world to believe we are still in love and everything, yet I feel he hates my guts? Please give your opinion.
Thank you in advance all.
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maybe ur ex isn't over you
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maybe ur ex isn't over you
^ agreed.
She still has strong feelings for you.
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^ agreed.
She still has strong feelings for you.
ms. rachellica and nanachan, thank you...
But why my ex acts with so much hatred toward me and never wants to talk with me after the break up, never.
I am thus so confused and sad because I really want to be friends at least. I'd never think my ex still have feeling for me.
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does ur ex update it? does he log in?.. cuz it could be because he hasn't logged on.. he doesnt' want to go back to the grim reminders of what you two once had..
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does ur ex update it? does he log in?.. cuz it could be because he hasn't logged on.. he doesnt' want to go back to the grim reminders of what you two once had..
yes. i know my ex goes there everyday....i know from all of the updated things.
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if thats the case.. then possibly he could still have feelings for you.. deep down inside he hates u with a passion but there's a side of you that he fell for thus never wanting to let go
also, he probably knows u check up on his xanga.. and he uses those entries/blogs indirectly to show you all the fun u two had and probably wants you to regret and feel bad for what happened.. i don't know your situation so my response is quite limited
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if thats the case.. then possibly he could still have feelings for you.. deep down inside he hates u with a passion but there's a side of you that he fell for thus never wanting to let go
thank you...
i just hope we could still be friends... but my ex doesnot want to be friend with me or with my friends any more. it really hurts....because i don't want us to be enemies like this. from my ex action (not talking with me ever again), i feel as if we're enemies but the xanga with all the love notes saying we're still in love. really frustrated!
thank you again.
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maybe those past objects help him remind him of the times that u guys were together and maybe that those memories make him happy. i know that if i was in the same insituation, i would keep those notes and stuff because it reminded me of times when i was happy when i was with that person. iono thats jus me.
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go
also, he probably knows u check up on his xanga.. and he uses those entries/blogs indirectly to show you all the fun u two had and probably wants you to regret and feel bad for what happened.. i don't know your situation so my response is quite limited
i feel really, really sad that i wanna cry, seeing all the love notes, you're so right.
thank you, you seem to know lots. you think my ex still loves me as people suggested?
maybe those past objects help him remind him of the times that u guys were together and maybe that those memories make him happy. i know that if i was in the same insituation, i would keep those notes and stuff because it reminded me of times when i was happy when i was with that person. iono thats jus me.
stevent, thanx...
the love notes are put where everyone can read it.
if my ex wanna keep it just for memories, why not block it so other people can't read it.
why it's put where the world can see/read and would think we're still in love...
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ur ex is definatley na over u.
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hes not over you, hes hurting.
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After you broke up with your S/O, why would you wanna keep tons and tons of your love notes at your xanga for everyone to see?
Wouldn't it interfere with the relationship with your new S/O? If you were the NEW S/O... would you like to see that?
I don't understand this action...what message you wanna say to your ex and to everyone by keeping your love notes to your EX?
My ex who doesnot want to talk/nor want to be friend with me or with my friends after breaking up till this very day, yet still keep all the love notes to me at the place where everyone can read it, it's very external...not internal part of the xanga ....if you know what i mean.
I swear, if you see the xanga, you'd think we're still a couple.
(my ex goes there everyday, by the way...i just know by seeing some of the new updated things)
I am lost and confused by this action.
I still care & want to be friends but my ex acts as if i am the enemy.
Yet the xanga says we're deeply in love to the world.
So frustrated!
Any logical explaination? Please.
Thank you in advance all.
Well, I used to be that kid that kept those love letters that a girl would write me 'cause I didn't want to let go of the past. As I grew older, I just tossed those things away. However, I think this situation is completely different. You'd think that after a guy breaks up with you, that he'd remove everything that had anything to do with you out of his life, but he's different. I'm going to make an assumption that you were together for a while since he did start to write love notes or what not about you. Sometimes, people need to learn to let go, but that doesn't mean to delete the past. You are a part of him that made him who he is today, but he seems to look at you differently now. He let go of your hand, but he didn't want to delete you from his memories. Maybe it's time that you let go too. It's hard for two people to break up and still be friends because either one would feel very uncomfortable. You don't have to forget him, you just need to let go off his hand and move forward. Maybe somewhere along the line, you'll both feel comfortable with each other again and become friends again. We'll have to let fate decide. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
And to comment on those that said he's not over you. That may be true, but then again, he may be completely over you. Sometimes trying to forget someone makes it even harder to forget them. By keeping his blogs about you there, he can feel more safe to move forward because he doesn't need to waste time on impossible effots of forgetting you. If he had deleted everything about you, then it'd show that he still had feelings because he was either angry or upset with you.
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another reason why he didn't delete his entries could be also because OUTSIDERS (friends/family whoever) can read and interpret for themselves that he's a good guy in the relationship.. meaning he's got nothing to hide.. he's not at fault to why u two turned out the way u did.. why u ask? because today's day and age.. word goes around..FAST.. he could be using this as his own way of making u feel guilty that he had done nothing wrong.. sorry , kind of hard to explain and stuff but i could be overanalyzing
also.. we all know the infamous don't dwell in the past quote which i find totally loophole'd.... sometimes its safe to tap into the past.. so you can learn from mistakes and capitalize on them.. the past dictates the way you will act in the future.. learn from them.. i suggest u not to forget, but to just move on.. he's old news.. its not the end of the world.. hang out with a bunch of friends.. trust me.. u'll forget about it during those times but at moments where your mind goes blank it'll drift off thinking about your ex.. which would be pointless but not inhuman.. do things that'll make you happy.. mingle with other folks.. its hard but try not to let relationships drag you down too much.. over time u'll feel better no doubt.
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if i were his new S/O, i'd feel unhappy seeing all that....because i'd think he must still love you.
there is a difference between keeping something for memories to yourself and advertising his love to you to the whole world.
i disagree about he does that only for keeping good memories.
if i were to keep something for memories, i'll keep somewhere more personal/private... no need to let the whole to see.
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I think he's too lazy to press the delete button...
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Either he's not over you and doesn't want to show it so in real life he's mean to you.
Or he's just too lazy to delete them.
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I think he's too lazy to press the delete button...
haha... maybe
that seems a lil weird
i know when my ex broke up with me
she delted everything...
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wait is he with someone right now? if not then have u ever considered the fact that he broke up with u may not b his choice but that of an external force, i.e. his parents? if this is so then that means that he still cares for u and that keeping those notes and such up, as how i interpret it, for him means like somehow keeping the relationship alive for him, that it's not over yet. iono, jus my thought.
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^
This reminds me.. many times people delete everything off their websites because they are embarassed. This guy appears to not be embarassed of being with you. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
