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i've known this guy for years now. in fact, we've grown to be great friends. i started to develop feelings for him some years ago. but because he is some years older than me, i decided to move on. he also has a serious relationship with somebody right now. the other day, i visited him again at his house. we talked and i realized that my feelings are starting to develop again for him. but i know that i should move on because he has a girlfriend and there's a wide age difference. but i just can't seem to stop thinking about him.. he flirts around with me.. and everytime he comes online, he IMs me right away.. but i never gets my hopes up.. because he has a girlfriend whom he has been with for some years.. we've talked the other day on the phone and he mentioned that he wants to get closer to me. Thinking that he was drunk or something, I asked him if he was. He quickly said he gotta go do something and hangs up the phone. i think he's mad at me. i dun't understand anything anymore..
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you know there is this girl i like. we are just friends. she has no interest in me, and I get this feeling that she never will.
life sucks. move on.
don't mean to be so cynical but....yeah. Life, can't always get what you want.
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yeah if hes in a relationship let it be cause you wouldnt want the same to happen to you right?
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even if you dont move on.
what are you gonna do?
try to mess up their relationship?
that'll just make YOU the bad person,no?
i say just move on.
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what are you gonna do?
try to mess up their relationship?
^^ In total agreement... It's better to keep your conscience clear and to move on rather than do/say something that might hurt their relationship. In the end, even that rift between them will cause problems in your resulting relationship with the guy. Hope that made sense...
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It's not that you can't stop thinking about him, it's that you don't want to. Just let him go. You'll live better that way. But if you wanted to play my way, then you should totally go after him and get him to break up with her.
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even if you dont move on.
what are you gonna do?
try to mess up their relationship?
that'll just mak YOU the bad person,no?
i say just move on.
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you moved on before, you could do it again.
It seems to be difficult now because you have just met him and talked to him. Let time pass by and you'll feel better
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Your hung on this guy becauseyou think I like THIS guy....there is only 1 of him in this whole world....while this may be true...doesn't mean there isn't better or just as good in a different way...move on and find that guy
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even if you dont move on.
what are you gonna do?
try to mess up their relationship?
that'll just mak YOU the bad person,no?
i say just move on.
Correct!
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thanks for replying, you guys. i know i should move on.. and i will =)
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you`re a good girl ^ ^
but yes you need to give up
don`t mess up someones relationship
if anything wait if they break up
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give up. everyone likes things he/she cannot attain. move on for everyones sake.
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its the same thing with me right now...he has a gf. but i still go and see him every week and talk to him and try to get closer to him. he knows i like him a lot too. but yah bcuz he has a gf so its kind of complicated, esp if he's dedicated too. it hurts a lot i know! but all we both can do is at least try to forget them and move on...unless u can stand it being friends with him and seeing him but not being able to do things with him like a gf/bf do. i dunno. the guy i like treats me like his lil sister. so the relationship is ok haha. we both still flirt. and i'm hoping for one day that him and his gf will break up ((IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) i know thats evil). but ohh well good luck to u and me.
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ok like my friend once told me: dun limit urself to the guys you kno to be only guys out there. there's many other guys out there.
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if your feelings for him go deeper, it'll only hurt you. so just try to control your own heart and move on.
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just let it go and hopefully you're recover^^
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thanks to everyone for their comments and sglolligirldd
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leave him be. he may be just friendly but since you like him you probably see more into it than he does. on the other hand if he really does flirt like crazy with you and gives you signals that he wants something from you while he's wiith someone than he definitely is not worth it. all in all he's with someone so just stay away. don't tempt him to becoming a cheater or yourself to become a homewrecker (not that i'm saying either one of you guys are that at all).
sorry if i made it sound like your the one tempting him to do things but no i'm not saying that. after rereading it kind of sounds like it but too lazy to change it.
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wait until he's out of the relationship.
don't do anything now... just let it go away like you did last time...
=)
he's probably just playing you and joking as a FRIEND ...since he's older....
