Question:
ok so this is my 1st topic in love & relationships. i usually know what i want and how to resolve things with my own life but this time.... i'm stuck.
so guys and girls, help me out!
my ideal guy: average looks, outgoing, sporty, smarter than me, taller than me and has a nice voice.
sounds picky?
well now im gonna sound conceited, coz the only reason i allow myself that list is because i qualify to return them. i know i sound stuck up but ill be honest: not that there aren't, but i have never met a guy smarter than me, sportier than me or that has a voice i like listening to.
ENTERS
X = ultimate hottie. hotter than any korean actor ive crazed over. sports addict. smart. voice to die for. great build and height.
BUT..... extremely quiet and doesnt talk to girls.
AND THEN
Y = gangster wannabe never gonnabe. crazy temper. obsessed with me and would definitely bash anybody that would date me.
i like X. i usually go for the outgoing guys but he somewhat attracts me with that quietness and sterness. he goes to my tutoring & i only see him once a week. he doesnt talk to anyone besides this one guy. i sometimes think he's gay but he is always staring at me whenever he thinks i dont know it. by now with any other guy i would have gotten his email but he's that stern i dont know how to even say hi to him. i dont think he'd reply with that personality of his. the thing is i like that hard on personality.
and im thinking i should stop myself b4 i go any crazier over X. reason: Y. i know Y has bashed up someone that had planned to ask me out after school the next day. there's no point in me liking X n all if i cant even like or date him without Y beating him up every day.
u ppl might say X might not even like me, but IF he did and we started, Y would cause us trouble. i dont want to start with X at all if it'd end up as a total failure.
question:
how to solve Y's obsession and X's function?
OR
how to get Y over me (he's liked me since yr 7 to now in yr 11)
and
how to loosen up X?
help me! thanks.
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ohh.. that`s a tough one...
well, what would Y hate if you did it, that he would stop liking you, but start seeing you as a friend? (i dont think that made sense).. hm... yeah. that`s my resolution for Y.
and now onto X. why dont you start the conversation with him? ^^? or would he just not even bother to talk..?
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i think hed talk back but how to start without making it obvious? there's always other ppl standing outside the classroom with us and they're all dead silent. i jus never get the chance to talk freely with him. my friends dont even know that i like him and my friends go to the same tutoring and they stick to me like glue.
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hahaha.. u sound so much like the dramaz i went through in high schoool!!!
but uhm... just befriend that X guy... u said he dont talk much.. so u would get sick of trying to talk to him if he doesnt open up to u!! and see what happenz from there.. u dont have to think that much ahead!! and if u dont like that Y guy. shouldnt be straight forward and tell it to his face so hed get over u???
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i think hed talk back but how to start without making it obvious? there's always other ppl standing outside the classroom with us and they're all dead silent. i jus never get the chance to talk freely with him. my friends dont even know that i like him and my friends go to the same tutoring and they stick to me like glue.
What a bunch of stiffs...teens shouldn't be silent!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif)
Who cares if they see? Just start it out like normal convo, the usual greetings. Might seem strange in this silent setting. But its definitely normal everyday fare...Tell your friends you have to go do something, walk over to him, smile!, be casual, and it should make him feel more comfortable.
And Y...just tell him how you feel. Don't be too mean about it, but be firm. Let him know that you're not going to take that crap and to find someone who'll receive his affections (is that the right word in his case?).
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Don't bother even thinking about Y. He's just a waste of your precious time and will be a lot of trouble. Gangsters = failed life.
Agreed w/Ayu, just try and talk to the guy. From the way you two react and respond to e/o, things'll eventually open up for the both of you if the interest is still there.
Don't worry about being obvious or look like you're beating around the bush.
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x i s loser. well not entirel but i dislike guys that are too afraid to approach girls. i'm a girl that likes confidents guys. y is an even bigger loser. how do you know he will beat up x? has he done it before? if so haven't you told him to just go beat off himself because obviously you're not gonna give him any lovin'. there is such an easy solution. if you are really that athletic tell y to fcuk off or you'll pound his butt into the ground and then just approach x.
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Well taint Y's image of you...tell him you did a porn with bukakae because you coudln't meet a nice man...and that sometimes you go to parties and sleep with random strangers you dont' know...they he won't think very much of you and possibly leave you alone...but with this guy sounds like he'd rape you, in which case keep some mase on you and learn some combat skills bring out your inner ninja
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confront Y, if he likes you he should respect you, and also if you like X just tell him, or try to start a conversation with him with a hey
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hahaha.. u sound so much like the dramaz i went through in high schoool!!!
but uhm... just befriend that X guy... u said he dont talk much.. so u would get sick of trying to talk to him if he doesnt open up to u!! and see what happenz from there.. u dont have to think that much ahead!! and if u dont like that Y guy. shouldnt be straight forward and tell it to his face so hed get over u???
i was very straight forward to him but he ignores it....
What a bunch of stiffs...teens shouldn't be silent!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif)
Who cares if they see? Just start it out like normal convo, the usual greetings. Might seem strange in this silent setting. But its definitely normal everyday fare...Tell your friends you have to go do something, walk over to him, smile!, be casual, and it should make him feel more comfortable.
And Y...just tell him how you feel. Don't be too mean about it, but be firm. Let him know that you're not going to take that crap and to find someone who'll receive his affections (is that the right word in his case?).
thanks for remindin me to be confident n not give a crap bout others. since wen did i start. *whacks self*
i've told Y i would never date him. he said 'really?' and stayed the same.
Don't bother even thinking about Y. He's just a waste of your precious time and will be a lot of trouble. Gangsters = failed life.
Agreed w/Ayu, just try and talk to the guy. From the way you two react and respond to e/o, things'll eventually open up for the both of you if the interest is still there.
Don't worry about being obvious or look like you're beating around the bush.
thanks!
x i s loser. well not entirel but i dislike guys that are too afraid to approach girls. i'm a girl that likes confidents guys. y is an even bigger loser. how do you know he will beat up x? has he done it before? if so haven't you told him to just go beat off himself because obviously you're not gonna give him any lovin'. there is such an easy solution. if you are really that athletic tell y to fcuk off or you'll pound his butt into the ground and then just approach x.
i've always liked the confident guys too. dont know what the hell it is about X that makes me like him though....
&& yeh... x has done it before. & i did beat him for it. & the ignorant b@stard jus laughd.
Well taint Y's image of you...tell him you did a porn with bukakae because you coudln't meet a nice man...and that sometimes you go to parties and sleep with random strangers you dont' know...they he won't think very much of you and possibly leave you alone...but with this guy sounds like he'd rape you, in which case keep some mase on you and learn some combat skills bring out your inner ninja
i used to do martial arts. Y is aggressive but hed never lay a finger on me. if he did... POW.
my friend tried telling him stuff but he doesnt listen.
confront Y, if he likes you he should respect you, and also if you like X just tell him, or try to start a conversation with him with a hey
confrontation with Y doesnt work. maybe should jus send him to mental hospital.
will try with X.
im lovin my replies! thanks.
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RESTRAINING ORDER
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thank GOD for god.
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thank GOD for god.
No, thank my mom.
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No, thank my mom.
No, i thanked you for yourself. the caps on 'GOD' was to emphasise not differentiate.
but if you want me to thank your mum, you can do it for me.
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i would just say get to know X maybe he does like you. like you enough to stand up to Y. i say get some other person to beat Y up. jk.
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go for X
tell Y to back off
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u cant stop someone from liking you
so umm maybe u should try to talk to x to see if he still like you, then you two should go out. Maybe y would get over you, if he still cause trouble. Tell him to stop butting in your life.
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hahaha.. u sound so much like the dramaz i went through in high schoool!!!
but uhm... just befriend that X guy... u said he dont talk much.. so u would get sick of trying to talk to him if he doesnt open up to u!! and see what happenz from there.. u dont have to think that much ahead!! and if u dont like that Y guy. shouldnt be straight forward and tell it to his face so hed get over u???
^ditto
if you dont like the Y guy,and he's causing trouble,just tell him to f_ck off~
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dude is going to jail if he tries to get at X for talking to you, just ignore Y
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woahhhhhh why is Y soo obsessed with you...are you even dating Y? tell him you just dont like him and to back off.
