it's making me feel so so hard . i love him . and maybe i think it's my fault .
he says he doesn't feel the connection anymore , but yesterday he told me he love me . he said he knew there is a problem between us but he said we can fix it . just now he tells me , there's no connection anymore . my heart felt very sour and i couldn't help but cry when i couldn't hold it back anymore . it wasn't a dramatic thing . just that my eyes turns red and water drip from them . he said we're still going to be friends . why did he say he love me yesterday?!!
a lot of times when a guy who seems interested in me , i feel it between us . i don't believe in true love and any of that when it comes to looking for a partner . my heart doesn't skip a beat on first sight - but after that someone has done something that make me unable to not love him .my standards aren't that high . i just want to find a person i can love who will love me . as long as i feel that person loves me even though my feelings don't develope in a single moment , it comes over time . i'm easily touched . when i'm touched i fall in love .
this is my second official relationship . the first one i got dumped . and now it happened again .
i can not deal with this anymore .why is it that everytime when i finally let my guard down and let myself love someone ... that person will not like me anymore . but in the beginning he treats me like a princess and then i fall into the same trap of believing again .
i am the type of girl who stays quiet . it's not that i don't approach guys it's that i'm afraid to . and i don't really care about anything else besides my family , my closest friends and all the people i care about or people who care about me so i'm introverted . although i'm quiet guys would approach me as if they're interested ... i don't understand because i'm not the flirting type . they would look at me like they see something no one else sees in me . that also makes me sick because i don't like it when people strip me with their eyes . like they can see my inside and how my mind works . then when i really trust this person to a point where i can tell him about me and share everything with him and care about him and give him whatever i can offer , sooner or later they lose the connection . (it was also why my first boyfriend dumped me .. he said he doesn't feel the connection anymore)
it always happens when i start trusting him .. when i start letting him know more about me ...
why is it?
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i've been in ur situation many times never had a successful relationship in most of my high school years. only lasted like 1-3 weeks and i got dumped and i felt exact way you did. but one day i met this wonderful girl and i'm still with her for 13+ months. it's not something ur doing wrong, it's nobody's fault really.
and you will get over it within due time, don't worry about that. how can you fix the problem? live and learn thru experience. don't expect everything to be perfect the first few times, cause chances are it probably won't. as you date more and more you'd pick up stuff and hopefully in the future find someone that is really compatible with you.
so just forget about the douschebag and move on...i'm sure it'll get better later on.
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i have hard time trustin guys too.
then when i do, something happens.
dude, it happens all the time.
but dats basically what happens in every relationship if you think about it.
honestly, it sounds cliche, but time heals all things.
i had a 1 yr relationship with a guy that treated me like a princess. then he'd kind of drift off & not talk to me. He felt too bad to break up with me so finally after a halt relationship of about 2 monthes.. he broke up with me online.. & i gave everything to him, if you know what i mean.
you should know dat its not 'love.'
so dont worry about guys because there will be plenty more.
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pain is love
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just move on. that is the best
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Well...it's better to not be with him...then to stay with him and continued to be lied to right?
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gahh.... that was so sad... =(
time will pass and you learn from your past, but dont become hard hearted from it.
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so is the guy that dumped you that same guy??
- how old are you?
- did you really like this guy? cause to me it seems like it was just lust
- just think that it's his loss
- when a guy says i love you don't let it get to your head
- actually no matter what a guy says, don't let it get to your head
- if the guy on your first topic is the same guy here, well screw him, he'll think back and realize how much of a moron he was
- in the beginning he treats you like a princess cause you guys first started going out, it's like the fire was lit, and as it goes on, some keep burning, and some just fade away
- if you just went out with him for a week, i'm pretty sure the only reason why he said all those sweet things is because he was going out with you, on the other hand, you said it cause you really meant it
- sometimes guys feel obligated to say i love you at the end of converstaions and stuff, cause they are going out with the girl..
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The thing about trust...you gotta ask yourself is it real? What is important to you...in a relationship it has to be the kind of trust where you can be real with each other and communicate....not the kind of trust where oh I gave him my pin number I know he won't steal from me...do you two trust each other to be completely real with each other...like even when its hard and you don't see eye to eye with something you talk about it and get mad about it but do it because you both know ifyou dont' take care of it now it'll only get worse...thing is you probably didn't have that kind of trust....and so you both held back and he more than you did...now your F*d try again dear
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index.php?showtopic=52860
so is the guy that dumped you that same guy??
- how old are you?
- did you really like this guy? cause to me it seems like it was just lust
- just think that it's his loss
- when a guy says i love you don't let it get to your head
- actually no matter what a guy says, don't let it get to your head
- if the guy on your first topic is the same guy here, well screw him, he'll think back and realize how much of a moron he was
- in the beginning he treats you like a princess cause you guys first started going out, it's like the fire was lit, and as it goes on, some keep burning, and some just fade away
- if you just went out with him for a week, i'm pretty sure the only reason why he said all those sweet things is because he was going out with you, on the other hand, you said it cause you really meant it
- sometimes guys feel obligated to say i love you at the end of converstaions and stuff, cause they are going out with the girl..
If you read the other topic, it says she's scared if the guy has feelings for her cause she's not ready cause she just got dumped by her ex which is the guy in this topic.
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sounds like your ex is not ready for commitment. When you're starting to give your trust to him, and he bolts, maybe he feels overwhelmed. It wasnt love if he lost the connection. In life, you'll go through a lot of breakups. Dont dwell on this too long. Find some gfs and forget about him.
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index.php?showtopic=52860
so is the guy that dumped you that same guy??
- how old are you?
- did you really like this guy? cause to me it seems like it was just lust
- just think that it's his loss
- when a guy says i love you don't let it get to your head
- actually no matter what a guy says, don't let it get to your head
- if the guy on your first topic is the same guy here, well screw him, he'll think back and realize how much of a moron he was
- in the beginning he treats you like a princess cause you guys first started going out, it's like the fire was lit, and as it goes on, some keep burning, and some just fade away
- if you just went out with him for a week, i'm pretty sure the only reason why he said all those sweet things is because he was going out with you, on the other hand, you said it cause you really meant it
- sometimes guys feel obligated to say i love you at the end of converstaions and stuff, cause they are going out with the girl..
stop asking people how old they are.
sometimes theres no need to point out the obvious, othertimes, it doesn't even matter.
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u know what just stop dating and worry about school and get it done...so u wont worry how they dump u or watsoever!!!
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index.php?showtopic=52860
so is the guy that dumped you that same guy??
- how old are you?
- did you really like this guy? cause to me it seems like it was just lust
- just think that it's his loss
- when a guy says i love you don't let it get to your head
- actually no matter what a guy says, don't let it get to your head
- if the guy on your first topic is the same guy here, well screw him, he'll think back and realize how much of a moron he was
- in the beginning he treats you like a princess cause you guys first started going out, it's like the fire was lit, and as it goes on, some keep burning, and some just fade away
- if you just went out with him for a week, i'm pretty sure the only reason why he said all those sweet things is because he was going out with you, on the other hand, you said it cause you really meant it
- sometimes guys feel obligated to say i love you at the end of converstaions and stuff, cause they are going out with the girl..
bold is what i agree with
for the italics, if you never let anything get to your head, then eventually you'll be emo OR you'll never feel like you are loved.
All i can think of is either you're picking the wrong people OR they expect too much. Cause I've never been in a relation before.
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As time goes you will forget about it. For sure.
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time will heal...
and you will learn to love again
i thot i couldn`t trust men anymore either
but now i`m happily with my bf and out 1 year is next week =)
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same thing happened to me too just about 12 hrs ago. I sat here thinking all night, and came to the conclusion that it is not my fault. It is not your fault either, when the other person feels like there's nothing there. So even though you may feel that something in you made him go away, it's not. If he really liked you, he would have stayed and wanted to figure things out, especially the reason why he feels like the connection isn't there. So don't worry about it anymore and just move on.
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i nver got dump~ or dump anyone~ and my bet is i will never will at the rate i am going~
srry~ i just wanted to get tat self pity out~ perhaps it makes u feel better? idk~
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Well theres a good side to this, it was only thebeginning when you started to give him your heart? your not down the hole yet.. you may be half way down or something but you can still climb back up. Time heals the heart and keep yourself busy =)
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move on...takes time cliche i know.. but you shudn't need to bring down you self esteem with this breakup.
it's nothing you're doing wrong. if it's not there, it just isnt and you can't really do anything about it.
you just havent found a guy who you can truly connect with.
you say you're quiet.. well are you quiet when you talk to them? do you give as much to the relationship as you can?
there are always aspects which you can improve on but if the connection isn't there... then you can't really do anything about it.
forget him...he's not worth it...
i think he's confusedas to what he just did...but it's final... don't get back with him...
=)