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I know...GUYS HATE IT when his gf talks TOO MUCH because, us girls talk about nonsense/random stuff right? (Ex. what happened in class earlier, or whatever happened to a friend, etc.)
BUT THEN AGAIN, when a girl doesn't talk at all, Guys gets mad, feels uneasy, and says, Why aren't you talking...?
I just know that, for ME, whenever I talk to my bf...he always gets pissed off at me. He tells me, that I have no life. But earlier today, when we had lunch together. I didn't go rambling on about what he calls boring stuff. THen he STILL GETS PISSED OFF and says, how come you didn't talk?!? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif)
SHEESH!~ (IMG:style_emoticons/default/fury.gif) Do you want me to talk or not? Guys DO talk about BORING stuff too you know! But I haven't complained, and i'm sure many other girls haven't...and so, my question:
Girls talk about nonsense stuff.
Guys ALSO talk about nonsense stuff.
What can a GIRL talk about with a guy that will not make him annoyed by her conversations?
(I'm not talking about 2 strangers talking, i'm talking about those in decent-length relationships, since those are the guys that seems to be annoyed the most about what his gf talks about)
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If both of you find your conversations with one another such nonsense and boring, how do the two of you stay together? Frankly, I think your emotions for someone do tie into your perception of what someone says to be interesting or not. If not, simply have the decency and respect to ask that person to refrain from talking rather than be mad and brood about it. Maybe there are deeper issues than that of just blabbing about nonsense or NOT blabbing at all. When the littlest things are construed into something larger than they are, perhaps talking is needed. With your situation, it seems as though... you do, you die, you don't, you die. Yeah, what in the hell does he want?
I talk a lot and so does my bf. We take turns ranting about our day, complimenting one another, gossiping about other ppl, debating on current events, and whatever it is that comes to mind. I guess I'm just lucky he finds my mind interesting and the things I say worthy to his ears. Likewise for me. If we didn't, I don't think I could withstand being with him and talking to him. Good conversations/communication skills are very vital to a relationship.
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I talk a lot and so does my bf. We take turns ranting about our day, complimenting one another, gossiping about other ppl, debating on current events, and whatever it is that comes to mind. I guess I'm just lucky he finds my mind interesting and the things I say worthy to his ears. Likewise for me. If we didn't, I don't think I could withstand being with him and talking to him. Good conversations/communication skills are very vital to a relationship.
My guy friend and me are like that but we are not 'dating'. As friends and with any other guy friend, I think there's an equal give and receive in a conversation depening on WHO that guy or person is. Well, I myself know when to talk and what about so I've haven't heard anyone say that I talk too much nonsense much. But I don't understand some people's connection in a relationship? Those guys that say girls talk too much, why don't you/they say something. Maybe find a way to solve the problem with the girl. I don't want some guy to say to me that I talk too much if he isn't talking or finds what I say uninteresting without giving any input himself. And no, I don't cut anyone off in a conversation so there's any easy way to jump in. But depends on your girl.
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it's not that hard to avoid extremes you know, there is a spot between talking too much and not talking at all
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lol....i like girls that knows when to shut up. If any girl was bugging my ears off while I was eating dinner and watching prison break, I'd let her have it.
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I guess you have to find that balance of comfortable silence. ?
Some girls just don't know when to stop talking, though. I guess you just have to know when to talk and when to enjoy the silence.
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uhmm...
my bf loves it when i talk on and on he laughs. - _-;;;
and i love how he rants about his day and stuff.
i don`t know what`s up with your bf.
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iono some guys don't like girls who talk too much like me. lol.
and one day at school i didnt talk at all.. and people were like
are you sick? cuz i would usually be loud and stuff.. i guess
it's cuz they're use to me. maybe he's not use to you?
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Frankly, I don`t give no f*ck. I can talk about whatever I want to - whether a guy likes it or not! My BF thinks everything I say is interesting. pwahha.
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He seems like he's annoyed. I wouldn't care what I talk about though. I think it's perfectly fine.
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theres a difference with conversation and yapping.
conversation - both people talk about the same subject, or at least have something in common with the subject. eg talk about friends or something both person knows
yapping - when you talk a subject, thinking its a conversation but its actually a 1 sided talk about stuff that the listener has no idea of or simply dont give a damn about it. eg: this coworker of mine has really nice hair (the listener has no idea about your co worker nor he/she probably dont give a damn about him/her)
and to a certain degree, i dont exactly care how your class went nor i dont care about the way your classmate dress/looks (but that depends for each indivdual guy. for me i really dont give a damn about those subjects and i DO NOT want to hear it)
random yapping is acceptable once in a while. but is it acceptable to constantly yap about stuff that listener has no idea of?? no its not. even if he has a slight idea of the subject, its still not polite to talk about stuff he/she doesnt care about. would you constantly talk to your friend about korean music in detail even if he/she has nothing in common with music or korean? no right? my point exactly. if you answer yes you are a being impolite and inconsiderate. you cant talk about baseball withsome that doesnt give a damn about it either, all you going to get for a respond is thats cool before the conversation turns sour. you just cant force anyone to listen to anything. whether its your friends, family or SO. even if your bf is your most important significant other, he is still human therefore hes NOT entitled to listen to you. (so yes dont expect stuff just because hes your bf)
your friends and family doesnt seem to care about this yapping issue, why? because most you gather with people that have common interest with you, thats why 2 people become friends. as for family well... family is family (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
Guys ALSO talk about nonsense stuff.
sure its nonsense, because you have nothing in common with it, or you simply dont care about it. but you cant jusify your yapping by guys talk non sense too! do you see majority of the guys go on with the 1 sided talks? no, the talk is either a conversation or we shut up about it. thats the difference with guys and girls in gerenal.
guys = conversation
girls = 1 sided talk + conversation
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^I'm with him. I can stand yappin till a certain extent, and I'd have to excuse myself to the bathroom so that I can regain my composure and go back. Hopefully by then, a conversation can ensue.
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You want to like...tell us the stuff that bore you?
Or are you just saying it's boring cause you're not interested in it yourself?
Similar with people talking about the difference between convo's and yapping, there's also a difference between personal opinion, and opinion in general.
What I consider interesting, may be boring to you, but does that mean you should listen to my boringness?
I think both you and him have the right to say shut up to each other, and you two did.
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theres a difference with conversation and yapping.
conversation - both people talk about the same subject, or at least have something in common with the subject. eg talk about friends or something both person knows
yapping - when you talk a subject, thinking its a conversation but its actually a 1 sided talk about stuff that the listener has no idea of or simply dont give a damn about it. eg: this coworker of mine has really nice hair (the listener has no idea about your co worker nor he/she probably dont give a damn about him/her)
and to a certain degree, i dont exactly care how your class went nor i dont care about the way your classmate dress/looks (but that depends for each indivdual guy. for me i really dont give a damn about those subjects and i DO NOT want to hear it)
random yapping is acceptable once in a while. but is it acceptable to constantly yap about stuff that listener has no idea of?? no its not. even if he has a slight idea of the subject, its still not polite to talk about stuff he/she doesnt care about. would you constantly talk to your friend about korean music in detail even if he/she has nothing in common with music or korean? no right? my point exactly. if you answer yes you are a being impolite and inconsiderate. you cant talk about baseball withsome that doesnt give a damn about it either, all you going to get for a respond is thats cool before the conversation turns sour. you just cant force anyone to listen to anything. whether its your friends, family or SO. even if your bf is your most important significant other, he is still human therefore hes NOT entitled to listen to you. (so yes dont expect stuff just because hes your bf)
your friends and family doesnt seem to care about this yapping issue, why? because most you gather with people that have common interest with you, thats why 2 people become friends. as for family well... family is family (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
sure its nonsense, because you have nothing in common with it, or you simply dont care about it. but you cant jusify your yapping by guys talk non sense too! do you see majority of the guys go on with the 1 sided talks? no, the talk is either a conversation or we shut up about it. thats the difference with guys and girls in gerenal.
guys = conversation
girls = 1 sided talk + conversation
This reply is practically perfected. ;
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i think it just depends on the person themselves because some people love talking and can talk abt anything whereas there are more quiet people who talk occassionally. it just depends on what the other person likes. im alrite with silence since im quiet but it depends on how well i know the person but im usually a gd listnener. mayb ur bf should just pay more attention to what ur saying
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bottom line:
girls are fickle
boys are fickle
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bottom line:
girls are fickle
boys are fickle
no ma'am you're not getting away that easily (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
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most guys i kno like girls who talk a lot and ramble about random stuff. they like to gossip more than girls. lol.
i dunno, for me.. when it's with people i don't kno very well, i gess i feel i have to keep chatting coz it gets uncomfortable.. but with close guy friends, i don't talk that much.
but your bf seems kind of weird.. like he gets annoyed too easily. he should just let you be.. you! sheesh--
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since i don't have a bf, i'll just use my guy friends for examples. One of them has figure out that girls talk about the most random things ever and we can talk about sooo many things that don't have anything at all in common in just one conversation. Example: starts talking about a TV show, next hair, food, music, fashion, rumors etc.. This is how much you learn if you're in a mix grade class and the only other guy in your grade always gets kicked out and you are stuck with girls.
But i have also concluded that boys do talk alot and also about the most random thing and something, they do switch the topics to stuff that has nothing to do with each other. My guy friend is in love with the PSP and that's practically all he talks about with his friend/cousin. When ever i'm in the convo, they talk about how great the PSP is, how some games are the most amazing things in the world and what some characters in a game do that's oh so cool. and these boys are 15-16 years old.
If they say we got no life, what about them???? lol, honestly, i tell them straight up that they got no life talking about PSP and such and they say Minh vy, Minh vy, Minh vy, why can't you see the beauty of this?*holds the PSP up* See what i mean? they got no life!! lol, let's hope they will never see this post of mine (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif) Also, they gossip ALOT. Sometimes, they know stuff that even me and my girls don't know. How they know it, i got no clue...
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play around with each other and etertain him?...I think.
Talk about something that relate to each other, not just you.
