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im not sure what else to do, so i need my fellow soompiers to tell me what they think [:
me and my ex have known each other for about 2 years and during that time i really loved him but we broke it off because of distance, we rarely got to see each other, we still remained close friends, and i began going out with someone else, but that didnt work out and soon after he hooked up with someone else. His girlfriend knew about me, and she didnt like me because of the type of relationship me and him had. we would stay up talking to each other all the time and leave each other messages, so she was always pushing on him how she was scared that he'd break it off with her because of me.
but one night we were both talking and we started talking about 'us' and how our relationship was before, He even said that he thinks about it from time to time and wonders what wouldve happened if we stayed together. I was shocked, he said he didnt know what he was feeling right now, and how he missed talking to me like before. he even said he didnt know if he really got over me but just put his feelings aside.
later that day i found out he broke it off with her because of his feelings for me..apparently she was forcing him to tell her the truth and how he really felt. and he said he didnt know, he didnt want to tell her yet..and neither did i, i wanted him to have time to think about it so he didnt regret it later on. but she kept forcing him, and so he told her that he needed to be alone and that was it.
after a day or i had asked him what he wanted to do, and asked if he wanted to be friends. he didnt say anything for awhile but then said yeah lets be friends i was disappointed and upset. after that night we didnt speak for a couple days..i was wondering why he was ignoring me, i just had thought maybe his feelings changed? and he realized he made a mistake so he doesnt want to tell me? but i finally decided to say something and asked him if he still had feelings for me..and he said u know how we said we should be friends? well now we're friends i made the decision to forget about you and i dont feel anything anymore.. and i got upset..but i let it go. and we were back to normal for a few days..and it came up again and brought up how i would have tried to be with him again, and he was like what? i thought u said lets be friends and i said no..i asked u if we should and u said ok so i agreed, and hes like no u said lets be friends thats why i said yes. so we both laughed because it was all a misunderstanding (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) lol
for awhile we were both happy, but i still had that feeling he regrets it? because he had said he forgot about me, but was he just saying that because of the misunderstanding? and now, his best friend is going out with his ex, so im not sure what he feels about that, im afraid that maybe he still likes her deep down? he still has pictures of him and her on his site, and that confuses me. i know he broke it off with her because of me, but it was so quick i dont think he had enough time to think it through. so im confused..and worried about whatll happen. he said he wants to be with me again but..im not sure if he's really sure.
but now He's ignoring me again..we havent talked for about 2 days now and ive tried calling but he wont pick up..so im wondering whats up.
is he regretting it? did his feelings for me change? im scared to ask him..i probably should tho but i just need some input on this.
i know its long, lol sorry .
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he's your ex for a reason, there's a reason why he didn't make it to your future. 90% of the time, people who break up, only stay friends because one or the other, or even both people have feelings for eachother still. We can't read his mind, and we don't know what kind of guy he is, and we don't know what you guys had. the only way you can figure out the real truth is by asking him yourself. personally, you keep interfering with his life while he is trying to move on, i think you should just stay out. you guys shouldn't talk to eachother for a while. it's like a candle you have to blow out.
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It doesn't work. Most of the time, that is.
In my case, it was because both sides had different motives to being friends. One actually wanted to be friends, while the other wanted something more.
When you decide to do somehting like having your ex back in your life, you have to be clear on why you want them back in the first place. It seems like your ex is the who just wants to be friends, while your the one who wants something more.
Ask him for a straight answer, that way you can really know and perhaps, move on.
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It sounds like everything happened too fast for him. Maybe he just needs time to get his thoughts and feelings together, and maybe when he does, it won't be what you want? :\
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awww ..(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) this guy :[
but if it was meant to be..then im sure u guys will get back together soon. :]
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He could be regretting it, or he's just taking time to re-think everything.
Long distance relationship doesn't work out for everyone. Just give him some time and hear his answer.
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Ask him straightout one last time if he think there's anything between you guys. Let him know how you feel and make sure he's giving you a straight answer.
If you get the no, he doesn't still have feelings for you, or he doesn't think it'll work, move on. Don't try to hold on, because you'll just end up getting hurt if he falls for some other girl.
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wow i kinda had the same problem
we were friends (and long distant) but anyways he told me he liked me and then when i got it together and was ready to get back with him, he got a girlfriend (in the period of 2 freaking days) and then he ignores me, and then out of no where he calls me and we talk again and he informs me that he broke up with his girlfriend and then he talks about us like as if we're meant to be together and since he pissed me off before (gettting a gf) i said i needed time to think about it and then he gets ANOTHER GF (period of ONE DAY) and this went on 4 times.
im sick of his BULLSHT.
don't go through it. you can find someone better
and thats what i plan on doing too :]
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he's your ex. ex'es break it off for a reason. there must be a reason... and most of the time you dont work out with exes...but who am i to say? maybe you can be one of the minority.
you said let's be friends and that's what you decided and that's wat you stay.you shudn't go back on each others words. if you keep doing that you just make it harder for each other. it sounds like both of you don't want to let go but you're both trying.. well he is trying. you're not. you want him.
of course he's mourning his ex. what could have been? now that his BESTFRIEND is dating her...
you're just friends.. you can't expect to talk to him everyday.. as much as it hurts, you should cool things down for awhile.. you shudn't need to talk everyday like bf/gf...
let him go...enjoy single for a while and maybe you'll realise either that he was the one all along.. or he wasn't at all... you do'nt need to rush things....
=)
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dont do anything now....just give it a week or two..eventually he'll come to you with an answer, whether the answer is what you expect or not...he'll come..if not, then..well...you did give him a chance to explain himself..and if he doesnt then move on from there. give yourself a time limit to hold on and let go.
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shoot him in the head.
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He'll come running back... We always.. come running back.
Give him his space... He'll give you your answer.
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It sounds like everything happened too fast for him. Maybe he just needs time to get his thoughts and feelings together, and maybe when he does, it won't be what you want? :\
exactly, give him sometime to clear his mind.
in the end his heart will tell him whose the one -- just be patient...if its meant to be, it's meant to be.
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Even if you two still have feeling the distance problem is still there so eventually youll just get back to the reason you broke up in the first place. Save yourself the time and distres and let it go.
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he really needs to gather up his thoughts because he hasnt made up his mind yet. i think that he does have feelings for you otherwise he wouldnt have done or said those things but then again i think he also wants to move on because of the misleading conversation you both had and/or he wasnt sure about what you want. i wouldnt rush it or try to get an answer out of him at the moment because ...who knows? his mind might change later.
