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This actually relates to a paper I'm writing right now so I need some opinions and thoughts (quick! lol) about the subject to give me a jump start.
What do you guys think of power in a relationship? Like basically one person having control in the relationship all the time? Is it something we all can't escape from? Is there always going to be someone inferior in the relationship? Does equality really exist as much as we say it does?
I know that there should be a lot of relationships out there that has somewhat of a power abuse in it, otherwise how does people break up? Isn't it a fact that those who break up with the person hold the most power in the relationship? Especially if that person you broke up with doesn't want to let go in the first place?
feel free to leave you opinions, thoughts, personal stories, etc. on the subject ^-^
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This actually relates to a paper I'm writing right now so I need some opinions and thoughts (quick! lol) about the subject to give me a jump start.
What do you guys think of power in a relationship? Like basically one person having control in the relationship all the time? Is it something we all can't escape from? Is there always going to be someone inferior in the relationship? Does equality really exist as much as we say it does?
I know that there should be a lot of relationships out there that has somewhat of a power abuse in it, otherwise how does people break up? Isn't it a fact that those who break up with the person hold the most power in the relationship? Especially if that person you broke up with doesn't want to let go in the first place?
feel free to leave you opinions, thoughts, personal stories, etc. on the subject ^-^
I do believe in a relationship, both parties have an amount of power, but in most cases, one has a little bit more power than the other. The person who breaks up with the other person is not always the one with greater power. Sometimes, when a person breaks up with thier s/o it's usually because they were the one with less power, and they felt as if they weren't treated right. They felt as though they were taken for granted and figured out they weren't being treated right.
My past relationship, i guess you can say, in the begining, he had more power, but near the end, i clearly had a lot more power than he did. Basically, i had him in the palm of my hands, and i guess from what his friends say, he got whipped. I'm not some girl that treats guys wrong, but i had this unknown effect on him. The effect of him always asking for forgiveness and for me to take him back everytime we broke up. It was kind of pathetic in a way, but in a way, i was able to manipulate him, not purposefully, but i had the so called power
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Power is everything. If you can't control your other, then you're the one getting controlled. So all these girls that say, I don't care what he does are just powerless to do anything.
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Power = the person who doesn't like the other as much as the other does.
Usually, I think there is one person with more power than the other.
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It really should be equal. Some couples fail to recognize this ..
I just got out of a relationship where, if he did something wrong
he always manipulated the situation to make it look like I did wrong.
It took me a while. He was really controlling and everytime we
fought, I assumed we were over ... trust me, it is not the greatest
feeling at all.
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should be equal to keep a long healthy relationship
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i'm always happier and my relationships last longer when I'M in control of the relationship... or like a little bit more of control than him... lol i cant stand someone telling me what to do or think. there was this relationship that i had in the past and he tried to tell me what to do.. and i could only take that for like 2 days.. and i dumped him lol relationship lasted less than a month.. horrible. lol
but then again.. im still single so you shouldnt really listen to me.. haha =P
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yea yea yea it 'should' be equal, but one way or another someone ends up wearing the pants in the relationship
like my mama
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Power is everything. If you can't control your other, then you're the one getting controlled. So all these girls that say, I don't care what he does are just powerless to do anything.
I totally disagree with this. You only have control over yourself, people can have the illusion of having power over someone, either knowing that they love/like you more then you do them, or being the one who always calls the shots, being the one pursued more, etc..
It can feel like power but I think its just a way for people to make themselves feel better so they tell themselves they are in control to feel less insecure.
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yeah i've been in it . it's horrible
he'd change whatever i did that he thought was wrong or he didn't like and compared it to his value system , then critisized me and made me change .
he had everything HIS WAY
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There is such thing as equality in a relationship, but it depends on whether the couple want it or not. In some culture (such as asia), a female is more safe when the male is dominant in the relationship. But in america, there are varieties of couple with powers. Some would let their gf control the relationship and they would be fine with it.Some couple would have one being dominant at one thing, and the other being dominant in something else. There is equality in some sense, but it is rare to have full equality. Life doesn't balance equally.
