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I am a bastard by Pham. Yes, I wrote it. This is my hectic life as of now. It may seem ultra-dramatic, but this is exactly how it happened.
My mother- it kills me to see her hurt. I hate it when I see pain in her eyes; it brings me down with her. My mom is the only woman in my life that I will love dearly. My siblings are those that I will always protect and I will do everything it takes to give them a good life. They deserve much more than I can give them, but I am doing my best to be a good brother. Now the only one that's missing is my father..
It was four years ago. I've been in denial ever since. My friends and I went off to the mall during our lunch break to grab something to eat. As I walked out of the mall door, my friend said to me, is your dad cheating on your mom?
I looked at him dumbfoundedly. He was merely with a close family friend and probably just had to go buy something. I walked off with my friends back to school and went on with my day. As time went on, my suspicions started to grow. Every now and then, I'd hear my dad talking to someone on the phone. I knew it was definetly not my mother because he doesn't speak formally to her. I had then gotten a good idea of what was going on. Even with the evidence, I had denied it. My heart was in pain, but I did not want to believe these horrid ideas.
My father would always yell at my mother, and I'd be the only one to protect her since I am the only one capable of doing so. My other siblings are too young and have no power. My older brother is a worthless piece of crap that I could never respect, but I will admit that a piece of him still remains in my heart along with my older sisters. Countless times has my father yelled at my mother, and everytime I had to protect her from getting hurt. He knew he was in the wrong, yet he tried to look righteous by yelling my mom's faults. Yesterday I could not take it anymore. I snapped. I told him that I knew everything. I told him to get the hell out of the house and run away with that lady. I told him to leave and never come back.
Even as I yelled, he would deny everything. He said to me, Ever since you were born, I knew you were a bad kid. You are stupid. You've always been a mistake.
Me, the mistake? Me, the child that cooks for him and the family? The child that does well in school and will be going to a UC? The child that takes care of my younger siblings? I am the mistake?
Even so, I will not accept my father's actions. The argument went on and my mother had taken his phone to prove the countless phonecalls he's made. He tried desperately to get it back. I grabbed it and I ran. I ran as fast as I could away from this hell hole that my father has created. I ran and in this phone held all the things that I never wanted to see. There it was in front of me, a picture of him and that woman- a picture that broke my heart. With my heart shattered, I kept running. I called my cousin to pick me up and explained to him what had happened. The uncle he once respected, he could respect no more. At that time I had no idea what to do. What the hell am I supposed to do? I couldn't answer. I thought to myself, once I leave for college, what the hell will happen? What will be of my siblings and my mother? I was depressed.
Now I have decided. I will be strong 'til summer starts. That is when I'll be sending my mother and siblings to Arizona to stay with my oldest sister. I will go to college and pursue my dream. I will work hard to create a better life for the family that remains in this shattered heart of mine. I have disowned my father. A man I once respected no longer has a place in my heart.
This is my story..
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hmm...you make it sound very dramatic. instead of you taking all the action, why don't you let your mom decide and have her file the divorce/separation instead? transfer those pictures from his phone to somewhere else (in case he deletes it and document everything in case there's a court hearing later.
if i were you, i'd try to keep my sibilings as much out of it and as unaware of the situation as possible...especially if they're young (they don't have hte capacity to understand the situation yet). so i would suggest against sending them against AZ..
you sound like a high schooler...maybe a sophomore or junior...honestly, it is admirable for you to protect your family (mom and sibilings), but remember that you're not a legal adult yet and there's a lot you can't do and there's still a lot of harm your father can do to you without your mom there to at least be some sort of restraint. as i've said, i think sending them to AZ is a bit too extreme...maybe move out instead? as for support, ask your older sibilings for funds. and is your older sister willing to accept your decision? perhaps you should discuss these things before acting on emotions...think carefully all the consequences and work.
for example, driver's licenceses...you're going to have to get htat all changed when moving to another state. is your mom capable and willing to move to a place where she doesn't know anyone besides your sister? will your sister have the time to look over your mom and sibilings and guide them through this transition period?
i'm not saying you're current situation is okay...but you may want to reconsider what you're doing first...i'm sure there's an easier and more rational solution than the one you've proposed
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O_o i understnad your heart broken... but well... do waht you can.. he probably has an explaination but he's a big jerk +_=
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uhm guys isn`t that someone else`s story not his?
by anonymous?
or am i just wrong.
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uhm guys isn`t that someone else`s story not his?
by anonymous?
or am i just wrong.
he can refer himself as anonymous cuz he migh tnot want to knwo who he really is.. heh =/
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I'm sorry to hear about your father and the families...
I know how you feel...and it just hurts to know that someone you respect does something so stupid. But what could you do other then protect your family?.....its really up to your mom to make the decision. I know that you want to be a strong son, and not have your family be hurt...but you can't do much now...
I hope you're doing will and stay strong. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
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power to you man. stay strong. i havent been in your exact situation but i know what it feels like when a father leaves the family. its not an easy situation to be in. Just keep your head up, work hard in college, if not for yourself then at least for your mom. Give your family something to be happy and proud of.
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uh... i dun think this is pham's story. god bless the author tho.
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so dramatic ^^;
good luck on your future.
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stay strong! You sound like a very responsible person, I admire you...
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Wow, that's really painful. A divorce is a good idea (record those pictures), but moving to AZ? Will his family agree to be uprooted, will his sister want the extra burden? He ought to take time to cool off and think rationally first.
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knock his a$$ into the middle of next week
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knock his a$$ into the middle of next week
yeah... who care..beside i dont think this is his story (IMG:style_emoticons/default/w00t.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
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im sorry 2 hear about dis 2.,,hope things get better and then eventually workd out and god bless yoo 4 takin care of ur siblings and ur mum..,all da best 4 da future =]
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yeah..i don't think he wrote this, it's almost structured as if to generate pity. But then props to him if he can write like that, and i'm sorry to hear about your situation.
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it says its by anonymous...i think its just a story he found online and wanted to share or something
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it says its by anonymous...i think its just a story he found online and wanted to share or something
yea that`s what i thot haha
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thats soo sad =[ ur dad said that =[
well i hope things work out okay
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it says its by anonymous...i think its just a story he found online and wanted to share or something
lol that's what i thought too (IMG:style_emoticons/default/phew.gif)
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I am confused. Is this your story, or is it something you found off the internet? Anywho, if this is your story, I'm proud of you for taking care of your mom. You should be a fanfic author. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
