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Hi...this is the first time I post a topic on this section...but I really need some helps now...so please hear me out...thx (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Well, here's the thing, I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now, everything went pretty well(I think)..basic we see each other almost everyday, going out for lunch, dinner together, and sometimes in weekend we going out the other places..like beaches, mall...etc... so tonight I asked her to be my girlfriend...but she said it's too fast for her, she still doesn't know me very well...and she just want to be friends right now... and she said I don't hate you, and I like to go out with you... but right now I just don't have the bf feeling toward you...just friends feeling, it's too quick for me, I want us to be friend first, and I might have feeling on the way, for me it usually takes about 1 year to understand a person
The problem is I cant wait for that long...1 year is too long for me...and I just cant do that...
so anyway, we made a choice/pack..whatever it's called basically within a month(starts tmr, she will try to be with me whenever she's available, I will try my best to get her feelings toward me...and at the end of the month, I will ask her again, and she will tell me her decision.
I really really really like her, and I don't want to lose her. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) So I just want to try my best, so I will not regret later..but if it meant for us not to be together, I can take it too and move on, because I know at least I tried my best....
so may you guys give me some ideas that will help her to get some feeling toward me...
I sort of know what I should do, but I just need some ideas from you guys..because everyone's idea is unique...
Any input will sure helps me alot..
And....Thank you for reading my long boring story... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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i think she likes you a bit but is afraid of being hurt so she is slowing it down to make a smart decision to see if you are really worth it.
um, if you guys agreed on a pact, then i think you should pursue her your best and prove to her that you are relaly worth her time. so get out there and be semi-aggressive.
do some purposeful things for her that surprise her.. show her another layer of yourself so maybe she can understand you better..
most of all, you have to give her a sense of protection. i know it sounds vague but all or at least most girls like that.
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i think she likes you a bit but is afraid of being hurt so she is slowing it down to make a smart decision to see if you are really worth it.
um, if you guys agreed on a pact, then i think you should pursue her your best and prove to her that you are relaly worth her time. so get out there and be semi-aggressive.
do some purposeful things for her that surprise her.. show her another layer of yourself so maybe she can understand you better..
most of all, you have to give her a sense of protection. i know it sounds vague but all or at least most girls like that.
thank u (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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I agree with _follow_me ~~. She probably had a bad past relationship and probably doesn't want to get hurt again or something like that.
But anyways, I have an idea that will probably get her to like you. Give her one rose or her type of favorite flower each day until your pact is done. On the day the pact is over, tell her to go to a beach where you will be there with a bouquet of the same flower. And you should have a bunch of candles in the sand that makes a heart. I saw that in a cantonese drama. xD But hey, it might work.
But also remember to talk to her whenever you can. Get to know each other more and trust each other, that will give you a higher chance to get her to like you. Girls want guys they can talk to and trust.
I hope that helped. ;]
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Just enjoy your friendship with her, and be patient. If you truly do like her? Then maybe waiting until she's ready to label it as a bf/gf relationship is worth it.
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I agree with what everyone else said. Because if you've been hurt numerous times. You tend to be a bit more careful about who you let in or who you're in a relationship with. Even thought it might sound crazy. Just stick with it. Then she'll you're your in it for her not to hurt her. She'll realize it soon or later.
Just talk to her. Be there for her when she needs you. Treat her with respect. And always protect her. I know that sounds alot but girls take that into consideration when dating a guy.
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I don't see a problem here...
If she is your gf, wouldnt that means you guys are going to go out and get to know each other?
Right now, you guys are doing that, it is like you guys are bf/gf... n when ppl look at it, they think you guys are a couple anywayz.....
does the title of gf/bf really matters in this case?
just go along with her flow and get to know her, i bet she is treating you like a bf anyway...
and even if she is your gf, does that means you will treat her even better? you should be treating her the best you can right now anyway
^^
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haha just go with the flowwwww.
& keep your options open.
seeing as she doesn't see you as anything mre than a friend, she probably won't be mad if you see other gifls, too right?
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take the steps slowly~
she prolly wants to see if you can really wait for her. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/huh.gif)
good luck! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
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I don't know she might be different from me! but usually when I tell a guy something like tat and of course I've used that one B4 not just that one I basically told the guy exactly wat you said she said...it's b/c I only like them as a friend and want to keep it that way! I'm not trying to put your hopes down she can be different but ummm yea give it your best!
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Thank you guys for all the helps...I really appreciate it (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
Even though I shouldn't feel like this, but right now, I feel like I'm preparing for college entrance exam all over again...
Anyway, I'll tell you guys the result later...
Wish me luck guys.. =)
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im kinda going through the same thing too....i hate it when girls play mind games with guys to mess with our heads....and not just be straight up bout things,......
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give her the power to miss you, I'm sure she has fun with you end the days on high notes. Don't always be available and just do what you would normally do if you didn't know her. Make yourself available according to your schedule.
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Wow.. that is the most straight up, non-bs included, answer I've ever heard from a girl.. How awsome.
GOod luck to you sir.
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uhm....maybe you should try...giving her something for a couple of days...and just completely stop..
or do something really sweet
example:: write on a car I love you or i like you..on the front window? and surprise her?
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dont rush things too much.
She'll think your desperate
