Question:
My rant:
I've been single for a little more than half a year now, and I'm happy. Does that sound good to you? I certainly think so, but there are some people in my social circle who think this is a little pathetic and that I'm only single because I can't find a guy to be with.
I really, really hate it and it gets me frustrated because when I say I'm happy being single, I get that nod and that smile that says I know you're just saying that. It's okay, you'll find a nice guy to settle down with you soon. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
I mean, I could get into a relationship if I wanted to. But I don't want to. And I'm the type of person who just doesn't want to waste time with random relationships. Been there, done that.
What's worse, my mum is getting in on it as well. She thinks I'm too picky and I'll probably grow old being single (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wacko.gif) But the fact is, is that I just love having the freedom of being single. Sure, it has it's downsides ~ your phone rarely rings and when it does, it's never that cute guy or you never get delightful surprises... but that's okay with me for now.
I just wish my social group would understand that and not look at being single as a bad thing. FYI - they're all in relationships themselves. I'm basically the only single girl in the group.
End of Rant.
Anyway, enough of in the life of me! Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone else have the same opinion as my friends? Please comment. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Answer:
well no one really gives me that *nod and smile* thing. I've been single for about a month and yeh i don't really care. A relationship for me is too suffocating at the moment. Uni is hectic and catching up with friends alone is hard to fit in.
i guess i dont get really a hard time aobut being single cos not all of my friends are in relationships themselves + some of their parents are very strict and don't want them to date till their out of uni!
Answer:
well no one really gives me that *nod and smile* thing. I've been single for about a month and yeh i don't really care. A relationship for me is too suffocating at the moment. Uni is hectic and catching up with friends alone is hard to fit in.
i guess i dont get really a hard time aobut being single cos not all of my friends are in relationships themselves + some of their parents are very strict and don't want them to date till their out of uni!
yah but the thing is, once ur out of university and you're out into the real world working, its hard to meet people and dating. In university, you have people your age around you all the time and its easier to meet them. It's a paradox.
Answer:
^ Agree. Totally. Working doesn't give you much of a social life. Even if it's minus the homework and study, there's just no age group that you can fit into in a workplace.
They're either too young or too old.
Answer:
It's good to know you CHOOSE to be single. Don't let others determine the value of your status. You're not picky, just selective.
When I was single (for many years), I dated to just date and meet interesting, new people. It helped me discover what it is I want in/from a man. Just because you're not committed to someone in a monogomous relationship, doesn't mean you can't date for fun. Just let the other person know you're not looking for a relationship. A relationship usually works out only when two ppl want it... in some cases.
My family was worried I'd never find a man. My grandma even thought I turned lesbian when I moved in with my best friend. After a month of dating my bf, I introduced him to my family and now all they want to talk to me about is when are we getting married. That's what family and some friends do. They just need to be concern over your relationship status whether you're in one or not.
Answer:
props to you, monchichi!. my longest time being single was over two years. At times I was happy to be single and at other times I was sad but only because everyone else was dating and made me feel all lonely and stuff. There's nothing wrong with being single and definetely nothing wrong with being happy about it. I'm semi-relationship dependent...I love having the company of my significant other and I do feel lonely if they're not around, but at the same time I know it's not the end of the world or a huge social taboo to be single. Sometimes when I don't see my s/o I actually get more things done (schoolwork, errands, hanging out with friends, spending time with family) so that's not a bad thing =D
Answer:
same situation over here ^.^
well... thing is i've always been single
i'm the only single in my group of friends... it makes me feel lonely when they get their bfs to hang out with us too. but that's just for the moment.
nothings wrong with being single.... but there's also nothing wrong with finding someone to love you as well ^.^
i like being single... until i get tired of it.... hehe...
Answer:
in my opinion, i don't see anything wrong with that! props to you~ i wish i was more like that.. but since my heart is taken by someone already so.. i don't think i'll be single anytime soon (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
Answer:
I've been single since birth and I don't feel like there's anything wrong with that. Honestly, I'm a picky person so I haven't come across that guy that had made my heart flutter. It'd be nice to be with someone, but it's not the end of the world if I'm not.
Besides, most high school relationships are pathetic. I'd rather concentrate my time on school and being with friends rather than worry about if he'd call me that night or not and then make a big deal out of it if he doesn't.
Answer:
You have weird people around you. What's wrong with being single?
I can just say that those that always want to be in a relationship are desperate and afraid to be alone _
At least when you're single, you can look at multiple people without worrying about what someone else might think (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif) (as much)
Answer:
i like being single. i can flirt with whoever i want! PLAY THE FIELD!
Answer:
you know , i agree with you! why should you stay for something or even start something if you know it's not gonna get you anywhere. there's no point . you're right . just be what you are . and being independent is a good thing! you should treasure it! there are people out there who just cant stand being single and it makes them miserable . and it's really pathetic to 'have to have a relationship'.. i mean you're your own person why MUST you needa second person .. it only makes things more complicated cause then you have to start caring about the other person all the time .
if love really comes and you think it will fit your lifestyle then you can accept it . if you think it's not going to be of any benefit and reverse you just want to be free , then dont get into a relationship . do what make you happy!
and i do have friends like that .. sometimes when i'm single and not looking , they would ask me , wouldnt it make you so much more happier and complete if you have a boyfriend? i said no , cause for me .. i being in a relationship is a lot of stress . so i'd rather not . they think i'm only putting on a happy act when actually i'm deperate on the inside . but i am happy .. haha . but sometimes if you come across a right guy , you cant help but fall in love or at least be infactuated even though things might not seem clear , you'll grow on it . that time will come sometime if i hasnt yet . things change and people change too .
what i really think is you would like to find a guy who thinks like you do .
Answer:
Being single for a while, is a time to find yourself and wrap up before starting another relationship. Just to get away from the emotional rollercoasters, and take a break.
Of course, when you're together with someone, you get the warm glow from inside. There will be little times when you miss the feeling being with someone.
If you're happy being single, then continue being the joyful single you are.
Answer:
being single is nothing to worry about unless your 30 and still single.
but if u dun plan on being married w/ kids and such, then that's nothing to worry about either.
especially if you enjoy being single.
Answer:
What I get is the, Oh, OK! You're right! You should be happy as you are! But don't worry.. you'll find someone soon enough. You're too great of a guy not to meet someone.
And, that's fine and all, but when I hear it from just about everybody I meet, I feel a sort of resentment now when I hear them say it. I think it is their way of sugarcoating the fact that I'm single. I don't like sugarcoating. I'm the kind of person who wants to hear your thoughts and opinions right then and there, and if you think I'm a loser for being single (for quite some time), then I'd rather hear the truth of the blunt words.
Answer:
mm yea i hate that too
i love being single
but i love being with my bf more so (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
Answer:
okay, half a year is nothing compared to me. Of course it's not a bad thing, u dope! Unlike your friends, your not dependent or clingy on anyone else. I see some of my friends and they become devestated and miserable when things don't turn out the way they expect it to. I had a friend who got engaged too after she went out with this guy for a month. They're obviously some great relationships, but there's more bad things about them and with high school, you shouldn't take trivial things like this so seriously. There won't be anything on record that says to colleges you were single in high school, so it's not important.
Answer:
I've been single for 2 years now and i hear all the time that I should find someone and settle down with that guy, but i'm only 20 and i'm enjoying being single. Sure sometimes I get sad and wish I had someone, but I get over it. I'm going to do what I want to do with my life before I decide to find someone and settle down.
Answer:
ive been single for over a year now ..
i can say im not relationship dependant because ive rejected heaps .
but theres still only that ONE guy .. that i miss to bits .
but he'll never know
i pine for him , and if he hadnt walked into my life .
id still tell the others to buzz off
Answer:
My rant:
I've been single for a little more than half a year now, and I'm happy. Does that sound good to you? I certainly think so, but there are some people in my social circle who think this is a little pathetic and that I'm only single because I can't find a guy to be with.
I really, really hate it and it gets me frustrated because when I say I'm happy being single, I get that nod and that smile that says I know you're just saying that. It's okay, you'll find a nice guy to settle down with you soon. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
I mean, I could get into a relationship if I wanted to. But I don't want to. And I'm the type of person who just doesn't want to waste time with random relationships. Been there, done that.
What's worse, my mum is getting in on it as well. She thinks I'm too picky and I'll probably grow old being single (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wacko.gif) But the fact is, is that I just love having the freedom of being single. Sure, it has it's downsides ~ your phone rarely rings and when it does, it's never that cute guy or you never get delightful surprises... but that's okay with me for now.
I just wish my social group would understand that and not look at being single as a bad thing. FYI - they're all in relationships themselves. I'm basically the only single girl in the group.
End of Rant.
Anyway, enough of in the life of me! Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone else have the same opinion as my friends? Please comment. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Yea, I get that nod and smile thing sometimes too.
But honestly, I think you know exactly how you feel and why you do what you do. You even said it makes you feel free by being single, so don't let your friends pressure you into things you don't want to do. I personally have some friends like that as well, and I never really understood why they want to be in a relationshipship constantly. I feel the same as you too, I don't want to waste time with random relationships because its really not productive.
The bottomline is do what makes you feel happy. If your friends are being an ass about you being single, then you should get some new friends. ;]
