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i feel like my best friend of five years is startign to drift from me. when she talks to this other girl i feel so left out because they had everythign in common that i didnt have with my best friend. they are both cat lovers so the girl helped with my bff's cat when it was sick. i wish i'm a cat person but i'm not so i couldnt help. this girl have alot of calsses with my best friend too. they seem to bond alot during classes. she even claims my bff as her twin sister. i dont get why is she tryign to steal my best friend. she have her other group of best friends but i only have one best friend.
i hate this feeling. i think i feel so insecure about my best friend is because i slowly became her best friend when she was best friend with another girl. mayeb fate is coming back to me. T^T
what should i do? should i tell my best friend how i feel? should i tell teh the other girl?
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I know exactly how you feel, and I'm really sorry (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
I was in the same situation as you...she was my best friend, and really my only friend. She started to drift from me because we are two totally different people. I'm completely fobbish and she's a scenester. When she started hanging out with her scene friends, she kinda left me out and I felt really crappy about it. This one particular girl, she got really close to, and it bothered me a lot because I felt like I was losing my best friend.
She ALWAYS used to come to me with her problems but now she hardly tells me anything because she's always with her other friend....(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
I don't know how to give you advice but I can tell you that you're not the only one experiencing this. I've learned to just socialize with everyone and not just stick to one person. I've made a lot of new friends and even though none of them are close friends, the are people that I can count on. And that's a lot more than my best friend can offer me right now.
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I know what you're going through. I've been recently dealing with it too.
My best friend and I are okay but when school started earlier, we didn't have any classes or lunch together. She started to hang out with this one girl that she had a lot in common with. I wasn't exactly jealous but I felt lonely because I was being ignored. Well, my friend had second thoughts on the girl and all so I guess we're good.
I guess my only advice to is to be accepting of the girl your bff is befriending. Also, the best is to tell your friend how you feel. She might not be able to see that you feel left out so you should tell her. Hopefully, this helps. =]
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Well, my best friend is doing that.
She keeps drifting away from me
So when i finally get my car
There's no way im driving her a$$
Friends arent friends when they
come to u when they only need something.
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please tell your friend how you feel. and go from there.this happens to everyone.cheer up = )
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i had that situation happen to me earlier , we were bffl rite ? and then i kinda got anooyed wid dat fact and we kinda like drited away even though we still hang wid each other , shes still one of my closest frend, but sometimes she jst drifts off to her own world and jst leaves me out sometimes ..
i came to learn to now jst rely on one person only and stick with them forever , im now more neutral wif everyone and i talk more to everyone else and open more to more vaeriety of ppl .. sometimes stickin to jst one person is always that great, but having a best frend i guess is special as well ..
i say u shewd tell her how u feel first .. and see what the outcome is .. ^^
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this may sound pessimistic but friends come and go
anyway, i think you should talk to her
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yeah, me and my best friend went through this whole period of being pissed off at each other cause she...thought i was drifting away from her. In a way, i am but i still consider her as my best friend because we know everything about each other BUT for me, i have other friends too but my bff just keeps getting mad and i feel restricted.
like velocitii said, friends come and go. Once you hit the point where both of you realize that you're interests have totally changed, that's when you know that you have nothing to talk about anymore or just hang out but that's it. So don't stress about losing a best friend now cause sooner or later you'll meet people who can be just as awesome but you have to be able and willing to accept them without always thinking of your old best friends.
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this may sound pessimistic but friends come and go
anyway, i think you should talk to her
I agree. Friends come and go. Don't worry though; one day you'll find the friend that has the same interests as you.
Just talk with her. You can still bond after school. My best friend and I only have 3 class together and we have lunch together. We talk alot during lunch and spanish. But even though we have few classes, we still seem to bond. And since we're both in the same sports, the bus rides are fun. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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It's just something you have to deal now...if you lose a best friend you will gain someone else later on. My ex best friend and I are still friend, but not that close. I don't know our friendship dead...I was SO sad then, but now it's like whatever. I still have my best friend since 5th grade even if she moved to HA and I bond with my close friend now alot. I think my friends how are prefect.
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Try confronting your bestfriend about how you feel. Sometimes it could really be a good thing for you. My bestfriend and I also drifted away since she was bonding with someone else. I felt really left out and I just never said anything because I just didn't want trouble between us. Anyways, trouble happened between us and it was blown here and there. Now I think we're apart, and it sucks big time I tell you. I regret not exposing my feelings earlier but I guess I was the stubborn type and I couldn't help it .
There's this saying amongst my friends, boyfriends come and go but friends are here to stay. Try your best to do whatever it takes to recover your friendship with her ^^
So try and talk it out with her and see where it gets you and go from there.
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I TOTALLY know how you feel. It's happen to me so many times that you wouldn't believe.... Ok simple, YOU are too dependent on HER, so instead make new friends. Instead of being all possessive and what not with your bff, make other friends. She's entitled to have as many bff and friends as she pleases and you have to deal with that. When you become too dependent on one person, the blow that when there are other people that come into your lives becomes a lot painful. But if you had more, other friends to lean on as well you wont feel completely lost without her. Or if you really can't, let your friend know that you feel jealous and there's distance forming. She may react badly and offended or she may understand and try to mend it. Either way the choice is yours.
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i was once called a best friend stealer by a girl and i called her on it too. i said it right to her face. i said i don't steal people, i just make friends. if they want to be my friend than it's all good but if they don't than it's all good too. if you want to be best friends with her also go ahead i ain't holding no one back. shoot, i don't steal anything especially when that something shouldn't be owned. neways, me and the girl were close till we left for different colleges and haven't talked much. i should go look for her on facebook.
newho this was years ago when i was young and that accuser was naive.
so i don't think she's stealing your best friend because you don't own your best friend. if your best friend doesn't hang with you as much or same way anymore than you should just face it. she's the one that you should be dissappointed in because she's suppose to stick with you thru thick and thin. maybe make more firends and new best friends. don't hold yourself back. any friend who just forgets about you after making new friend isn't worth having. really tho it's true. a friend would never leave a friend or make them feel isolated/ignored when they are together.
i do have to say that there are those few friend stealers out there but if your friend falls prey to them than she'll just end up having a bad friend.
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Aww. Yeah, it's hard drifting away from your best friend. Sometimes I feel jealous too of my close friends getting closer with others but I can't control them and I don't want to sound like some controlling freak. But one time, I got really mad/jealous because ever since my friend got closer with some other girl, me and her slowly drifted cause she always talked to her instead of me and so I confronted her about it. But we didn't get any closer. We just stayed the same so the confrontation for me didn't really work.
I think I'm kind of in the same situation as you right now. I think I'm gradually losing my other best friend of 5+ years too. We knew each other ever since we were little and even though we live very far away from each other and go to different schools, we always managed to stay in touch and become closer than ever. But nowadays, it seems like we don't talk as much anymore. Our conversations always become dead because I don't know what to say. It's weird. I guess it's because me and her are too caught up with our lives. But I really miss her.
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man that sucks but ya i agree wit everybody
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Friends arent friends when they
come to u when they only need something.
ditto.
My best friend's other (former??) best friend used to be one of my good friends too. But when my best friend blocked her on MSN, she finally added me on her new MSN so she could talk with me
forget her; get a new friend
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I don't think telling her will even help.
My friends went through this a year ago. Sure she can say Oh, I'm sorry,.
But if she's drifting, she's drifting.
Whenever I feel like my friends are drifting a little bit, I usually overeaxaggerate the situation and make myself feel even worse. =/.
I don't know, usually the situation moderates itself.
Friendship is a little bit like love. =/
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exact same things happening to me and my best friend but maybe just a slight different
okay so me and my best friend, we've been best friends ever sinec 7th grade ( we're now in 9th )
after 8th grade, its time for highschool! yayy
i was so excited and all, but when school was about to start.. there was a phone call saying i had to go to this different high school because of where i live.
i was sooo sad, so me and my best friend go to a different highschool.
not only that, but she changed sooo much. back in 7th grade, she used to be so innocent but now shes all dressing like a hoe/ slut.
she told me that all she wears is skirts and shorts.
she broke up with her boyfriend. ( they were in a 6th months relationship ) and the very next day, THE VERY NEXT DAY, shes hooking up with some other guy.
that day, she was suppose to come at 8 o clock and sleepover at my house, but she didnt so i just fell asleep.
someone kept on calling me at 12 am and i thought it was a prankcall so i didnt answer. but after they called my cell, they called my house!
i didnt wanna wake up my parents because they have work early in the morning.
so i picked up the phone and its my best friend.
she says hey im going to your house right now
me saying wtf, right now? do you have to come right now cuz im sleeping
her saying yeahh i have to go
me saying ughh okay. bye
damnn i was pretty pisseed off. she stayed with a guy until 12 am!
she LIED to her parents too that she was gonna go to my house at 8 but she was with a guy.
and the police came at 3 and shiet because she was reported missing since her dad called me at 8 and asked me if jenny was there.
she was hooking up with 4 guys on september!
and she said that she lost her virginity to one of the guy.
and i asked her some questions and shes like nah i dont wanna talk about it. WHAT THE HELLLLL im her only best friend!
she hangs out with all those popular girls at her school
she changed!
she think shes better than me, she brags too much too.
shes always like yeah those popular guys over used to have a crush on me and like he likes me
and everytime i call her, she neverrr picks up.
when i need her, shes never there for me.
she dosent even stick up for me.
there was this one guy at my school, he was all talking shiet about me in front of me and all making fun of me.
well i turned to my best friend with a sad face and she says what?
I WAS SO PISSED OFF. ( this was right after school )
so i immediately walked off and when my mom picked me up, i cried in the car.
so when i got home, my best friend calls and shes like im sorry, i said SORRY
and she said that she cried too in the car.
WTF WHY SHOULD SHE BE THE ONE CRYING?
so we didnt talk for 2 weeks.
im mostly a giver so i give her alota things and all.
but she dont give me shiett.
gahh
anyways i don really care about her anymore,
we can still be friends but all those shiet she did to me, i dont feel close to her anymore.
plus, since i go to a bigger newer school, theres alota people there and i made tons of new friends.
we're not a bestie anymore i guess
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i know this might not be the best advice that you might want to hear but...
SCREW IT.
if you tried hard enough and she seems to not care anymore, then don't get too caught up because you're gonna get hurt even more.
just ignore your friend until she comes to find you. clinging onto her will make everything worse.
Friendship is a little bit like love. =/
i agree.
