Question:
Ok, let me try to make this as simple as I can.
Well, I recently found out that my boyfriend have had sex in the past with 2 girls.
Both of them weren't his girlfriend, so that idea bothered me for a bit. I mean, if
he simply can do it to them, what am I to him?
Then, out of the blue, one day... he asked me what I would do/ what I would think
of him inviting one of the girls he had sex with in the past ( which is his friend now )
to our wedding ( if that ever happens, what the heck )... I wouldnt know? why did he
ask me this question!?!?!?
Today, I just found out who one of the girl he did it with on friendster ( sadly ). How
did I find out? a friend of mine showed me her profile and showed me the testimonials
he sent for her. I saw that the msg was around 5/20/2005... which was when he was
still together with his ex ( at that time ). Lets just say... he mentioned how pretty she is... and how
her ' twins ' are doing... and Ryu ( he name his... thing, Ryu... dont ask ) says hi. So yeah. So, not
only I find that odd... he was saying that when he was still together with his ex...
Ok, let me be more detailed here. So far, we have been going out for 4 months.
And knowing who he had sex with in the past... really bothers me. Sigh...
Im 17... and lets just say... he's in the 20's. Im starting to think age is becoming an issue...
I dont know how I should deal with this situation. Help?
For people who are going to be harsh, I strongly suggest not to post here.
Answer:
are you asking what you should do about the fact that he had sex w/ 2 girls in the past? ... well what CAN you do? nothing. its just the past :]
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if i hadn`t been going out with my bf so long and i find that out he`s a goner.
ryu?
HAHAHAHHAhahha
sorry i snorted when i read that
reminds me this scene in this bank robbery movie that came out recently...
little willy and the twins or something liek that.
your bf sounds pretty easy lol
if that`s ok with you then keep going
if not don`t stay cuz like you said
how does that stop him from doing it again.
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just say if he had done it wif girl while yoh guys were together then dump him.. hahah i acually donno wut im atlking bout.. but i hope your problem gets solve, dont think to much about it.. youguys are currently? gonna get married? huh?
a bit confused there... with all the () thingys
well da thing i would do is dat i would talk it out wif him about how its bothering you
and is making you dink if you can turst him or about dat stuff? hahah i donno..
bust wishes
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Ryu.. Lmao.. that's some funny shizz right there. Nonetheless, your bf asking you if it's ok for him to invite one of the chicks he screwed to your wedding? In this instance it's somewhat disrespectful, and rude. Wow.. in my opinion for him to do that.. It shows he doesn't think too highly of you.
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hmm ryu is a funky name..lol..but i really think that it's wrong of him to have sex with two girls that wasn't even his girlfriend.
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Ryu.. Lmao.. that's some funny shizz right there. Nonetheless, your bf asking you if it's ok for him to invite one of the chicks he screwed to your wedding? In this instance it's somewhat disrespectful, and rude. Wow.. in my opinion for him to do that.. It shows he doesn't think too highly of you.
Thats what I thought too ( the rude part )... and it hurts me when he asked that question...
hmm ryu is a funky name..lol..but i really think that it's wrong of him to have sex with two girls that wasn't even his girlfriend.
I agree that its wrong to have sex with two girls that wasnt even his girlfriend... but im trying
so hard to accept it... and now that I found out who the girl was... its even harder for me to deal
with it _. He even asked What? do you really expect guys my age to not have done anything? ...
Sigh...
if i hadn`t been going out with my bf so long and i find that out he`s a goner.
ryu?
HAHAHAHHAhahha
sorry i snorted when i read that
reminds me this scene in this bank robbery movie that came out recently...
little willy and the twins or something liek that.
your bf sounds pretty easy lol
if that`s ok with you then keep going
if not don`t stay cuz like you said
how does that stop him from doing it again.
A part of me says to accept it... and the other part of it is not accepting that fact...
I dont know what to do...
Answer:
to me it sounds like you are asking us if you should trust him.
about him telling you that he slept with 2 girls (without being in a relationoship with them) is what it is. i mean it's something some people do even tho they may not/never want to be in a relationship with that person. sometimes it's just physical. usually guys are this way. i've heard and know enough guys who are like this but are decent guys when they meet the right girl. if he does it while in a relationship then that's whole other issue.
about him inviting the girl, i think i would not like it. i mean i wouldn't want her to come but i couldn't really say no because it's up to him. so i'd tell him that i don't want him to invite her but it's still up to him if he does or doesn't invite (say this in a neutral way and not biatchy way). what he does next is what will make you decide how you should treat him from there on.
the fact that he wrote on that girl's friendster in any sexual way or referring to sexual body parts publicly is not good or polite (even if the girl likes it). were you guys together already? if you were then it's wrong wrong wrong.
my question is why are you with him?
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the good news is that he's friends with his exes so when u break up with him..it won't be a bad break up lol (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
but..older guys = more experience..and u can't change his past...don't judge him because of what he did before..judge him for how he is with you..forget about the past. let it go. stop being petty.
