Question:
Would you be mad or hurt if your special someone constantly lies to you, just for the sake of trying not to hurt you?
Like if they dont really tell you the truth and beat around the bush alot.. or just lie.. Like if you asked them a question.. if he/she went to some event that day.. but he/she tells you they just stayed home all day not doing much.. But you find out later that he/she did go to the event with someone else, when they told you they stayed home.. Or if you he/she to go watch movies, he/she said yes ok, but find out later he/she already watched it already.. Then he/she lied that he/she never went just for the sake of not hurting your feelings.. always making you feel lefted out or and out cast all the time.. Or goin to a party with frends or an Ex, and not mentionning anything to you on the phone convo that he/she was goin.. and then find out he/she got drunk and started freakin' dancing wit they Ex havin fun, while your at home wondering what there up to
Would you be mad at those things.. Being lefted out and lied to? When they say they dont tell you cuz' they dont wanna hurt your feelings.. When it happens tyme and tymes before.. Would you lose trust in that person?
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Yes, because he is not honest with me.
But I try to tolerate, because no one is prefectly honest.
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I believe with time I would definately lose trust, because again and again that person is just betraying my trust towards them and is it neccessary to lie? What is there that you cant tell me? With these questions surfacing the relationship throughtout time the important element of a relationship trust would be destroyed. Also I would wonder why that person lied, is it because they are hiding something or guilty... hhmmmm
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People normally lie because they have a reason but of course, it must be of a respectable reason. However, there's a limit to everything esp. trust. I will not tolerate any nonsense such as my bf dancing with his ex. & saying he do not want to hurt me by not telling me. He should know his status is different. I would flush him down the toilet bowl.
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i would freak out.. like freak out to the max!! thank GOD my s/o is not like this.. he would tell me EVERYTHING.. every single bit of thing...
if my s/o lied to me more than once, i would break up with him.. cuz it means there is no trust between the two of us... and without trust, a relationship cannot go on..
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if he lied to be about going to a party and getting drunk and dancing with his ex i'd be pissed off. actually i'd be pissed if he lied to me. a relationship is about honesty.
but i think that your s/o isn't trying to not hurt you, it sounds more like he/she doesn't want to get in trouble with you.
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yesyesyesyes. I hate lies. __..
even one lie from someone I respect/trust, depending on what it is, can destroy my trust for that person.
what sucks even more is when you KNOW that they're lying to you, and they still keep on lying __..
The person would hurt my feelings MORE by lying to me than by telling me the truth, whatever it may be.. most of the time I don't care what the truth is.. I'll learn to live with it, good or bad. but not knowing the truth and hearing only lies.. - that sucks. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
Oh yeah, the examples you gave are mostly called white lies..
I believe with time I would definately lose trust, because again and again that person is just betraying my trust towards them and is it neccessary to lie? What is there that you cant tell me? With these questions surfacing the relationship throughtout time the important element of a relationship trust would be destroyed. Also I would wonder why that person lied, is it because they are hiding something or guilty... hhmmmm
^I agree (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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i hate liars in general, really.
im very b1tchy about it.
you lie, we're over.
you lie, we're not friends anymore
wtvr the situation is, im done wit you.
i CAN NOT tolerate lies, or white lies
cause to me they are both the same.
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of course i would be mad. i don't like liars. all my friends no that i always give people 2 chances.. for me, when they lie to me the first time, my trust with them will never be the same. i forgive.. but then i won't ever forget about it. i'd like to make sure they all know that fact about me . (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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bad habit...i dun trust ppl like that.i stay away from them.well i try anywayz.
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I'd be really hurt, but also really pissed off at him if he was to do that to me, if they can't tell you the truth about what they actually did or if they've seen that movie, ect. then they more then likely have something to hide.
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People think that lies will somehow cover up the things they did
and they tend to think that it will make the other person feel better
and hurt them less than the truth.
A lie is a lie.
The person would be MORE hurt if they found out that their S/O
lied to them rather than telling them the truth.
The truth hurts, butt lies hurt even more.
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I hate lies (AND liars), and I'll get very upset over the matter. And yes, I'll lose trust in that person.
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who likes to be lied to??????????????
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yes i would be mad. because im trusting him to tell me the truth, but then he's actually lying.
even if they did something you don't want them to. i think they should just tell you. it would be easier to work things out when you find out by the truth then for the person to lie. and u find out about it later.
confusing???
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eh, I think it's lame, they should just come out with the truth... I mean, I can deal with it...
just leaving me to find out about it later would show me that the guy knew that he was doing something wrong but he was too afraid to tell me about it -____-; which is lame
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i hate lies period. if my bf wanted to go somewhere he'd go instead of lie to me, cause i find out later on when he lies and then im wondering why did he lie..is there someone else? i mean if u lie there has to be a reason why he doesnt want me to know...:/ i'd eventually lose my trust
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definitely..
any lie is a lie!!!!
untolerable...
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Yes id be pissed mini cooper.less.. generally i hate LIES. I would get so mad/hurt if my bf or someone close to me lied n let me find later through someone else. If i find out someone constantly lies to me, id be soo fed up ill eventually lose trust in them n not want to deal with them anymore.
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I cant stand people like that. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)
It's just a LIE when people say they only lied so they wouldnt hurt you.
PFFT.
