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What happened:
Well, I've been going out with one girl for 7 months and just the day before the 7 months, she had to break up with me. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) Not because she didn't love me or anything like that, but because her older brother found out we were going out and told her mum.
How it all happened:
So yep, this is the story. It's kinda long, so if you don't feel like reading, you're more than welcome to look at another thread. (Not to be mean or anything, but yeah..)
Well, it started off with me going to the City (Sydney, Aus). People from the same area will know what I'm talking about, but let's just say it's like any normal city, shops, businesses, food, etc, etc. I actually went to the City all by myself on train. It's pretty far, but I went there because I wanted to buy something for her for 7 months, which was the day after.
Well, I got to the City, then I decided to go to an Internet Cafe to maybe talk to my girlfriend and ask her what she might want, because there's a ton of things in the city. I went to the nearest internet cafe I could find and then that's when it all happened. /3.
I logged onto my Bebo account, saw a new comment from her and this is what it said.
Im sorry. i sent you an email.
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We no longer know each other
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So, I was like (IMG:style_emoticons/default/unsure.gif) but if you think about it, We no longer know each other is pretty mean. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mellow.gif) Well, yeah, I was wondering what I did wrong, but I didn't do anything, so I thought it would've been something else. I checked hotmail and saw the email.
She just said that she was sorry, her mum and brother found out and she had to end it there. And then she said that she still loves me and will be looking for me in 3 years when she is allowed to have a boyfriend.
So yeah, by that time I was like (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) hoping that the people sitting by my side wouldn't notice, but I just felt like I lost everything.. Minutes later I just walked out of the Internet Cafe, didn't want to buy anything and just wanted to go home. I saw my mum on the way and we went to McDonalds, and she kept annoying me, and then I was looking away because I was just about to cry, and then she said what's wrong? and yeah, that's when I cried like a baby, in front of so many people at McDonalds. Oh well, I don't care. I told her and yeah, she explained that I had to understand why the mum had to do that, she's just protecting her daughter, and all those things.
So, now what?
I understand that her mum wants to protect her and ensure that she gets a good education, that's why I'm willing to wait the full 3 years just to be with her again. She said she'd still talk to me and be friends with me and that she'll be looking for me in 3 years time.
Well, atleast I'll know that we were really meant to be if we are together again in 3 YEARS time, and I'll also know that she really did love me all that time.
I need advice: (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Ok, so I have to wait 3 years. If you ask me, that's a pretty DAMN long wait, but I'll do it just because I love her that much. I'm trying to get used to just being her friend, but it really hurts not to be more than a friend, but I guess it's better than losing her altogether, eh?
I want to get over her so I can focus on my studies, since I'm going to a different school next year for tertiary education, but at the same time, I don't want to lose my feelings for her. I just want to keep it on the low until the right time comes. Anyways, I have no idea if she will be there in 3 years time, or if she'll get over me, so this is probably what's best for me, even though she said that she's sure she will be there in 3 years time and that she wouldn't get over me or fall in love with someone else.
1) How do I get over her and at the same time still have strong feelings for her, ready for when the time comes? (I don't want to have too much feelings for her since I have no idea if she'll let me down, but just enough to get me through the years to come)
2) If in 3 years time we are together again, what do you think the mum and brother will think of me?
3) What would you do in my situation, especially if you REALLY REALLY love her?
Sorry for the extremely long post! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) Oh no, first and foremost, feel better and cheer up.
if i was in your situation, i wouldn't wait.
i mean, i guess... if you really love her and you are sure she will be the same even after 3 loonnng years, it'd be fine.
but unless you're planning to marry her or something, i don't think its worth all that trouble you know?
however. its your decision
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3 years is a long time.
think about how much people can change in a few months...
imagine the both of you changing a lot in the next three years.
just move on for now, and if you still feel something towards her in 3 years, then go for it.
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Itz okay..
Cheer up ^___^
Three years is a pretty long time tho......
=(
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if you really love her.. 3 years is nothing.
if you really like her, dont complain.. it shouldnt be a problem for you.
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^
true.
Have patience! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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wow i have never read anything that long in my life haha jk
well, if you think about it the past three years went by in a flash!
well, for me it did hehe. so three years will be a snap. *snaps* O-o;
that sucks that her mum doesnt let her date. stupid mum. hehe i fergot that you were in australia and was wondering why you were saying mum instead of mom =D
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if she says that u guys no longer know each other than y does she say to wait for her for 3 more yrs?
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I guess her brother told her to say that because I asked her after and she said she would still be talking to me and everything, just no touching or anything like that.
It just hurts to just a friend after all we've been through, because I love her more than that, but I guess it's better than having her pretend to act like she doesn't know me or something like that..
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Umm, she sent me an email:
where have you been these days ?
not on msn . not replying to my emailz .
well . i hope your ok .
u know u won`t wait for me for 3 years !
u`ll get use to not having me after 3 weeks ,
i know your really confused and stuck at the moment but you can atleast send me an email right ?
we can still be friends if u want .
xx. -`jess .
It kind of hurts me that she doesn't think I'm willing to wait that long after all we've been through. Maybe if I talked to her in person about it all, she'd take me more seriously..
Any advice? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) I want her to know that I will be there in 3 years.
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Umm, she sent me an email:
It kind of hurts me that she doesn't think I'm willing to wait that long after all we've been through. Maybe if I talked to her in person about it all, she'd take me more seriously..
Any advice? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) I want her to know that I will be there in 3 years.
I think she knows you better than you know yourself...she already thinks she's losing you, but she chose to break up w/ you so she can't have both ways. It sounds like she wants to cling onto you while your not together. People can change so much in a year, let alone three. Not to mention other people you might meet. I think timing is extremely important. I would advise not to wait for her, but if three years comes around and both of you still have feelings for each other then you are very lucky.
btw, how old are you? how old is she?
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1) How do I get over her and at the same time still have strong feelings for her, ready for when the time comes? (I don't want to have too much feelings for her since I have no idea if she'll let me down, but just enough to get me through the years to come)
ha if i were u.. (im a girl btw) id just avoid for a bit.. until the feelings kinda fades..but entirely u noe wut im saying?
2) If in 3 years time we are together again, what do you think the mum and brother will think of me?
=__='' thats a tough one...well u can only understand a person fully if u put ur self in their shoes.. who knows haha they might think its really TRUE LOVE *wink*..dont mind me =__=
3) What would you do in my situation, especially if you REALLY REALLY love her?
yes well i was in this situation before..and i was kinda rejected harsher ==_+'' due to family situations it was really complicated.( i was literally kinda crazy for him lol well liked him REALLY REALLY MUCH)...yeah later on we promised to wait..that time i was like ooh i wouldnt love anyone else better than him..but today.. O.O wow i guess i moved on . dont have feelings anymore..but whenever i do see him i still get a lil tug in the heart LOL..but anways..this might sound a lil dramatic..but time heals everything...
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wow i have never read anything that long in my life haha jk
well, if you think about it the past three years went by in a flash!
well, for me it did hehe. so three years will be a snap. *snaps* O-o;
that sucks that her mum doesnt let her date. stupid mum. hehe i fergot that you were in australia and was wondering why you were saying mum instead of mom =D
wow, that line made me go O.O. 3 years has went by in a flash, and so that means in 3 years time i'll be turning 19! omg, life is too short T_T.
back on topic, if you really really do love her, you can wait. but i guess i can't say much that's going to help you since you already know that there's a chance that she might move on and fall for someone, but that can happen to you too. you might meet someone at your new school and you might fall for that girl. all i can say is good luck. if you two are meant to be together than in 3 years time, you will be together again =).
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=\ im sorry.. i guess im sorta in the same position in you.. my parents wont let me date, but that's not the problem. mine moved half way across the country, he said he would wait for me for a year, ONE year, he would come back, but now..he's starting to develop feelings for someone else. and he doesnt know what he wants..and iono what to do..cuz it's yeah. but you shouldnt worry about it too much, i am assuming you're still young, if it's meant to be, it will find a way. just try your best to live your life the way it was, keep yourself busy so you wont think of her soo much. man this is a really long entry.
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IT'S OKAYY
in like 4th grade my best friend moved to Japan and my mom said I could visit her the year I'm a freshman in high school
(that's 5 years)
I'm still copinggg, time passes by, if you enjoy yourself, those 3 years will fly by
(times flies when you're having fun)
xD
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the problem is, u dont kno whether your ''girlfriend' will be able to wait for 3 years..
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(IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) aww...bad luck!
i'd say date other people until the 3 years are over. if by then you still like her and she's still looking for you, then you guys can start over again. there's also a chance of you falling in love with someone else right? who knows? and if you're thinking, well, yeah...but she says that if i really do love her then i should wait... or i don't want her to think i'm unfaithful then don't you think she should've stood up to her parents about it? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif)
honestly, i know how hard it is to get over someone, but that's why there's more than one girl in the world right? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif)
cheer up, it's not the worst situation in the world...give it some time and i'm sure you'll work it out! ^^
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hmm I guess I should focus on my studies and just hope that I'll still have feelings for her after all that time. I guess that if she doesn't give up on me and doesn't get over me, I have no reason to give up on her and get over her aswell. =]
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How old are you..?
have u completed ur hsc yet?..
just asking to understand ur situation more.
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3 years is a pretty long time .. but if you guys can make it through
those 3 years, than you guys can overcome anything together :]
