Question:
Okay, the title is kind of misleading. I don't know if I like him, but I used to like him about two or three years ago. When I liked him, I liked him alot. I like hanging out with him now, and I like talking to him When were watching the movies I would use his shoulder to put my head on when I was tired. I dance with him everytime it's a dance or homecoming.
Now.
My best friend confessed she like him and they might go out. The three of us had been friend for a long time, almost eleven years to be exact. Yesterday, we all went out. While we were in the movies they both leaned on each other, and I couldn't help but feel jealous. They held hands and ate together later on. I don't know what's happening to me. I thought I wouldn't feel anything when I see them together, but it always proves to be wrong. All I know is, that I'll miss the times we hang out. It won't be the same any more.
What should I do? I became teary-eyed yesterday in the movies. My other friend, She told me not to make it too obvious, which I didn't because I left with another friend to hang out since the movie was boring.
I don't know what to do. I had to ask advice on here because all my friends know each other so yeah...
I want to support my friend to date him, because she needs this long deserved happiness and she's very dear to me.
Has anyone ever been stuck in this situation? How can you handle it.
Edit//
I didn't confess my feelings to him two years ago, because we were really close that year. More close than he is with the girl he likes right now. He would call me and ask advice on this other girl he used to like very much. She never actually returned his affections, but me on the other hand, I couldn't tell him, because he liked someone else very much and if he found out that I liked him he would not ask me for help anymore or might not talk to me at all. And I really liked him, I didn't want to lose him and I wanted to be there to help him with everything, since that's all I can do for him. Thanks for all the advice everyone...(IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Sadly tommorow I'm forced to spend halloween with the two of them, since all my other friends are going with them too...so yeah.
Answer:
Find another guy? This can be hard for you, but move on. He has got his eyes on another girl, unless you're willing to break your friendship with your friend(WHICH I DONT RECOMMEND).
Answer:
well i kinda in this situaation. biut not really. i've meet him this year. i like him yes but there is this other friend who also likes him. I never knew she had liked him because when he asked her for mai number she gave it to him and she never said anything to me about it. Then later ons she was lyk i lyk him. i felt guilty and now i am not tlaking to nether of them. I went to the movies today and lyk a frd invited him, i didn';t know he was coming till da LAST MINUTE. i wanted to leave but i really wanted to watch da movie so i stayed. ended up a huge ish argument.
but i dont think you should end the frdship with ur frds. i think you should surport them. and as for you, leave them for a while and give urself some time. there's a chance he mihgt like you and is probably going out wif her to get you jealous? .
so yeah good luck. i donno if this will acually help but i hope it does. good luck (: im trying to forget too. da pains gonna ease. .
Answer:
Been there earlier this year. I made jokes out of it. I would move their hands away from each other, and stuff when they we were all together. Even though they knew I was joking. Nonetheless, all you can do is detach your feelings over time. I can imagine that it's hard. Over time I would suggest finding another guy.
Answer:
Find another guy.. There's nothing else you can really do because, like you said you're not even sure if you like him? But from what you said, and how you say you're feeling now, I think it's quite obvious that you do..
But, I don't think that your friendship with your girl friend is worth ruining over a guy. Sure, it may hurt now--to see them together, so stop hanging out with them for a while. Over time, your feelings for him might start to lesson to where you're okay with being around them again.
Answer:
All comes down to how much you like the guy. I'm in a simliar situation right now, and I know it hurts.
If you really feel like letting it out, by all means do. You can tell him and it'll be be an option he can consider. Even though it will be arkward afterwards, just do what will make YOU feel better. Even though you might be good friends with both of them, emotions are emotions.
Or suck it up and move on. Anyway, I wish you luck.
Answer:
whoa i used to be in the same situation. the three of us were real close, but then he started to like her and she slowly started to like him back. i didn't know it then, but i think i sort of liked him too. i was probably blinded by the fact that my two best friends were going out, and it felt uncomfortable for me to be inbetween them.
i don't recommend acting like it's not happening, which was what i did. i didn't take it seriously at all and made it very light. i agree with inari; you can just do what you feel is right or keep moving. DO NOT act as a back-up and get together with him when his heart is broken by her; unless he really seems to like you and you him. remember, time doesn't stand still for anyone to recuperate. you have to do it as you keep moving, ya dig? lol. anyway good luck with it!!
Answer:
Oh mi gosh! I remember that I confessed my feelings to my bestfriend and got rejected. And reading this makes me feel soooooooooo sorry for you!!!!!!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
If you like him that much, maybe you just should tell him? But remember this, if you tell him this, your friendship/relationship with him PROBABLY will change. Gosh, you've come to an awful situation girl!! LOL; you need all the good luck!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
Answer:
It may not be that your jealous of their 'relationship' that may happen. It could be that your upset and sad that you guys won't be the same anymore, or if you guys are all together you feel like a 3rd wheel. Or you may be thinking that since you use to like him, that you shouldn't be the person watching from afar at what could've been.
Just my conclusion (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) dun be hatin~
Answer:
it kinda sux being the odd person out when there's three of u..their always gunna be like that..so..either find urself ur own boyfriend..or stop hanging out with those two..why didn't u confess ur feelings to him 2 yrs ago?
Answer:
^ same question. now would be a bit too late to confess.
If you confess now, it might break everything apart..
I guess you will just have to travel your road a lone for a bit,
until someone else comes into view.. Make new friends,
they might not be as GREAT as them two, but you will need
people to hang out with here and there..
BUt dont' lose contact with those two.. they might be in love
they might not be.. just hang in there.
Answer:
yea that sucks huh
i joked around too to cover up my feelings
like stop being so coupley, there are unfortunate single people here! T__T;;
prepare for a lot of unhappiness though..
if you confess right now, you could end up losing two, not one friend.
Answer:
ouch.. thats gotta be hard for u
but i can sorta undertsnad how u feel..
u might be jealous..
butu mite also be upste over the fact that u and that guy friend of urz..
can not be the same as before anymore..leaning on shoulder and stuff..
and you're juss missing that fact....
over time.. im sure u will be able to work out which one it is
Answer:
:/ he likes my friend...and she just broke up with her bf..i wonder wut will happen between them, but i guess its always better just to pretend nothing's wrong and just let go of ur feelings for him slowly. thats the only thing you can do. or find another guy.
Answer:
Aww..That must really suck. If you can, try to supress your feelings...I mean, it's eleven years worth of friendship you're putting on line here....
Answer:
That's so sad... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) I feel that you're a good person and wishes your friends' happiness. Its too late now to tell your bestfriend how you feel for him (although you were the first one to like him)or else, your friendship with them will be totally ruined forever coz they like eachother now and it would be wrong if you try to break them up.
Try to be happy for them and eventually you will find a man that's right for you. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
Answer:
For a moment, when you said there's a twist, I thought your best friend is gay or something.
What I think is that no matter how hard it seems, try to surpress your feelings for him. Because if you don't, you end up losing 2 friends.
I feel that you should try to be the same and do not avoid them when unnecessarily. This just made it more obvious.
Also, you said you used to like him, and you don't know if you like him now. Maybe now that you see the 2 of them together, you felt left out so it leads to a false assumption that you still have feelings for him. What I suggest is that you let some time pass to see whether you really like him or not.
Answer:
Edit//
I didn't confess my feelings to him two years ago, because we were really close that year. More close than he is with the girl he likes right now. He would call me and ask advice on this other girl he used to like very much. She never actually returned his affections, but me on the other hand, I couldn't tell him, because he liked someone else very much and if he found out that I liked him he would not ask me for help anymore or might not talk to me at all. And I really liked him, I didn't want to lose him and I wanted to be there to help him with everything, since that's all I can do for him. Thanks for all the advice everyone...(IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Sadly tommorow I'm forced to spend halloween with the two of them, since all my other friends are going with them too...so yeah.[/font]
no no no no no...u assume too much..all the feelings you had for him..maybe he had it for you too..the reason why he never made a move is because maybe he thought u weren't interested..just like how u thought he was never interested in you...you assume too much...maybe if u confessed he would confess his feelings for you too..you never know....
normally i would say to be selfish and try to break them up because u liked him first..but..i don't think u should do that..what u should do is talk to him and say ur really happy for him and your female friend and that u wish them the best (because you do, right?)...and then say (jokingly) actually i used to like you too a couple of years ago and then at that time he would either say..oh really..i used to like u too..or..lol..stop lying..whatever..as long as all ur feelings are out in the open...its hard keeping ur feelings bottled up inside..they eat away at you. (martin lawrence in big momma's house)
Answer:
Oh god. You are almost in the exact situation as I am in!
If you reveal your feelings to him, you risk creating an awkward situation between you two if he doesn't feel the same way. I say stick it out for a while. Don't do anything that might reveal your feelings and see how he acts when it's just you two alone and let your instinct guide you. Ask yourself, What are the consequences if I confess? and weigh the pros and cons. But basically, as corny as this sounds, follow your heart. Do what you feel is the right thing to do.
If you're afraid of losing him, don't say anything at all. That is your safest option. But if you take that route, prepare yourself for pangs of jealousy and hurt.
If you care more about your girl friend, then supress your feelings and move on. But just remember, there are times in life when you have to be selfish and fight for what you want. If you always let people have their way, when will you ever be happy?
Answer:
let them be together..it kills you..but.. hey..you'll live..
its not like they're back stabbing you..
my cousin married the guy i used to like..he used to like me too.. she knew it because i used to tell her about him... and i still can't get rid of that but i'm living with it...
somewhere along the line..you'll meet someone..
if they're open to each other's feelings more so than you can be with him..then i think you should let them stay together..
its cliche to say it but..you'll survive this one!!
