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so I'm sure many people have had a S.O. who was older than them and went off to college first.
did you guys break up or stay together?
what grade were you guys in?
details? i.e., if you stayed together, how did you manage to stay close and spend time with each other?
if you broke up, why?
oh and what if neither of you can drive? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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Well...my ex and I weren't different ages, but we went to different colleges. In the same state, but still far away from each other.
She broke it off...I was pretty sad for a good 3-4 months, but I'm alright now, though I still think of her. It's part of college I guess. Just gotta move on.
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I started going out with my girlfriend during her last few weeks of high school and we went out for the 2.5 months of summer that we had before she moved 400 miles up to UC Berkeley. It's been a little over 2.5 months since she's gone up, but we're still together and still going strong.
To be honest, neither of us were sure how'd it'd all work out in the end, but we both knew it was something worth trying for. It's tough not seeing each other everyday like we used to, but I'll drive or fly up once a month and she'll fly down once a month so we end up seeing each other about every 2 weeks. It's a great feeling to finally see and hug and kiss someone you've been dying to for weeks. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif)
And if you can't drive, there's always public transportation or flying (depending on how far they are.)
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i ended up breaking up with him before summer started, cuz i knew it would get harder as time passed by, and i wasn't happy anyway. but he didn't seem to care.
but i kno of a lot of long distance relationships that work out great. :-)
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I started going out with my girlfriend during her last few weeks of high school and we went out for the 2.5 months of summer that we had before she moved 400 miles up to UC Berkeley. It's been a little over 2.5 months since she's gone up, but we're still together and still going strong.
To be honest, neither of us were sure how'd it'd all work out in the end, but we both knew it was something worth trying for. It's tough not seeing each other everyday like we used to, but I'll drive or fly up once a month and she'll fly down once a month so we end up seeing each other about every 2 weeks. It's a great feeling to finally see and hug and kiss someone you've been dying to for weeks. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wub.gif)
And if you can't drive, there's always public transportation or flying (depending on how far they are.)
happy to hear that you guys are still going strong.
makes me feel like i have a change because i like a senior right now and so...yeah. i'm a sophomore.
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well, me & my s.o started dating ever since last year & for a good 9 months. i'm still in high school & he's already in college. the relationship was really great and we cherished all the moments & times that we spent together.. until we couldn't really see each other as much as we could have before & even though we want to, we weren't. for me, it wasn't really that much of a problem since all i have is school. but for him, he has school, a job, & he's also a dedicated christian so he spends a lot of time doing church activities as well. in order for him to be focused at church, he found it really hard later because he spent a lot of time worrying about me because he felt bad that he had to cancel some of our dates we planned & that we weren't able to spend as much time together.. & that our relationship wasn't going great.
so we talked about it.. & we decided to put off our relationship later on when we both have much more free time & when we are able to actually have a healthy relationship without any problems to worry about. so we still like each other ever since our break up & we still hang out with each other when we have time. the only thing that's changed is we don't act like a couple. so yeah, i'm happy about everything and where we are right now. as long as our feelings are still the same, that's all that matters to me (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
(oh my friggin gosh. i just vented in another thread again (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) i need stop doing this everytime i'm bored or when i can't sleep (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
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ummmm ..... whats an S.O.?
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^ i believe S.O. means significant other (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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well, me & my s.o started dating ever since last year & for a good 9 months. i'm still in high school & he's already in college. the relationship was really great and we cherished all the moments & times that we spent together.. until we couldn't really see each other as much as we could have before & even though we want to, we weren't. for me, it wasn't really that much of a problem since all i have is school. but for him, he has school, a job, & he's also a dedicated christian so he spends a lot of time doing church activities as well. in order for him to be focused at church, he found it really hard later because he spent a lot of time worrying about me because he felt bad that he had to cancel some of our dates we planned & that we weren't able to spend as much time together.. & that our relationship wasn't going great.
so we talked about it.. & we decided to put off our relationship later on when we both have much more free time & when we are able to actually have a healthy relationship without any problems to worry about. so we still like each other ever since our break up & we still hang out with each other when we have time. the only thing that's changed is we don't act like a couple. so yeah, i'm happy about everything and where we are right now. as long as our feelings are still the same, that's all that matters to me (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
(oh my friggin gosh. i just vented in another thread again (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif) i need stop doing this everytime i'm bored or when i can't sleep (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sleep.gif)
so you guys broke up but not really?
so basically it's the same except you guys don't act like a couple and don't spend as much time together?
do you guys still feel committed to each other then?
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we're still together & see each other everyday (:
edit// nvm, my answer doesn't count. i thought the question was for people
whos s.o is in college, while ones not. now i know its for people who moved away & stuff.
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long distance relationships will eventually not work out, I reccomend getting out of it now before things get complicated in the future.
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im afraid of this too, because my bf&i have been together for 15 months...and we're both seniors now. i'm really scared of what'll happen...there's a good chance we may go to the same university, but if we don't...i hope we stay together :T i can't imagine my life without him (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif) (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tears.gif)
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Hes 19 im 15, and he has just announced we go on a break =] fun isn't it. Hes four hours away. all the times we've seen each other since hes gone is me going to see him. FOUR HOURS BY TRAIN (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) i dont get to see him much, maybe once every 2 weeks. But now we're on a break i dunno when i'll see him. he started uni this year. we've been dating on and off (my fault lol) for over a year.
He says he needs a break cos of uni work and cos he wants to wait til im old enough (im 16 in jan). but he also said the break will be for as long as it needs o.O (confused) And its now AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP, meaning we can see/sleep with other people. On the other hand he said i want to marry you in the furture errr yeah, is that supposed to mean anything? lol i know it sounds like i dont trust him (TRUST AND COMMUNICATION ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS lol) but yeah its an open relationship, so he might sleep with someone...but i do trust him about the rest of it (that hes not making things up to date another girl)
I honestly dont know how long we will last, but if we do break up it will either be because of my trust issues, me seeing another guy or him seeing another girl. Before, we were pretty much, oh i miss you, love you, etc, over the phone/msn/text. Now he never has time to talk cos of his uni work (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) which is pretty upsetting, but i'll get over it. Yeah if we do break up i actually wouldn't be too surprised, but it would prob be all my fault.
I hope you much luck with your relationship =] x
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so you guys broke up but not really?
so basically it's the same except you guys don't act like a couple and don't spend as much time together?
do you guys still feel committed to each other then?
pretty much. well, our feelings are still the same but we know we're not in a relationship as the same as before. we're just.. friends but we don't consider each other as just friends but we don't consider each other as bf & gf anymore either... meh. it's pretty confusing.. x_X
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we broke up, couldnt stand long distance relationship
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it's not really a long distance relationship...since we're not too far from each other (like half an hour). sometimes it's hard seeing each other just once a week for only an hour or so. But I've gotten used to it by now.
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We've been long distance for 2.5 months, and we only started going out in June. But, it's going really well. It's hard sometimes though. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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Hes 19 im 15, and he has just announced we go on a break =] fun isn't it. Hes four hours away. all the times we've seen each other since hes gone is me going to see him. FOUR HOURS BY TRAIN (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) i dont get to see him much, maybe once every 2 weeks. But now we're on a break i dunno when i'll see him. he started uni this year. we've been dating on and off (my fault lol) for over a year.
He says he needs a break cos of uni work and cos he wants to wait til im old enough (im 16 in jan). but he also said the break will be for as long as it needs o.O (confused) And its now AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP, meaning we can see/sleep with other people. On the other hand he said i want to marry you in the furture errr yeah, is that supposed to mean anything? lol i know it sounds like i dont trust him (TRUST AND COMMUNICATION ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS lol) but yeah its an open relationship, so he might sleep with someone...but i do trust him about the rest of it (that hes not making things up to date another girl)
I honestly dont know how long we will last, but if we do break up it will either be because of my trust issues, me seeing another guy or him seeing another girl. Before, we were pretty much, oh i miss you, love you, etc, over the phone/msn/text. Now he never has time to talk cos of his uni work (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif) which is pretty upsetting, but i'll get over it. Yeah if we do break up i actually wouldn't be too surprised, but it would prob be all my fault.
I hope you much luck with your relationship =] x
heh the guy i like is 17 now. (he's a young senior.) i'll be 16 in january too!
we're not really in a relationship but i think he likes me. i'm thinking that i should tell him, just so we can get our feelings out in the open, you know? i'm just hesitating because i wonder what our relationship would be like, or if he would even want to get into one since he's going to leave for college soon. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
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heh the guy i like is 17 now. (he's a young senior.) i'll be 16 in january too!
we're not really in a relationship but i think he likes me. i'm thinking that i should tell him, just so we can get our feelings out in the open, you know? i'm just hesitating because i wonder what our relationship would be like, or if he would even want to get into one since he's going to leave for college soon. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sad.gif)
Well, college isn't for another 9 or 10 months. I think that's plenty of time to start a relationship and since there are no guarantees, I'm not sure it'd be safe to assume you'll date that long since you're still unsure if your situation and feelings for each other right now. I say give it a shot. College is still a ways away.
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Well, college isn't for another 9 or 10 months. I think that's plenty of time to start a relationship and since there are no guarantees, I'm not sure it'd be safe to assume you'll date that long since you're still unsure if your situation and feelings for each other right now. I say give it a shot. College is still a ways away.
lol thanks.
i'm just slightly paranoid and i didn't think about how long we'd even be together.
those were some good points.
