This might be a little long
Last year I was doing this show for my dad's reunion. Well, that morning my bf and I had gotten into a bad fight & I didn't feel like going to the show anymore (not like they needed me anyways, but I wanted to do it just to see my friends). So, my friend (she's a close friend) calls me and I'm crying and stuff and she asks what's wrong and I tell her about all the stuff that had gone wrong and I ask if she could come pick me up (since my bf was gonna drop me off but I didn't feel like sitting in the car with him). So she comes and picks me up, I wash my face b4 hand (I don't need people knowing I was crying and stuff). So the whole time we're getting ready, I feel really uncomfortable around everyone, like they didn't like me or they didn't want me there. After everyone got ready, we waited around until the program started. No one talked to me except for one of the new girls, so I text messaged my bf asking him to pick me up ASAP. The show finally starts and near the end, the girl that came to pick me up passed out. Everyone was freaking out and one of the other girls freaked out and blacked out for a bit. The ambulance came for the girl that passed out and I followed the other girl to the hotel room. I stayed there with them for a bit made sure she was alrite and then went home with my boyfriend. I was really worried about the girl that passed out and wanted to text her to make sure she was ok, but I knew she wouldn't get signal in the hospital so I wanted to wait until sunday to see her.
Sunday rolled around, I logged on to xanga and everyone from the program had entries about what a cold hearted B I was. One of the other girls wrote a long entry saying how no one even liked me in the first place adn that they just tolerated me cuz my mom had married my step-dad, so they HAD to accept me in the group. Then they said how I was lying about crying cuz I was all happy around them when I got there. All the girls called me a drama queen and wished I would die and go to h*ll. And then my friend posted up an entry B**tching me out too and said I better stay away from her or she'll beat me up.
I wanted to apologize and explain myself, but they didn't even care what I had to say and posted all that up online....
What should I do?
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those people aren't your friends, if they talk like that to you. if they were your friends they would have helped you and said it to your face. those scardy cats.
but it's never too late to apologize to anyone. i remeber i said something really wrong to my ex-boyfriend and it took me a week or two to say i was sorry. it's takes time, but it's better to apologize then to not apologize.
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I'm kinda scared to talk to them cuz she said she was gonna pound my face in if I ever talked to her or go anywhere near her. They said they only way I'm allowed to be anywhere near them is if my parents invite me.
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those people are NOT your friends
don't apologize to them
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... yeah i figured they weren't my friends when they told me they only tolerated me. but i still feel so bad, and they really made it seem like I was their friend.
I'm so gullible.
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... yeah i figured they weren't my friends when they told me they only tolerated me. but i still feel so bad, and they really made it seem like I was their friend.
I'm so gullible.
but still, what's to apologize about?
I'm sorry I pretended to be happy so I didn't ruin your fun
I'm sorry my mom married some guy
I'm sorry I'm who I am
it's sort of.. I mean, there's nothing to say. Unless you wanna go along the lines of
I'm sorry you're a bunch of poo heads
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Apologizing is apologizing no matter whether the people are nice are not. If you feel that you have to explain yourself and apologize because you think that you did something wrong, you should do it. Now whether they accept the apology and/or believe you is up to them & you can't do anything about that. But if they happen to continue with the way they are acting now, don't worry about it, they're not worth the time.
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you know what, i take that back. they were acting like total stuck-up ignorant girls.
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i'm confused. what are you apologizing for? you made that girl pass out?
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talk to them with your fists
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talk to them with your fists
does everything has to resort to violence with u?
But I agree with JapaneseObesession. what are u apologizing for? they are just trying to make you feel out of place and the more they do it and each time you take it upon youself that you are the cause of every situation they point out, it gets easier for them to make you feel depressed. I believe that you did not do anything wrong and that they are just pointing fingers in random directions and that they just targeted you out because you are not blood related to them, which in my opinion is F**KED up cause sometimes blood does not run thicker than water.
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haha. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/fury.gif)
NOPE!! if i were you i wouldnt say sorry because i didnt do anything wrong.
it's their fault for not listening and jumping to conclusion.
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How old are you?
Seriously the way those girls are acting...seems like they're only around the age of 14-15.
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people who talk trash like that don`t deserve apologies.
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why give them an apology when they wont be mature enough to accept it?
also, that friend of yours who also wrote stuff about you doesnt seem to be your friend... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
i dont see what you need to apologize for. those girls should be the ones apologizing for being so obnoxious and immature. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif) especially when they blog it online and dont say it to your face... they're the drama queens themselves for doing that... (IMG:style_emoticons/default/mad.gif)
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I'm 22, I was 21 at the time. Those girls were between the ages of 18 & 20, the girl that wrote the long entry about me on her xanga is 30.
I wanted to apologize to the girls for not seeming like I cared and that I should have done something the night she got hurt. I figured that it would be better if I went to see her the next day because I wanted to be with her myself & not wait my turn to talk to her after a bunch of people.
They call me a drama queen because of all the times I go to them with my problems (which isn't even much cuz I talk to them like once a week or every other week).
That sucks that this whole time I actually thought they were my friends.
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^ holy crap, they are freakin' old people. i thought you might be what? 16? my goodness, pathetic. 30?!!?? HOLY CRAP!
okay enough spazzing. well if you wanna apologize somehow, then you should. like someone already said, apologizing is apologizing. it's never too late, really. people who say it's too late are drama queens/kings themselves. you don't need these people screwing around with your mind; their friendship isn't worth crap for the world.
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holy CRAP, so they were pretty much young adults (and a middle aged one)...what the hell are they, 5 years old? honestly, they totally aren't worth your time..and your 'friend' is jacked up. if you want to apologize to them, then go ahead and apologize; it never hurts to apologize..but if they're not gonna accept it, then just forget them and move on. you deserve better than the crappy way they're treating you; you're much better than them (:
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thanks for the advice guys... and you'd think once you get older, you'd be more mature
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...What exactly did you apologize for? Here is what I got from your post:
You went to a program to see your friends
The girl who gave you a ride passed out
You checked on her to make sure she was okay, then you went home.
So...everyone is commenting on how mean those other girls were, but what exactly did you do? What explaining is there to do?