Question:
Hmm alright. I have never done this before....he:)
I've known this boy who is a year younger than me for three years.
First year, we were pretty cool with each other because we were in ASB together. And he was sort of my successor persay. When he was freshman senator I was sophomore senator, when he was sophomore senator I was junior senator and so on.
During his sophomore year, he started dating this girl and eventually became boyfriend and girlfriend. In the beginning, while he was in the relationship, we didn't really talk at all, even though we sat next to each other in ASB. However, later on in the year (after they broke up, she dumped him. He told me that he had a hard time trusting her vice versa) we started talking again. And I found it very peculiar. Almost to a point where I thought he was just getting close to me just to learn my tactics and the way I think and then turn around and challenge me by running against me for ASB President. (keep your friends close but enemies closer)
It became obvious that this was not the case. He told me countless times that out of the two people he actually repected and trusted in this world, one of them was me. I knew this was true when he started telling me his plans for his own presidency in the future.
Then....welll. We started talking all the time. He would sign on AIM a lot more. Sometimes we'd talk on the phone for 4+ hours.
But....
A lot of the things we talk about is business. We'd talk about our constituents, the meetings we'd attend, the administration, plans for the school. But this doesn't mean that we dont' talk about anything else, just a majority of what the topic is is always about something business oriented.
A lot of my friends tell me that he likes me, and I'm actually beginning to believe that. But I can't help but sometimes feel that the only reason why he talks to me is because he trusts me and values me as a friend. But I certainly have feelings for him.
There are just the cutest things that he does though! ^__^ Haha, he keeps things that I write for him and calls me when he doesnt' see me online at 10 PM because he's afraid that I'd overnap (which he knows that I'd want him to call me to wake me up). One time I was walking right behind him and someone called out my name and he immediately looked in the direction where he heard my name. Simple things like that really make me melt inside. He'll IM me right away once I sign on.
Dances make him insanely uncomfortable. He likes classic rock and doesn't think its' weird to sing loudly in public. He's extremely mature for his age. Many of his peers respect him because of his high intellect.
So I guess....the purpose of writing this post is...
Should I confess? Or should I just wait it out?
I guess what's keeping me from confessing is that i know he doesn't want a relationship right now.
Ekkkk and winter formal is coming soon. I'm a senior and this'll be my last chance to attend. But I know how he feels about dances and all..
S.O.S? Haha (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Thaanks!
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hmm.. dont confess yet..
ask him to the formal..
if he agrees to go with u... then it shows that he likes u...
so confess to him at the formal..
if he doesnt agree to go with u... then wait it out
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^yea that's a good idea
i think you should confess, but when you are really close
ask him to ekkk(?) or winter formal, even though he doesn't like dances
it's a good place to get closer- and if he doesn't wanna dance, you can just talk (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
even though he doesn't want a relationship, i bet he would go out with you
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lols well i dunn really KNO if he really likes yu? :x
and i also have almost the same problem w/ this guy.
and i get mad and crazy to find out if he likes me or not. lols
buhh hmmm i wouldnt confess yet. buh wat ayu said is what yu should do(: g'luck!
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Ask him out? Ahh I'm wayyy too chicken to!!
We actually talked about it last night.
*a = me
e = him
e: are you going to winterball?
*a: no
e: dont you feel guilty
e: for not going
*a: yeahh
*a: hahaha
*a: cause i should support clubs
*a: and stuff
*a: but what do you want me to do
*a: go stag?
e: and its not like you dont dance
e: you should go pursue ppl
e: or not reject that guy
e: who asked you
*a: he's going with christine
e: nowwwwww
e: b/c you rejected him
e: the poor thing
*a: omgosh
*a: that was soooo random
*a: i don't even talk to him
e: i know
e: sooo
e: he mustered up the courage to ask you
e: like david
e: and jen
e: seeee???
e: life can be spontaneous
*a: sigh
*a: i give up
*a: you have something against me and dances
e: no i dont
e: its just that you should go
e: if you dont mind dancing
e: you should go
e: and have a blast
*a: haha
*a: we'll see
e: wheeh?
e: what kind of answer is that
*a: open to spontaneity
e: what happned to the first guy eh
e: sad
e: sad
e: shame
*a: omg stop!
*a: stop
e: i bet he cried
*a: switching subjects
e: hahaha
e: fine
hrm so. what does that mean. Does it mean thatt he wants me to go but is hinting that i shouldn't ask him?
Ah. so confusing. And he keeps mentioning this guy that I rejected for Homecoming - that's what he's talking about.
What do you guys think?
Oh! Thanks for replying as well!!! 3
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dont confess yet. u might lose him as a friend if it turns out that he never liked u like that. wait or ask him to winter formal and depending on his answer, then confess.
edit/ just read the recent conversation u posted... that was so cute!!! you guys seem perfect for each other. i love the witty dialogue. _ he sounds so mature. =)
anyways, it seems to me that he's hinting you TO ASK HIM to winter formal or else he wouldn't keep bringing up the subject about who u're going to go with or why u rejected that other guy. i suggest u be subtle and maybe suggest if he wants to go with u to winter formal. =) best of luck. keep us POSTED!
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hahah aw thanks for such a fast reply som3body_somewh3r3!
He really is something different. He's not the A&F Hollister type but more down to earth. Haha I guess what you'd call an AE guy but...lets his older sister and mom shop for him there.
We talk about politics and philosophy and I'm often amazed by his understanding of his surroundings. He really is a brilliant guy. Very mature indeed.
So this Winter Formal thing....I dont' know....he's told me, and I quote, Dances make me insanely umcomfortable and guilty. I dont' know why he said guilty, maybe because if he took a date, he'd be too shy to dance with her.
And he's not exactly really good looking or the guy that girls swoon over or think he's cute. But I think he's cute (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Hahaha. It's really his personality that won me over.
And this is what I mean by him being very different. He likes to talk about politics and listen to the Beatles and doesn't like going to dances. But he's in the most prestigious frat on campus. He told me he joined that just so he'd have a social life aside from his overwhelming academic and extra cirricular life.
Hm.....this is really hard. If I knew that he wasn't so insanely uncomfortable about dances, I'd actually ask him. Hey, it's senior yearr! Carpe diem, no? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
but...hahah it's that little piece of information that keeps me from asking him.
som3body_somewh3r3 And I totally understand what you're saying about losing him as a friend. If I can ever prevent that from happening I really would - even if that means that I have to keep my feelings inside. He's my pillar of strength and trust. Surrounded in the world of politics where hardly anyone is genuine, he's my most trusted confidant. And you can imagine how seldom having a confidant in the political scene is- trust no one right? They're all out to get you. But this really isnt the case bceause I've learned that he really does trust me.
So (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Hahah I felt like I just went in circles - hey, even squares and parallelograms.
We'll chat more tonight, I'll def. keep you guys posted!
Thanks so much for replying and reading my weird posts (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
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he sounds like the guy i like =] cute in his own way and mature for his age. you guys are a match made in heaven, i just know it. i'm getting the vibe that he has a thing for u, ., definitely go for it.
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i read the convvo..
and yes..
i totally think he is hinting for u to ASK HIM to go with u!!
omg.. that was such a good opportunity for u to ask
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alright gals...
so I brought up the subject again....
him: ok
him: well this is a terrible way to ask
him: but would you like to go w/ me to winterball then?
me: yeah (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
him: :]
him: yay
There you goo (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) Ah hahahaha what a night.
I completed my college entrance essays and I got asked to winter formal.
Live is pretty cool...
Thanks for reading my posts, it really pushed me to bring up the subject again.
I'll keep you guys updated! Thank you so much!!!
3 !!!
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omggg i knew it!! thats soo cuteee. yay a happy ending. =D
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awwwww
you'll have a chance ^-^, sounds like he's chasing you too.
Don't give up and when you feel like time is ready, open how you feel to him ^^
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that's so cute (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
from the conversations you've supplied, you two seem perfect for eachother!
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ask him to the dance. i'm sure if he likes you as a good friend, then he won't reject you.
as for the relationship, i'd find out more about how he really feels about it before you confess (since you said you know for sure he doesn't want a relationship).
also, remember that you're a senior, which means you'll be going to college while he's still in HS. the difference in status WILL make a difference (no matter how mature you say he is) & you should consider all consequences. you WILL meet plenty of other great guys once you go to college, and this may make a difference in the future. so think about this carefully.
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Thanks for the replies, they made me smile (IMG:style_emoticons/default/biggrin.gif)
mickey012 I totally understand what you're saying - and I'm warry about that as well. I appreciate the heads up and warning. It showed me that, to some degree, you care about me. Hhahah so cheesy! * hides But yes, thank you so much for the advice. It has been taken to heart.
I'm the let-it-blossom-itself type of gal. So, I'm going to let the current take me. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)
So....um. I've been feeling all jittery inside all day. This is soooo weird!!! It's like we totally just stepped out of our comfort zones (Business.......sphere... I suppose?) So it's really just freaking me out hahahha. I don't know how to act so I'm trying to act normal. Ya know, play it cooOOOl. But I'm feeling weird...but a good weird. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif) I guess it'll tell me if we can interact outside of the business sphere or not...
Keep you guys posted 3
