Question:
Would you be okay knowing that your friend is always texting you gf/bf??
How would you feel if it was done behind your back??
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My situation: My boyfriend's friend has recently just started texting me a lot. (he's always been friendly and excited to see me) He got my cell phone number from my boyfriend (why? I don't know). I know that my boyfriend's with him when he texts me because he told me so. But the thing is that during all of this, my boyfriend hasn't made much contact with me. (He texted me once, I texted him back - no response). I know that this isn't normal, but I don't really understand what's going on either... Why is he suddenly talking to me so much and my boyfriend is barely talking to me at all? I don't know if my boyfriend knows that he is texting me... he probably does? I have nooo idea.
I asked a guy friend about it and he said he thinks that my boyfriend's friend likes me. But I don't want to jump to conclusions either.
I think they are somewhat close friends too...
EDIT// maybe i should mention this at the top too.
my boyfriend has been progressing getting more and more distant. (i could be thinking too much - but this is how i feel) i dont want to say he's ignoring me but everytime i called him lately, he doesn't answer (calls back later) and he doesnt respond to text messages very fast - it takes at least an hour to get a reply. it didn't used to be like this. it's kind of gotten to the point where i don't even feel like his girlfriend anymore.
and yes, i know i need to talk to him about it~ (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) i plan to very soon.
EDIT #2// I talked to him about it... and he knew that he texted me the first time he did it but didnt know of the other times. He said he does this to everyone so~ No worries??
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Wow...that sucks. Your boyriend isn't jealous or anything? wow...in all honest truth, damn, that sucks...um...for me, i'd talk to my boyfriend first i guess...*shruggs*
I wouldn't be really happy if my friend constantly texted my boyfriend and especially if she were to be doing it behind my back--I'd be very upset and probably hate her forever (& maybe him, depending on the situation). But yea, um...Honestly, I would probably talk to my boyfriend about it first, but I wouldn't automatically assume that his friend likes me (in your situation).
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Talk to the boyfriend!
From what you wrote..it doesn't seem like you communicate much with him.
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I say you talk to your boyfriend about it. If he doesn't know, then the guy friend probably likes you. That's like the weirdest thing. Your boyfriend's not jealous? I say that he doesn't know about it. I don't think you should be texting his friend, unless he REALLY knows about it and is perfectly fine with it. Also, another reason you shouldn't; you might fall for him..who knows.
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Talk to the boyfriend!
From what you wrote..it doesn't seem like you communicate much with him.
Yeah we're both busy with school and stuff,
but lately he has been becoming really distant...
he's always tired for some reason and can't talk
or something like that.
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I wouldn't like it.
helllll no man.
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id hate it if my friend texted to the guy i liked
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id feel like B slapping that person (jk)
but yeah id be prety pissed off
its best you him how oyu feel...
or else you wont get the chance at all _
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Yeah we're both busy with school and stuff,
but lately he has been becoming really distant...
he's always tired for some reason and can't talk
or something like that.
Get his attention. Regardless if he's tired. From what you said in this thread. I'm guessing that maybe your bf's friend has an interest in you.
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if you feel like his friend should stop then tell him to stop. it's pretty weird. i wouldn't like it very much if my friend text my boyfriend all the time. and what's weirder is youre boyfriend not texting or calling you at all. talk.
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if he's not responding to your text and not
anwsering him the phone
then go and talk to him in person
and tell him how your feeling right now..
so he'll know..
and i think your bf's friend likes you?
but who knows?
but if i were you i would go and talk to my boyfriend
in person.. the only way to get a message across to a person
that never responds to a text or call...
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OMG!! i am in the same position as you..
my story is that his friend got my number from somebody.. but i know it's not from my bf.. neway he start txting me and calling me,, when he do that, i immediately told my bf.. then he told me how the friend like me or sumthing and then couple of months later, my bf told me that his friend told his other friends that the guy and i are a couple.. so since then i ignore his text and call without any warning... and my bf become very jealous and now he told me to stop answering his friend.. what a great friend right??
in your story, just tell him everything and ask him how do you feel and what he want you to do.. and tell him how you feel about this situation..
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there's a possibility that he knows that his friend likes you and trying to be the better person and..giving you up?
but like everyone else has said. talk to him
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what are you waiting for?? huh? you MUST talk your bf about it... it doesnt go any further if just ignoring it or not doing anything to save your relationship with your bf.. if you feel uncomfortable about that friend of your bf or you have feeling that your bf is jealous about it ..CUT IT OFF! if i were on your case i cant live a single day not asking my bf whats the matter .. relationship is about 100% communication and being 100% sensible about your partner .. if he is making some space for both of you .. or if you feel that hes avoiding you then ask him what he wants.. then make a MOVE!!!!!!!!!
i hope it would help you ..sorry if i may sound quite aggressive or whatever... i just dont want any GF become like a trash ok!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)
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maybe your bf lost interest in u..
and he found out his friend was interested in u..
so he was trying to get his frd and u togehter..
thatz y his frd is alwayz texting u...
so while all this is happening..
your bf can jus sit back and relax...
and oneday u will end up liking the frrd back..
and he can break up with u.. with a twist...
or maybe im just thinking too much...
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what are you waiting for?? huh? you MUST talk your bf about it... it doesnt go any further if just ignoring it or not doing anything to save your relationship with your bf.. if you feel uncomfortable about that friend of your bf or you have feeling that your bf is jealous about it ..CUT IT OFF! if i were on your case i cant live a single day not asking my bf whats the matter .. relationship is about 100% communication and being 100% sensible about your partner .. if he is making some space for both of you .. or if you feel that hes avoiding you then ask him what he wants.. then make a MOVE!!!!!!!!!
i hope it would help you ..sorry if i may sound quite aggressive or whatever... i just dont want any GF become like a trash ok!! (IMG:style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif)
the reason why i havent talked to him yet about it is because
we are both on thanksgiving right now and i want to talk to him
about it face-to-face~ calm downnn haha~
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aww, wow, ugh, hmm. yeah, i would kinda work this situation out with your bf. kinda talk things through, you know. bleh, im not good at giving advice.
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hmm i think that you should talk to your bf about it, i just think that it's kind of weird that your friend just starts texting your bf a lot.
