Question:
We all know how guys think that we; girls are so unpredictable and hard to understand (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif) .
A lot of my guy-friends asks me what to do during a date (especially on a first date)
We're not talking about signs of attraction here, but a simple Do's and Don'ts during a date
Yes it is different with different girls. Considering so many girls here in soompi, why don't we try to get the guys to know at least what we think is acceptable and non-acceptable on a date (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif) .
You can start by:
1. Places to go; places not to go
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
feel free to add anything else (IMG:style_emoticons/default/wink.gif)
girls are not so complicated anyway...
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1. Places to go; places not to go with me i could care less bcuz it's the thought that counts. but um. normally girls would say no mcdonalds/fast foods = = it's disrespectful and cheap
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy) style determines individuality and personality. um. i'm turned off by certain styles soo.. it's up to you to find what your SO likes
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date) um idk i'm not a fan of gifts really :x i like them spontaneously(sp?)
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget) don't..take her to foods she might not recognize/has allergies to/fast foods. she might end up throwing up..getting sick..thinking youre cheap (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose) self explanitory. if it's questionable, don't do it
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid) YOUR EXGF/BF. i dno bout you guys but i hate hearing about it UNLESS I ASK. i honestly hate the thought of HOW CAN I COMPARE? all the time. it's annoying. the most annoying feeling EVER.
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc) ask her what she wants, and insist the better option once or twice. if she still says no, wish her well and try again next time.
i dno. thats all i could think of (IMG:style_emoticons/default/happy.gif)
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1. Places to go; places not to go
Doesn't matter at all as long as they're with the person they like
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
Nothing to messy, try to dress normal
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
HMMM, tough. It depends on the girl. But for me, nothing.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
No fancy restaurant
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
Don't LAUGH alot or say anything that you think its stupid stupid.
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
Past relationships
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
Walk her to the door if she wanted.
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You can start by:
1. Places to go; places not to go
a place to go is a place you guys can have fun but still talk.
such as mini golfing.
a place not to go is a place where you guys cant talk and get to know eachother
such as a movie
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
Just dont look like you woke up
all girls are looking for is you showing that
u took some effort to look nice.
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
i dont expect a gift from the guy, but if he picks me up from my house
id like it if he came to the front door, said hi to my parents, and left.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
just not mickey ds or anything like that, unless we ask. even a buffet is nice since its less than 10 for each.
remember, usually a first date dinner isnt about the food, its actually more about talking while eating.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
We all know us girls can open our own doors and get out of the cars by ourselves.
but its the thought of helping that counts. dont just open the door, give her a hand.
dont ever walk infront of her...walk with her, if ur near a dangerous street, walk on the side
of the sidewalk near the cars.
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
dont talk about your past relationships. dont talk about what u did to your ex gf even if she was a b1tch. just dont talk trash
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
damn straight you should help her out of the car, take her to her door. if u dont drop her off and she goes on a subway or whatever, call her cellphone or text her to see if she got home alright. if its late, turn off your car headlights when going up the driveway so u dont disturb her parents if its like 2 in the freken morning.
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1. Places to go; places not to go
i dont really care bout this one
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
somethin casual .___.;; i dont really like it if they're all dressed up x.x
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
haha i dont caree
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
No fancy restaurant ._____.;;
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
(IMG:style_emoticons/default/ohmy.gif) if they keep talkin bout themselves x_____x;; heyy we wannerr talk to!! but they shoodnt be all quiet either x.x it'll be awkward
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
other girls that are 'hot' -.-;;
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
ummmm takee her homee (IMG:style_emoticons/default/ohmy.gif)
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The first thing to start off with is.. to show up on time.
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1. Places to go; places not to go
There's no place not to go because it's what you make of it on the date that can make a not to go place a great date venue.
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
Comfortable is the way to go. Clothes that are breathable. Depending on where you're going, that'll determine what attire is suitable...but mostly go comfortable and casual...sometimes tracks/sweats are the best things to wear on an average date, like going to the park/movies etc etc. But smell nice!
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
LOL I'd say flowers for the girls? It's always nice to receieve flowers for no particular reason but just because also it'll get you out of a lot of trouble if you're late...so bring her some flowers and apologise for being so late and making her wait (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) . But not to everyday because that just kills the purpose, be spontaneous and random when giving gifts, those gifts are the best.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
Fancy restaurants for special occasions like a birthday or an anniversary. Not even though, going to KFC or Maccas is fine with me.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
Be comfortable but not too comfortable like farting on the girl's head or something like that! Be polite and make her feel comfortable around you...don't like make her feel like you're about to POUNCE on her and rape her or something LOL jks!
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
Avoid the exes subject cause that might stir things up...if you're interested in her try to start conversations that allow the both of youse to get to know the other person. Yeah and don't compliment other girls...it's her that you're interested in so keep focus on HER.
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
Yes walk her to the door especially if it's late...if you're catching public transport it's always sweet to catch it with her all the way to her house or waiting with her until the bus comes...like make her feel SAFE and that she can rely on you to be a MAN!
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1. Places to go; places not to go I think movies make a bad first date..you don't even get to talk!...good date? anywhere where food and people are abundant...nothing beats good food and good company.
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy) depends on the place you're going to, but whatever it may be, be clean and presentable and a notch or two more touched up than your usual look
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date) why would you need to get a gift on the FIRST date? I guess a flower or something like that would do.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget) avoid anything that gives you bad breath, heart burn, indegestion, etc. Stick with a place you already ate at and liked.]
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose) just avoid anything gross like picking your nose or burping..also no need to exaggerate the way you act (laughing to loud at a small joke, being overly charming that it becomes cheesy, etc)
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid) topics on the ex should be off limits unless the other person asks..even then keep it minimal and casual but also avoid saying things like i dont wanna talk about it becaus that's just a conversation ENDER. maybe say it in a nicer way and then immediately change the topic to something more light and fun
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc) walk her to the door!
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it's not so wise getting advice off soompi, cuz there's young and old girls here.. chances are, their opinions are very different.. here neverthless, here's mine:
1. Places to go; places not to go
anywhere that offers privacy
NOT: arcades
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
Just looked dressed up for the occasion, but nothing fancy, just casual..
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
Nothing fancy, cuz it'll be an obligation for us to get you guys something on the next date..
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
anywhere, anything is fine...i eat everything..but i don't know about other girls
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
Be polite, act manly
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
Be yourself, say whatever comes into your head...because i dont really like guys who think about what to say, it's kinda fake..
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
it'd be nice if he opens the door for me, but its not an obligation
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1. Places to go; places not to go
Some place FUN. And where you can chat too. Like, bowling, mini-golfing, something like that.
Don't: go to the movies. Once in a while is okay, but not on a first date. You don't have the chance to talk and get to know each other better. And like cystaltears said, no arcades, PLEASE.
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
I say dress according to the weather? I mean, it really does depend on where you're going to be, but make sure you're warm (if it's winter), but not sweating hot. Just dress in CLEAN clothes that are casual, but not something you've worn like a million times and it's tattered.
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
Nothing special. For a first date, I'd be happy to recieve flowers. Try not to win her heart by how much stuff you buy her.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
Yeah it really depends on budget and age. If you're like 15 or under, some fancy restaurants may not let you guys in. And at this age, you're probably working for min. wage, so yeah. But for sure not fast food on a first date, unless you're at the mall together or something.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
Don't act all cocky and stuff. (For guys. Maybe girls?) There's a difference between confident and cocky.
If you have a habit of biting nails, try to not bite them during a date. If your date sees, they'll probably be a little grossed out wondering if you're gonna hold their hand later on.
And just the obvious inappropriate stuff.
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
Don't talk about exes (total given). Or how much fun another date was with another person.
Just talk about regular teen stuff. Movies, music, stuff like that. Make small talk. If you two click, then there'll be no problem. Compliments are always good.
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
I say help her open the car door and walk her to her front door, and tell her what a great time you had. If she's been giving the green light all night long, just give her a peck on the cheek. I think guys should't kiss the girl on the lips on a first date. Maybe that's just me haha. And then walk off to your car. And make sure she gets in her house before you drive off. Like, actually WATCH her go in. It tells her you want her to be safe.
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ohh whee ! this looks fun to fill out :] aahaha.
1. Places to go; places not to go
go anywhere to have fun but is quiet enough to talk :]
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
wear anything that is comfy:] because imagine this: what if a gurl wears heels to a place that requires a lot of walking? ahha. then UH OH.
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
i'd say the guys should buy the gurls flowers but the gurl doesn't have to buy the guy anything. :] ahaha.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
ask each other where they want to eat at, and figure it out together.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
try to control your laughter and such. ahaha. because if you cannot control it, you might snort. lols ! hats wat my friend did.
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
sex. ahaha. don't ask or talk about it. gives the other person a bad impression.
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
sit int he car and hope something sweet would happen would be my opinion :] haha.
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1. Places to go; places not to go
beach boardwalk/pier, amusement park, sounds random but a pretty cute idea is the zoo/aquarium(only if they like animals).
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
Be comfortable and stick to your own style but dress according to the date. Dont just pick something off the floor and wear it, make sure it's freshly cleaned and wrinkle/stain free.
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)Flowers or even just a single flower. IIt doesn't always have to be a rose, if possible find out what her favorite flower is and even just a single stalk of it makes a difference.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
Talk to each other about where you guys want to eat but places like mcdonalds/burger king tend to give off a 'Im Cheap!' vibe, but it depends on the girl.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
DO NOT HAVE CONVERSATIONS ON YOUR CELLPHONE OR TEXT-MESSAGE WHILE TALKING/HAVING DINNER TO YOUR DATE! It is so so SO damn rude if you start texting your buddies during dinner or while shes talking. If someone calls and it isn't an emergency tell them you're busy and that you'll call them back, if you have to say 'wait what were you talking about?' it was too long and you definetly just lost some points right there.
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
No discussing weird habits, ex-girlfriends, how much your car is and how fast it can go, anything that has to deal with how much something cost and how 'pimp' it is, how hot some girl is, video games (unless you know shes a gamer), perverted immature or just disgusting jokes/come ons, if shes listening to your story with answers with a less than enthusiastic 'yeah', 'uh huh' 'really?' or a weak smile YOU'RE BORING HER. Ask her questions instead and talk about yourself when she asks. Oh and the 'So..are you a virgin?' question should be obviously a big no.
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc.
Walk her to her door most definetly, if shes standing a bit closer to you and is lingering instead of going inside its most likely the right time to kiss her. Some girls do not kiss on the first date though so make sure you dont put both of yourselves in an awkward position.
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1. Places to go; places not to go
Somewhere you could talk and have fun at the same time. Anything but the movies.
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy)
Try to look good but don't step out of the type of clothes you would usually wear. Don't completely dress up and still be casual. AND CLEAN.
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date)
I don't think any girl would expect to get a gift on the first date. But if anything, a single flower would be nice.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget)
Go somewhere within your budget that you KNOW has good food - somewhere you've been to before, just so that you're sure. You want to treat her to a delicious dinner, not your random trying of a new restaurant. Fast food restaurants aren't that great either. A lot of girls wouldn't mind going to Mcdonalds or something, but they would prefer something better.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose)
Don't disrespect her or insult her, don't embarrass her, try to ignore phonecalls while you're with her, don't let her catch you eyeing another girl. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif)
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid)
Don't talk about past relationships, don't talk about how good you think a girl looks, don't talk trash about other people - unless she brings it up first.
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc)
It's a MUST to send her home. Walking her to the front door or not depends on the girl - ask her what she thinks. But you should probably walk her to the door no matter what she says.
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lets have something from a guy's point of view for the ladies now eh?
wanna see that they think
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FASTFOOD RESTAURANTS FTW.
be anti-feminist, and make her pay for the meal!
oh, and pick your nose while at it.
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1. Places to go; places not to go - Anywhere fun is fine and where you can talk, such as the beach, etc. Places not to go is the movies. I know it might seem like a safe date but you can't get to know each other well since you can't exactly talk.
2. Fashion (believe me it'll come in handy) - Dress accordingly to where you're going. If he's going to take you to Mickey D's, you'll hardly wear a formal dress.
3. Gifts (if any would consider getting the girl a gift on their first date) - A flower would be nice to give a girl. Nothing too extravagant because she might expect something *better* on the next date.
4. Food (not all of us like those fancy restaurant, but some of us might like it, depends on your budget) - Fast food joints are okay but since we've all tried that, take her to your favorite restaurant and help her decide what to order if it's her first time.
5. Behaviour / habits to avoid (we all know that you're not supposed to pick your nose) - Chew with your mouth close and talk only when you have swallowed your food.
6. Conversation-wise (what subject to avoid) - Ask her things about herself. Afterall, you're trying to get to know her better. Don't talk about your exes and things like you're ready to settle down. (IMG:style_emoticons/default/tongue.gif)
7. After the date (i.e sending her home,get out of the car or just wait at the car, walk her to the front door, etc) - You should send her home and maybe open her door. As if walking her to her front door, if she lives in a bad neighborhood, you probably should for safety reasons.
