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okay..... this is my first bf ever ... and the reason i got with him was because he liked me for who i am (not for my looks) and has a great personality and all but i didnt really like him at first but i decided to try it out cause i wanna give him a chance cause he is such a great guy... well today was the first time ever that we hung out ... all alone and i ono why.. i dont feel that connection and that click u have... i suddenly feel like breaking up with him or something .. or i ono.. since this is my first time having a bf.. i think everything is too much, one minute i like him, another minute i dont really like him.. i have so many mix feelings .. plus he is my first kiss X_X but i ono .. have any of u guys went through this ? and he is like falling heads over heels for me .. and ughhh ... i ono if it is the clingyness.. but i ono.. plus he is already saying he LOVES ME. omg
plus i lied to my mother for the first time today... about having a community service but i really went and hung out with him .. plus i feel so guility cause i 3 my mother to death and lying to her .. for the first time today ... i felt so bad .. i feel like crying ... sighs
please no rude comments. i just want some advices
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how old are you?
maybe you're just not use to it yet, give it some time.
and as for the lying to your mother..well there's going to be in a point in your life where you're going to have to lie to your parents. but don't too it so much. haha.
hoped i help? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/phew.gif)
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if you don't feel the spark then it's time to move on and find someone else that you do have the connection with. don't settle and be with him simply because he's a great catch, it's not fair on his part. trust me, he's not the only great boy out here.
and why did you lie to your mom? are you not allowed to date?
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im 17 yearsold. i kno. old X_X
i lied to my mother because i cant date.
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55 ppl read it but only 2 ppl reply? AH please help
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ur 17 and you still live by ur mommies rules so good? wow. im shocked. im younger and i lied to my plenty of times. nehow i hate her.
it's acually ur choice, you decied to brake up or not brake up. we cant really help you. sorry, but best wishes.
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(IMG:style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif) aww.
u sound soo cute and goody goody..
your 17 already..
dont gotta worry about lying.. its natural and normal..
serisouly.. i dont think u like that guy.. u just like the fact that he likes u..
uhm.. and u got with him when u had no feeelingz..
so yah.. that explains everything...
do what u want.. but DONT LEAD HIM ON..
since he is falling for u.. and u feel practically nothing..
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well by being with him, he thinks you like him. and its kind of unfair on his part because he puts in all of his love and time for you but you can't do the same. it'll only hurt both of you more if you keep this going. you're with someone you don't really want to be with and he's with someone who doesn't return the feeling. i say, break up. he's gonna find a girl and you're gonna find a guy. so yeah..
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yeah, i don`t think you like him either... when you got with him you didn`t like him to begin with and i think the part where you say you like him at times, i think you just like the fact that he likes you.
and if you feel so bad about lying to your mom, maybe you should tell her... of course, she could get really mad and then you would feel worse ._______.
uh nvm.
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i went through that this year. i think i wasn't ready, but i don't know.
i eventually broke up with him. and i'm glad i did because i realised some things about him that i didn't like. plus i didn't want to hurt him anymore because i kind of grew apart and he becoming more in love with me.
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woah. that sounds so similar to my situation when I was around 13-14. I wasn't allowed to date either and had to lie to my mom about my boyfriend. I was smitten because he was so sweet to me and I liked the feeling of being admired like that. He was also my first kiss but my alone time with him felt weird. I liked him as a person but then I didn't feel that spark. He, on the other hand was also head over heels for me and it was overwhelming. He was taking things way too seriously and way too fast. I dont think I was ready to handle something like that so I eventually broke it off with him...you have to be honest for your sake and his.
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17 is not old . i am way older than you (that doesn't make me a grandma and i refuse to be called old LOL)
anyway...i think most of the girls experienced this. i know i did.
and the reason is so simple. I'm not into him.
I've learned my lesson and not go out with any guy that i don't really interested to. It wastes my time and in the end i have to hurt the guy by breaking up just like that.
My experience...i went out with this guy, the next day i already want to break up with him. He was nice, and had done a lot when he went after me.
Breaking up with him isn't easy since it seems that i'm just fooling around with his feelings, when i actually didn't.
I stayed in the relationship for 2 months...then i can't take it anymore.
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lol 17 aint old
but yeh, after 1st date and he already says he loves you (IMG:style_emoticons/default/crazy.gif)
anyways if you wanna break up with him, you should break up sooner not later, cause he would be hurt even more if you wait for a while. It sounds like you pity dated him anyways, so i guess you dont really like him, no point dating some one you dont click with. HTH
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umm i had a thing, where i thought i liked someone a lot, went out with them, and found out it was lust. _ but you should brake it off if you constantly don't have feelings for him. 17 and you never lied to your mom? o_o
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i use to feel the same way about my ex bf also.
i would like him one day and not like him the next, its weird
i guess you can say it just was never ment to be.
you gotta be with someone that you actually like everyday lol (IMG:style_emoticons/default/sweatingbullets.gif)
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You're not old at all. I'm 18 and just got my first bf and my first kiss..all in less than a month hehe. I didn't feel the spark for him at first, but the more I got to know him, the more I ended up liking him. So, I would say give it a little more time and time alone and if you still don't feel anything for him, break it off..
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17's not old, don't feel bad about it.
I'm 19. I still listen to my mom.
That's why I'm allowed to date, because I'm good about it. lol.
I had the same feelings with my first boyfriend.
Let me put it this way: you can't learn to love someone.
If you really don't feel anything, then move on.
Don't settle for the nice guy; I know it's tempting.
Wait for the guy that you know for sure you have that connection with.
Yes? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/smile.gif) ?
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17's not old...you're not even out of high school yet. i'm sure if you rationalize with your mom, she will learn to understand that you're growing up and it's time for you to experience what it's like to have boyfriends.
as for your current boyfriend, i would suggest that you break it off with him if there really is no chemistry. it's possible to learn to love someone, but why do this to yourself when you can find other guys that you can really connect to? keep him as a good friend because he really appreciates you as a real person if you can though... ^^
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Haha 17's not olddd!! And don't worry you're not weird for having these feelings....it's like the story of my life (IMG:style_emoticons/default/dry.gif)
Definitely end it if you already know you don't feel any chemistry. Holding out or hoping that you'll like him more as time passes never works and it'll just get messier as you go.
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ugh that happened to me
and i just broke it off wit him
he was getting so overbearing -o-
