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some of my friends believe that there's no point in dating someone/continuing dating someone if you don't see yourself marrying them. I mean I guess if you're getting older and you're ready to settle down, I agree with that statement but I'm still a young college student, my mind is not on marriage yet. I think dating is all about the experience and figuring out what type of person you are compatible with.
Let's get some other points of view.
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yea i would
the point of dating someone is for companionship
it isn't to find a potential husband/wife
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I wouldn't
I mean, dating is to get closer to someone that you could see yourself getting married to. If not, what's the point? Just getting him to buy you stuff? Experience?
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to me -- i think dating is just to find out what kind of ppl u connect best with -- and that will help you get closer to the marriage stage
most of the ppl i know in relationships don't realli see their bf or gf as a husband or wife but maybe as you get to know each other -- they will... i think it'll just take time
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yeah.. i don't see the point of dating when ur not planning to marry them..
i mean whats the point of getting to know someone.. then losing contact with them, it would be endless cycle of meeting new people.. and everyone is similar to each other.. it'd be the best to find the one and only.
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same, i dont see the point in bother dating someone when you arent planning to marry them.
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dating only with the intentions to marry that person kills the whole relationship. half of all relationships are wondering where things are going to lead to and end up.
you cant know what good is unless you've experienced bad. and vice versa.
it's ignorant to believe that you should only date to find a prospective marriage candidate, because then you make yourself vulnerable and only open to one person. you dont know if the relationship is a good one or a bad one, because you have no prior experience to judge it against.
it's like as a child, tasting just one kind of food and saying that its the best food in the whole world, and deciding to eat just that.
it just makes no sense or logical reasoning.
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it depends on how young you are & if you want a serious relationship
in your teens it's fine to date someone you don't know if you're going to marry because most of the time you're too young to know that
if you're older and not in a serious relationship, then it's okay too.
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How do you expect to find the right person w/out knowing what does & doesn't work, not to mention the type of partner, habits and qualities you actually want; no experience = expect a higher % at divorce.
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you date for experience. nothing like that should be planned so ahead, just let it come as is.
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some people want to have lives of their own before they settled down and get married
relationships give you experience so you'll have something to compare other relationships to, and know what to expect or what to look out for in the future
For example if you date person type A and find out you're really compatible with that person, you'll probably want to find someone who has similar traits as that person when you decide to settle down
And on the other hand if you don't get along with that type of person you know what to avoid in the future
Alot of people who get married to the first person they date never get to see what it's like to be with other people..but hey if you don't like variety and enjoy missing out go ahead
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yes. well it really depends on your age. if you're a high schooler, you're probably not thinking about marriage. and some you date cause you like them but you know it's not gonna last forever. and you might date more than one person before you marry. and if you have a purpose of marrying, things might not work out, how it works out determines if you're getting married. but not every person has a goal to marry that person when they're going out.
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It's the only way to practice weeding out the gold diggers and dead beats. If I could build me a perfect mate, I'd enter all my wishes in a computer and print her out in beautiful 3D, then again if that really can be done, there would be a law against it.
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the point of dating someone is for companionship
You can get a friend for companionship.
Plus they last longer.
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how would you know you dont plan on marrying if you dont know them first? you never know who your going to marry.
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how would you know you dont plan on marrying if you dont know them first? you never know who your going to marry.
yup, what i was going to say.
you have to get to know him/her better by dating him/her before you decide that he/she's the one.
you cant just skip the dating part.
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I would date someone who I don't plan on marrying.
I knew I would never marry my ex, but we still went out.
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dating is for experience and companionship...
i never think about marriage with any of the gurls i dated..
except one... *sigh*
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that's kind've thinking a little too far ahead, isn't it?
you date and like someone for the moment, if
you know what I mean. Whatever happens happens.
How would you know you wouldn't end up marrying
that person?
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Yeah, why not? lol.
It's not all about a race to finish.
You never date anyone at this age with the intent on marrying them 8 to 10 years from now.
I agree that when you're older and need to settle down, then it's a more crucial decision, but you mentioned you were still in college and very young, so yeah, go ahead and date. It's all about compatibility.
Plus, you never really know about the whole marriage thing. You might just meet someone, really hit it off, and just date. Then, before you know it, 5 or 6 years down the road........lol. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Basically, I say go for it.
