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I had a boyfriend. He broke up with me because of his family (so he said). After that he wanted me to give him time to work on his family, hoping they'd allow us to get married.
My question is: does he love me or not?
Because he broke up with me, I feel he doesnot love me. If you love someone, you will not break up with them.
But then if he doesnot love me, why he wants to get married with me and will try to talk to his family.
This part confused me.
What you guys think?
If you were me, what would you do?
Will you give him time to work on his family and staying officially broken up with him. I feel it's unfair to me being his nobody waiting around ... you know what I mean?
I do love him and I do want to marry him. But I feel very confused about the fact he broke up with me. This part really hurts me and makes me feel he doesnot love me and it makes me feel he doesnot respect our relationship. To me, when you break up with someone, you shows you don't love that person and you have no appreciation/respect for the relationship.
Please help and Thank you.
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i dont see why he cant work on his family and ask for marriage with u while u 2 are still together....
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i dont see why he cant work on his family and ask for marriage with u while u 2 are still together....
I wonder the same thing & got no answer!
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^ than itz quite obvious that he is leading u on..
u should just give it time n move on..
if he really loved u.. he would stick by u and take u along to see his parents to discuss the marriage and such...
hes just breaking up with u.. while giving u half hope..
he probably used family as an excuse to break up
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indeed. He's just leading you on. What's the difference anyway???
let's break up...but i really wanna marry you
wanting and doing is a whole lot different. Wanting to marry you doesn't mean that he really going to marry you.
Just be careful of that...don't get your hopes too high on this guy...might as well forget about him.
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How old is he and how does he get his money? Why do I ask? What strange hold does his family have on him? Sometimes it's better to be disowned by one's own family and start anew. Better yet, don't feel bad because if his family is calling the shots now, guess how much more painful it would be if you are married now?
So the question is not ...Does he love me or not? but rather who is wearing the pants him or his family?
If his family is calling the shots, do you mind playing second fiddle so to speak in the relationship? (IMG:style_emoticons/default/blink.gif)
Or is this just a case of his family expects him to go to college?
If it smells fishy, if it looks fishy then somthing fishy is going on.
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maybe he just needs time to think it all over & he doesnt want involvement at this time..
but the questins being asked up there, i'm wondering too..
why cant he still think about it and still be with you?
i think the best would be to ask him about it and talk.
one of those 'we have to talk' moments.
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^ than itz quite obvious that he is leading u on..
u should just give it time n move on..
if he really loved u.. he would stick by u and take u along to see his parents to discuss the marriage and such...
hes just breaking up with u.. while giving u half hope..
he probably used family as an excuse to break up
yeah i agree.
and the most most most important thing ever is ur future!!!!
NEVER waste ur life on waiting unless you know it's worth it!!
right now it doesn't seem as if he has a better reason why
you should still wait for him
do what you think is best for you!!
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hmm... if he really loved you. he would stick by you.. but maybe there's a reason for it? ask him, talk to him.. good luck. i don't think you should jump to conclusions too soon..
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Yeah.. I don't think it was right for him to leave you wondering like that. Be careful with this guy. I'm just saying guard your heart until things get cleared. Like alcyone said.. there's a difference between wanting and doing. I want to marry you and I will marry you are very different things.
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If you think it's ufair for you to be his nobody while he tries to work things out with his parents... then maybe you don't really love him. If you're waiting for him to work things out with his parents, he's still thinking about you. If that's so, then I don't think it's unfair to you.
Yes, he loves you... if he doesn't love you, then he would never try to convince his parents.
[sorry that sounds a little harsh]
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he loves you.
never think negatively.
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he is not leading u on. he needs his time to deal with his family, obviously his family doesnt like u and it wont help the situation right now if u are still with him. im sure he loves u
